Keep being worried about uncertainty. What can I do ?

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I keep having these ridiculous worries about my health when I don't have any underlying conditions and in my early 30s. I've been lately worrying about having a heart attack in the distant future (10 years). I keep reminding myself of my dad having his mini stroke when he was 48 and my nan has diabetes and has had several heart bypass operations. I do remember a guy who worked for my company who had a heart attack at 33 and ended up in a coma and is no almost brain damaged because of it. I keep being told over and over that a heart attack by my parents mainly that at my age is uncommon and there is no need to worry as I also don't smoke, don't drink, don't eats lots of junk etc. My mum smokes at still at 60 has still not had a heart attack. But still these thoughts persist.

I keep searching to find out what my risks are and I still get quite freaked out because even though there is no universal time in which heart attacks happen. They nearly happen to those in their 40s, 50s and so on. In the US they say you are more at risk if you're over 45. On a British Heart Foundation website it tells those in their 40s to check the heart and may recommend those in their 30s to check as well. Even though age is just a number I always look at them and think they are "starting points" for age related health problems no matter if you are unhealthy or healthy. But I was told in an attempt to reassure me that not every person in their 30s and 40s on this planet collapses from a heart attack the moment they hit that decade. My mum's partner is 43 and so far has never had a heart attack.

I think you realize that the problem is your worry and not the actual risk of a heart attack. Anything can happen, which is the very reason not to worry about it, because you don't know what bad things might happen to you, and none might, or not for a very long time. None of us knows. Worrying about things doesn't prevent them from happening (beyond taking basic common-sense precautions), nor does having worried in the past make the thing any easier to deal with once it happens, if it happens.

It's not easy to stop worrying, and you might have to see a therapist about it, but worrying is not helping you and it's making you a nervous wreck. What helps me is realizing I have to give up control and that I cannot know or choose what will happen.