Why does it seem like everyone is having kids but me ?

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I know I am not the only one and other people will keep telling me that but I still can't help feeling that I am. When I see people I once recognised from school, college, uni and so on revealing they now have a family of one or two children, it makes it see like they have all moved on and here I am feeling like I haven't changed much. It makes me feel I've wasted my time because I wasn't friends with these people long before they had kids and were still free and single and going out a lot and now probably have no time anymore to go out and be as social as they used to. I even feel like someone younger than me wouldn't be interested in me because I'm older.

I have babies...little fur babies. I don't think I'll ever have human babies because of my unnatural intolerance to pain.

Even most of the people who don't have human babies have dogs and cats as an explicit substitute for having human babies.

Having babies has no correlation with maturity, responsibility, or success.

I've met people with clear "buyer's remorse" about having children. Not one oopsie; multiple kids.

Many people have children irresponsibly i.e. their life lacks the stability and financial security to properly raise a healthy child, or despite the likelihood they will pass on serious health conditions to their children. I knew someone who kept trying to get pregnant with her husband despite having repeated miscarriages. There are women in their 40s who still want to have their first biological child despite the increased chances of an unhealthy child at that age.

People in the west and in Japan and China are having fewer children that at any time in history.

People are waiting later to have children.

All pressure you feel is self-imposed.

You need to take care of your own sh-t.