Feel unable to enjoy myself outside with envy in my head

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chris1989
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06 Jul 2023, 12:33 pm

Went for a walk down to my local town for about an hour in the nice sunshine but started getting creeping thoughts of feeling like people were looking at me and envy of people down there many of which looked probably younger than me (teens and twenties) because I seem to feel like they doing things a lot more than I did. It didn't help either when I saw a guy walking down the road with his muscular physique showing off. I obviously haven't got a physique like that and if I did I still wouldn't take my shirt off because of the consequences of sunburn.

It made me feel like I've wasted my life because I wasn't 10 years previously feeling passionate about looking muscular and wasn't always going out with friends in the summer sunshine as I have few friends. I felt old at 30+ with everyone younger around me and feeling my chances of being muscular, attractive and free are "gone". That sounds ridiculous but that's how it feels to me right now.



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06 Jul 2023, 3:48 pm

It doesn't sound ridiculous, I think we all feel that way sometimes. It's hard to shake that feeling, but it's not good for any of us to always be comparing ourselves to other people. I try to keep in mind that there is always going to be someone who is better off than I am and also someone who is worse off. Most people are somewhere in a middle ground.



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06 Jul 2023, 4:40 pm

*Hugs for Chris*


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