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firemonkey
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05 Jul 2023, 10:47 pm

My brother was told in the 2nd week of May,by our oldest niece, that my father had 3-6 months left.Heart and liver failure. As soon as my brother knew he told me. My sister had known for quite some time how things are. I was angry and very sad. There was a sudden rapid decline on Tuesday. He has hours to a few days left. My sister video called me. I spoke to my father. He couldn't talk , but there were little non-verbal signs that he heard me, and was pleased.

He's 93. He's had a good life. That doesn't make me feel less sad though. Perhaps that's silly.



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05 Jul 2023, 10:53 pm

It doesn't matter how old you are, losing a parent is bound to be difficult.


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05 Jul 2023, 11:50 pm

I'd be weepy too. That's nothing to be ashamed of firemonkey.

Sending you hugs for the days ahead.


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06 Jul 2023, 12:17 am

My sympathy for you and your family.


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06 Jul 2023, 12:34 am

Thank you all.



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06 Jul 2023, 5:06 am

I'm sorry that you are going through this. You're allowed to be sad. Even though we all know our parents will go at some time when they become old, it's still very hard when it happens.



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06 Jul 2023, 7:18 am

Aw I'm sorry man.


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06 Jul 2023, 11:46 am

My father passed away,10.05 Charlotte time, gently and peacefully in his sleep, as he'd wanted.



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06 Jul 2023, 12:47 pm

Aw that's sad. How are you feeling?


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06 Jul 2023, 12:57 pm

Sorry for your loss FM :heart:


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06 Jul 2023, 12:59 pm

{{{ firemonkey }}}


I'm so sorry for your loss.

My condolences and a big hug too.


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May he rest in peace.


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06 Jul 2023, 1:05 pm

I’m so sorry! :cry:


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06 Jul 2023, 1:33 pm

Allow yourself to feel however you are feeling.

Knowledge that he lived a long and (I presume) happy life might be comforting sometimes, but you're still experiencing a loss all the same. Every person is different, and even one person's reaction to different losses can be different.

Go easy on yourself and reach out to whatever local support you have available.



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06 Jul 2023, 2:30 pm

Thank you all. I feel numb and a little spaced out, which is a bit odd maybe?? He had a long and happy life. Good career. Many years of happy retirement. Many friends. A loving family and stepfamily.



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06 Jul 2023, 2:43 pm

Aw well it's nice you have all those lovely memories to cherish.

It's not odd to feel like that. I think it's actually pretty normal from what I've heard.


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06 Jul 2023, 3:39 pm

I'm sorry for your loss. Your feelings are valid, whatever they may be. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Take care.