Don't always like being lectured to about something

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Despite the glorious sunshine today, I don't feel happy today because I keep thinking about the talk last night between me and my mum's partner also called Chris and kept reminding me about helping out more around the house such as cleaning, cooking and so on because he will be working more hours running a business soon and won't always come back until late at night and tells me too that he is going through a lot lately and gets quite depressed and if I'm not happy and being quiet at the dinner table it makes him uncomfortable and leaves the room for me to talk to mum and feels like I can't talk around him. Mum too has gets tired from work and nearly always has to check on my sister and her son and has been having back pains lately and has worries because my grandad has not been feeling very well lately either and has been having a lot of calls from my nan to my mum about her concerns.

Chris reminds again that I just get sometimes defensive and quite aggressive when he is just trying to help me and then he feels bad as though he has done something wrong when he hasn't and then he and mum will arguing for ages over it like she is telling him off for it when as I said he has not done anything wrong.

Time and again I get reminded that I haven't helped much with the cooking for a while, that I don't always put things back after they have dried after using them or if there is a small spillage for example from the handwash bottle by the sink after having used it in the bathroom and that sometimes I forget to wipe it up. It makes me feel bad because it makes me feel like I am a lazy and untidy person when I really hate mess. But sometimes the reminders about doing things every time Chris brings them up to me just end up making me feel upset about myself and discourages me from doing it because I am upset.

They know I am autistic and yet when I explain to them after we have all been at work or if I am off that I am having a bad day when I don't know how much of a bad day they have had, it will come across to them sometimes like I am not showing any sympathy for others and its always me me me.