Sometimes hate being a 30 year old

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I sometimes think I wouldn't be regretful if I had spent the last decade having lots of sex, travelling to multiple countries, drinking and partying all the time, driving fast cars and so on which I seem to think every 20 year old does or is doing right now. I'm sorry if that sounds like I'm stereotyping but that's how it feels.

I worry that people won't be attracted to be because I'm in my 30s and I'll seem "out of place" if I'm in an environment with people 10 years younger than me. I remember watching something once where they were talking about older people growing up and "acting their age" and there was a guy on there in his early 60s who liked going out to a bar and things and said he enjoys things more than he did in his 20s and 30s and two girls or women in their early 20s were like "It would be "creepy" to see an older guy hanging around in a place full of people our age" and saying "You had a long time to do that." That did make me feel well who are they to judge him what he can or can't do.

I wrote how I seem to find myself attracted to someone 10 years younger than me and that someone said that as long as I am under 35 it's fine but implied that if you are over 35 then to be seeing someone a decade younger would be "creepy".

Women will not disqualify you if you are 30 years old.

They will disqualify you if walk around like a sad sack. You need to buck up. I know you don’t want to hear that because it involves hard work and not an easy way out, but it is true.

There are plenty of 20 year olds that date 30 year olds and older

Not everyone finds the same thing "creepy"

Plenty of people are 30 plus and single. "Life" goes on

If you "hate" being 30, you should try 40

Here are some things that changed about my health after 30:

Itching episodes, 35
Fecal incontinence, 37
Temperature regulation bad, physically weaker and slower, 39
Metabolism slowing down
Having to sleep 2 hours after waking up

And rapidly getting much worse in every way

I enjoy playing golf at 60! If I were thirty I it wouldn't be nearly as fun, since I can't hit the ball very far.
But, now that I'm older, folks are surprised how how well I can hit the ball! No, it doesn't travel huge distances. But, I can make good contact with the ball and get it to go where I want it to go!

When I was thirty folks would still think I wasn't old enough for stuff like buying alcohol. There are issues we all have at any age. Now I look twenty years younger than my actual age!

Your life is not over when you turn 30.

Oh to be 30 again! Never had interest in fast cars, or parties, or drinking, but I'm sure it's a constant of the human condition to wish we'd done things differently. My dream was just travelling through places, preferably with a companion. Still is.

10 year age gaps get a lot less creepy, and/because a lot less significant, as you get older. No one really thinks much of a couple aged 50 and 40. The 'rule', for some reason, used to be half your age plus 7. At 30, that puts your lower limit at 22. I couldn't see myself with someone more than five or six years younger or older, as there needs to be reasonably shared generational/life markers.

As it is, the 'creep' factor depends on the relative maturity/experience of the two involved. Typically, one would reasonably expect a 20 year old to be a lot less mature than a 30 year old, and so open to exploitation.