I can't be around former autistic friend who's toxic

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Over the weekend, I went to a convention and happened to cross paths with a former toxic friend who is also on the spectrum. I will tell you that I cannot handle being around him at all without getting very upset. He doesn't have to say anything.

The main reason why he's toxic is because he has managed to disrespect me and push my buttons several times. Here's why
1. He has told me and hinted several times that he's closer to being more NT than I am
2. He has used backhanded compliments
3. He's been very condescending
4. He's criticized me on multiple occasions
5. He's also cut me down
6. He one-ups me
7. He minimizes the things in my life

For instance, we crossed paths back in the late spring at another convention and I happened to wear a t-shirt of a favorite anime. Meanwhile, he happened to be wearing a costume. Anyway, he approached me and said, "Hey, you're dressed like Summer_Twilight (Only he used my real name). When we were talking, I asked him what he was dressed as, he was very arrogant. "Oh, you don't know?" When I told him what I was interested in, he kept minimizing me. He just pisses me off

He sounds like he is best off being a part of your past.

Just try to forget him.

I agree with you. I don't see him on a regular basis and nor do I talk to him .

Exactly!

Don't let anyone put you down or minimise you, unless it is family and it cannot be avoided.

Friends should be supportive in general, not critical.

I will tell you what really set me off this time

While he was rude and condescending to me at that other convention back in May, that wasn't why I am so upset. Rather, he made it sound like he's been able to support himself freelancing and doing other odd jobs on the side. Then a few weeks later, I saw that he just got hired at an employment program that hires adults on the spectrum. In fact, I saw this on social media. So, I am not happy with him for that.

I also found out that he had been really disrespectful towards my other friends in thinking he was way more important than they were.