Feeling useless and worthless

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Hi, I’m new here. This is my first post. Just wanted to share with someone how useless I feel.

I’ve always struggled with work and school environments and have not been able to get an education or build a career.

Now I’m passed middle age and still can’t support myself financially.

I’m feeling kind of hopeless, ashamed, stressed, like a failure, depressed and alone.

Not everyone is destined to support themselves financially.

Though this might seem like the responsibility you are pressured to take on, in a capitalist society.

Humans can live quite comfortably in a supported role, so just try not to think about what other people are doing and do what is in your own best interest.

welcome.

i have been on disability most of my adult life so i feel like i can understand.

i go through periods of feeling useless and worthless myself. however i recognise that that is my depression talking. every single one of us is a person of worth. just because your life hasnt turned out the same as anothers doesnt mean it is less. its just different.

im sure you have qualities and skills that are useful and good. the fact that you are able to clearly type out what is going on with you is one of them. not every one has that skill.

Thank you for the comfort blitzkrieg and winters gate.

I understand that, although i also believe people have innate worth regardless of their usefulness. If you are born to this Earth, you deserve to live and enjoy it i think.

^ truth.

I've been on ssdi for a long time now. Sometimes I do struggle with feeling down on myself for not being able to do this that or the other. But on the whole, I know I'm better off not working. My stress levels are lower, I can focus on what I need to do to be okay in my life, my skin, my mind. I can actually enjoy life instead of fighting through it trying to not break down every day. There's something beautiful in living life and not reacting to it all the time. Now if I could just remember that mindset every day. I think it's human though to have down moments. But they are temporary. Everything is.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way now. I hope it passes soon and you can get to embracing things that bring you contentedness in life.

I feel you, OP but don’t have the power to write useful words.

Dondi, you are as valuable as any other human being! don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

Don't measure yourself by other people's expectations (I know that's easy to say). Those of us who did manage to get an education/career can still feel worthless at times for different reasons. Very few people are entirely happy with the way their life turned out. I think a lot of people have goals that they feel they can never achieve and tie their self value to those goals.

Do you have other things that you can do to feel valuable that don't require a regular job or education? For example, any hobbies or projects that you do in your spare time? A lot of people find success in life through non-traditional routes.

What do you enjoy doing? What skills or interests do you have?