How do I travel or go to concerts when I won't go alone?

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As I have mentioned before, I've been to places like Amsterdam, Antwerp, Krakow, Rome, Berlin and most recently Naples and going to these places made me feel like wanting to visit other places I've never been to before but for some reason I don't feel like I can do it on my own as most of the places I've been to, I have been mostly with my dad and my stepmum. I don't know how would cope being on my own.

I love listening to music as well and I have only been to 3 live concerts, my last was in Hyde Park in 2010 to see Pearl Jam. I like many different bands but like with travelling abroad, I still won't get myself on my own to book a single ticket to a music gig or a festival somewhere where a band I listen to is touring. As I said before the last concerts I went to was mainly with my dad and some other family members.

Personally, I wouldn't go to a gig alone. I've travelled alone by plane many times but it's always to visit someone once I arrive. I don't think I'd like wandering around an unfamiliar place all by myself.

Do you really want to travel or do you think it's FOMO again? Are you trying to act normal because you think other people do it? I'm not being critical by saying that, but I'm unclear how badly you actually want to travel for the sake of travel. That would change the answers or advice I'd be able to give you.

The best way would be to go somewhere not too far from home by yourself.
Hang out there.
See how you feel.
Do you get confused, lost or lonely?
Would you be even more confused, lost and lonely in a foreign country?
You could always go on a singles tour.
A few of my friends have done it and enjoyed it a lot, while having the support of the tour guide and all accomodation and travel sorted.
There's always options if you really want to do something.

There's always tour groups. At this point, there's even tour companies that are focused on the ND community.

But, that may be more of a bandage if the problem is wanting to be more independent. Personally, I have done a fair amount of independent travel and so much of that comes down to being prepared. For example having a printed itinerary. Having a hard copy of any addresses in the local languages if you need to get transportation. And having at least some sense of what to do if something does go awry.

Oh, why not?

It's a bit of both I think. I think I probably do try to act normal because I think everyone else is. I like travelling but I don't know if I'd go to all 195 countries around the globe. I went to 4 as a child and been to 6 or 7 so far as an adult. I just get a bit envious sometimes when I see some photos of people, mainly younger, who seem as though they want to conquer the world (by visiting places as many places as possible and putting as many stuff on Instagram on there as possible) as though they are doing it to fill in the gaps of their early lives so that they don't have it empty later on and regret it. Some I see go to places like Dubai, the Canary Islands, some sunny places in Spain, Greece, or Turkey etc and I am not really interested to going to places for sunshine, I like things do with history in other countries. I do quite like the so called Dark Tourism, visiting places where battles, atrocities, disasters etc have happened. So far I've seen a few, like Auschwitz, Pompeii, beaches in France where the D-Day landings took place to name a few.

It sounds like you've traveled quite a bit, more than most people. I don't think you need to worry about missing out.

But if you want to try traveling or going to concerts alone, I agree with Raleigh: start small. Try going alone to a nearby place, or to a small performance of a band at a bar. See if you can become increasingly more comfortable. And if not, then go with your dad and stepmother. There's nothing wrong with that.

I seem to think I might get confused, lost and lonely my being somewhere foreign on my own. I don't know if it's because I'm used to going to places mainly with family and not on my own or that it's completely out of my comfort zone so I don't go abroad alone.

I think I remember I did go to a small music gig outside a pub, then not long after that we saw large music concerts near where I live and in London, where we went to Hyde park to watch pearl jam, the hives and a few other bands but at the time I wasn't alone, the pub gig I saw with mum and her partner and the other concerts I saw with dad.

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