chris1989 wrote:
They are:
- Dying of something horrible sooner rather than later.
- Other people dying sooner rather than later.
- Feeling like time is ‘’running out’’ just because I hit a certain age/time of life.
- Feeling like I’ve missed out on pleasurable activities (nightlife stuff like clubs/bars etc) I don’t really like but feel I have to because I feel other people do it regardless of whether they like or not because it's what I think people of that age do in early life otherwise its as though I haven’t ‘’lived’’ or ‘’made the most of life’’.
- Feeling I ‘’have’’ or ‘’should’’ be ‘’ready’’ to do someth
ing whether I want to or not (examples: marriage, having kids) at a certain point of life (30+) despite not feeling mentally ready for it and not even in a relationship.
- Feeling I’ve missed out on some things I do like as much as the next person like music or travel. I like listening to music at times but I’ve only ever been to 2 or 3 live concerts and feel others have seen many more when I should have seen many more. I also choose not to go alone to these events as I have few close friends who like that stuff and won’t get my parents to accompany me thinking its ‘’not their thing’’. The same can be said about travelling which I have also enjoyed doing but I’ve never done it alone or want to and only with parents.
These thoughts have I have identified as being the ones that run around and overthink in my head.
If you or someone you care about was going to die, it would happen whether or not you're worrying about it right now, so worrying doesn't serve you in any way. Catastrophising and coming up with undesirable scenarios that you have no logical reason to believe will happen is a poor use of your mental resources. If you're worried about the health of people in your life, the best thing you can do is make the most of the time you have with them now.
You seem to look at the "average" life experience and compare yourself to that as if your trajectory needs to be the same. You get to decide what's important and worth pursuing in life, and at what age you pursue it. It doesn't matter that many other people might spend their 20s partying and clubbing if those activities don't appeal to you. You get to forge your own path.
If time running out is a concern, perhaps a good idea would be figuring out what you really want for yourself, and then once you've figured that out, how best to work towards it. A therapist could probably assist with this.
20 Oct 2024, 11:43 am
