HELP ME PLEASE- Advice needed

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Hi guys, it's been a while, how are you all? I'm still going along with life, unable to understand others and alive nonetheless. There's violence referenced below btw.

OK, that's enough preamble, here's my issue;
I became friends with someone a few years ago, it's been on and off, usually when he needed advice or me to give him something. For my part, he is really funny and we can talk a long time before it gets boring, he is very unpredictable and we've been drug buddies too, had fun together, pulled each other out of withdrawals, talked endless crap about it all. It's been mostly a good friendship, beneficial to us both. Now I'm not sure.

He cut up a young guy he said he loved, at the weekend. He was told by the guy's ex, the guy had thought something that this friend didn't like. Stanley to the face, legs broken. He loved doing it, he told me at length how he got off on humiliating him at the same time, stretching it out like a cat playing with a mouse.

I really don't like violence at all, I told him when our friendship started. He says he loves me as a friend and would never turn against me. He said the same about the guy he just cut up.

I don't have many friends (like two other friends in total), they don't know each other so that keeps it simple.

I think my only option is to step slowly away, all the while hoping he's not noticed I'm gone.

When he told me about his violence I didn't believe him. I honestly thought he was making it up. I'm trusting naturally so I make the effort to discard ideas that sound too unlikely. It's a minefield knowing who to trust.

Please help me because I don't even know how this happened.

Am I over reacting?

A great poet once said: Run to the hills, run for your life.

It seems like relevant advice.

a great poet in Iron Maiden was that?

Yes, Bruce is the man.

It's not so much the violence itself as the sadism and delight in violence.

The pressing relevance of this advice considering the circumstances made me laugh.

IMO: The violence addict/rageaholic is unstable; you will walk around on pins and needles because you don't know when he will erupt. I'm sure he will say he would never hurt you. What if you have a disagreement with this person? How is he going to react? Funeralxempire said it best; RUN!

Thanks for the replies. I feel really sad about it. Really really really sad. I knew he enjoyed a fight, but this is different.

You know him better than we do, so if you believe we're not assessing the situation accurately, take the advice with a grain of salt, but if you think you described things adequately and that the respondents understand adequately, consider keeping distance from Mr. Violence.

I'm sorry for your situation and I think he's lucky to have you as a friend

It seems like he is lacking some kind of human quality to have done this and to be also wearing it as if it's a badge of honour

Has he been arrested