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Highly_Autistic
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30 Nov 2024, 7:07 pm

Time is passing too fast. I try to fix my life (despite depression and anxiety). But the effort I put in is not enough, and my mental issues (including autism) slow me down. My life is just not going well. I cant get a software development job. I dont have a car. I need to do too much stuff but cant do anything. Im very smart but dont have the opportunities other ppl have (network, healthy mind, etc). I'm almost 27 but feeling stuck since 10 years ago. My status is not getting any better, even regressing. Its like a free fall. How am I gonna stop this? I get shocked when other people get their lives in order in short time. I hate watching people thrive when Im living way below my potential



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30 Nov 2024, 9:24 pm

Highly_Autistic wrote:
Time is passing too fast. I try to fix my life (despite depression and anxiety). But the effort I put in is not enough, and my mental issues (including autism) slow me down. My life is just not going well. I cant get a software development job. I dont have a car. I need to do too much stuff but cant do anything. Im very smart but dont have the opportunities other ppl have (network, healthy mind, etc). I'm almost 27 but feeling stuck since 10 years ago. My status is not getting any better, even regressing. Its like a free fall. How am I gonna stop this? I get shocked when other people get their lives in order in short time. I hate watching people thrive when Im living way below my potential


I see people better off than I am every day out at work, their salary may be twice mine. You have to remind yourself, that's them, not you. You are not the same, not clones. So, any comparison is very rough and between apples and oranges at best.

My brother wanted a software development job. I don't see it happening in this lifetime. I had one for about ten years, then burned out. If you want to get into the field somehow, then try tech support over the phone. There are tons of jobs for that.


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01 Dec 2024, 2:30 pm

I know it can be tough to get into the software industry, but have hope. These days there are many different software jobs, in many different types of companies. If you haven’t been successful so far, don’t let it knock your confidence, there is still a lot of opportunity out there because every job & interview is different.



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06 Dec 2024, 2:34 am

i didnt get my life together until I was 30 so you have time



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06 Dec 2024, 10:12 pm

Is anyone really living the life they want? Seems these days everyone is more miserable and done with life than ever.