Feels hard to enjoy life because of pressures

Post Reply New Topic

I'm finding it hard to rid myself of this self imposed pressure made in part by myself and from what I've heard from other people, that because I'm in my 30s I've got stop doing things as though I'm a bit younger and be more serious about life like finding a partner sooner rather than later just because I'm seem to think I've seen others the same age or younger getting married or having kids otherwise it'll be "too late" and people will some how lose attraction to you because you're older.

I remember hearing how there are some older people who got to their 50s and were relieved because they different have to worry about having kids anymore. I'm talking as though I'm a woman with a ticking biological clock but with the same mindset despite the fact that I'm not a woman.

I even seem to find myself envying people younger than me because it feels as though they've got more time to think about and less anxiety about it.

Sorry , understand your urge to move ahead in life .... but lessons in life do not always happen just automatically ...it has seemed to me to be a process of time passing and living life . It is historically known that age can look dignified on men as they get grey..hmm.. women not so much... . So you might have less to worry about on that front.?
But if its a partner your looking for , you might just have to put yourself in situations that might be risky, ( maybe only emotional risky) . But the gains after time could be great.. Hopefully you might have examined yourself and figured out what qualities you can develop to attrack a Partner/ Mate..That would have the qualities you might wish to have in a mate ."Chance favours the Prepared mind" unknown.

I feel the same way. not only am I running out of time to do things (have children, travel, find happiness), but everything that goes wrong is my fault. I'm the burden, I'm the problem. but I'm working on changing those thoughts, accepting myself and where I am in life, not judging or comparing myself or my life to others. it's very difficult, very VERY difficult! I've had 40 years to embed the negative self-abusive ideas I'm trying to transmute. I am still learning and adjusting. you are not alone. *air hug*