How can I stop feeling bad about being a late bloomer?

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Despite being a 30+ year old, I still feel like as though I've got the body and mind of a 20/25+ year old. I appear to be doing things maybe a number of my peers are doing now such as working and driving a car (I didn't start working in a paid job till my mid 20s and didn't pass my driving test until my late 20s) and I didn't start knowing how to use money until I was I think 20. I also keep having this hyper awareness of where I am now and as a result is making me quite anxious at times because I haven't settled down with a partner or had sex and had children by my 30s and I still feel as though I'm not ''ready'' when other peers are experiencing these transitions in life and keep feeling as though I ''must'' do these things regardless of whether I want to or not or even if I can afford it even I hear from some people dissuading me from doing that because because doing things because you ''must'' is just a recipe for disaster or something. I'm finding very hard with these conflicting thoughts in my head.

What I've been able to do is to learn new things.
Every five years or so I learn how to do something new.
Ten years ago I learned to cook. Now I can tell the pizza is done by the way it smells, even when I forget to set the timer.
A couple years I started learning how to play golf.

comparison is a Motherf***er. You've got millionaires envying billionaires

Colonel Sanders made KFC in his late 60s

Our family did something many "rich" people can't afford.
We created a memorial scholarship fund!

It is the sort of money that tears families apart.

Then bloom. Once you bloom, no one will care one whit if you bloomed late. Only people who know you might know you bloomed late, and then they will be happy you bloomed. You can continue to post the same post here twice a day and never do anything about your situation, or you can do something. Go bloom already.