People don't understand my support needs

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I was once told "you don't look.Autistic" by a Dr. I had teachers ignore my IEP because I seem "smart". I have learning disabilities that did impact how I did in school. I was accused of skipping school because I was behind in math. I have a math learning disability. Teachers would also think I should be good at math. Lately I'm judged on my inability to learn things fast.

I do require support with a lot of things. People don't always think I do. I feel judged at the bank etc. I struggle to speak for myself sometimes. I once got judged for having a meltdown in school. I had them all through out high school. Sometimes people thought I was just misbehaving. Id get kicked out of class sometimes. I had no support in high school and I only did once when I was failing a class.

I still have meltdowns and people don't get it. I get overwhelmed. I get upset. Sometimes my reaction is to run from the room. I don't really have them in public anymore. Sometimes I do. I had one at the mall once and on a street. I started screaming at my cousin. I've had a meltdown because I lost a good luck thing .people think they're just tantrums sometimes.

I can't go out alone. I can't take the bus alone. I can't drive. People seem to think I should be able to sometimes..

Yes, that is so true.
Folks don't see you as disabled unless you are in a wheelchair or obviously need some sort of assistive device to get around.

This is so validating. Thank you for sharing. I think I get a similar treatment. I was literally denied an autism assessment by a psychologist because they insisted I couldn't be autistic after they literally said I was neurodivergent. As far as I can tell, some people are just monsters. Evil villains aren't caricatures. They're real.

Sometimes, I get punished on purpose by someone because I "should have known better", my message was misinterpreted, or they insist I meant something nefarious when I tried so hard to be extra nice. How they decided to understand it was my fault, and that means that they are now mandated to hurt me in order to teach me a lesson, ig? All I learn is not to be around them because they are as*holes. It's exhausting and makes me want to stay in my room. Otherwise when I go out, I'm constantly wondering when the next one is. What's going to be the thing that gives someone the requirement to hurt me? Who's it going to be? What's going to be the random punishment? How is this my fault?

As far as I can tell, it seems like other autistics are the ones that are generally safe. Ofc, there has to be some that are jerks, but they seem to be much much less prevalent than with the general population.

That's my long way of saying that even though you haven't told me what your support needs are, if you did, I would believe you and try my best to adjust to how you are. Not accommodate, but accept and collaborate respectfully and inclusively as equals.