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08 Sep 2007, 3:35 am

I consider myself a pretty confident, able, flexible guy nowadays. A bit flawed in certain areas but... ya know... *shrugs*

But there's one problem I just can't seem to overcome without it tiring me out and smashing my confidence: -

ACADEMIC WORK!! !

Does anyone find that this is their major confidence killer? How do you deal with this sorta thing? It leaves me vicious and angry... paranoid, snappy, defensive, shaken, and without any effort smashes my confidence, whereas other stuff has a hell of a harder time trying to do that to me. It's just this sodding academic work.

What do you do to overcome such a barrier, if at all it is a barrier for any of you? It sure is for me.

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08 Sep 2007, 6:51 am

You aren't alone here. It always has been a problem for me. Great grades for as long as I could hold on. I think if I had to do it again, I would go much slower at it. Might not be an option, but might be the way.

Confidance, yeah it did smash mine, however :wink: Over time I saw that is wasn't a failure, I did learn something and a degree is just a piece of paper. A lot of people have them and didn't seem to learn to much. I learn on my own terms now. A lot less stress. And if I want to do graduate level work or higher, I don't have anyone telling me I can't because I didn't do gym 101.

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08 Sep 2007, 7:45 am

I just avoided the whole academic work thing. That's why I'm working for minimum wage in a bar. It's fun, no really.

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08 Sep 2007, 7:52 am

samtoo wrote:

Does anyone find that this is their major confidence killer? How do you deal with this sorta thing? It leaves me vicious and angry... paranoid, snappy, defensive, shaken, and without any effort smashes my confidence, whereas other stuff has a hell of a harder time trying to do that to me. It's just this sodding academic work.

This sounds familiar. It seems that the over-importance that society places on grades causes individuals to overvalue grades at the expense of real learning. In fact, I used to worry so much about my grades that I would have trouble actually doing the work. Now I'm realizing that the grades are not means to an end so much as they are a way to measure my academic progress. Thus, I no longer worry about grades and focus on learning.

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08 Sep 2007, 8:25 am

samtoo wrote:

I barely got out of high school with a 1.8 grade average. thirty years later I graduated from college magna cum laude. We mature later is what I found out.

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