Do you agree this is too much to handle at once?

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Yogamat
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13 Sep 2007, 9:51 pm

Today my husband and I are looking for a new apartment in an area where the rents are high; we have a dog and all my husband cares about is "Will the dog be happy?"
I have a job interview tomorrow.
I was just told this morning that my ex-husband wants child support for our 17 year-old daughter (he just inherited almost half a million dollars and I was injured and haven't worked for over a year).

I can't handle it all. That's why I'm here on WP, trying to forget about the outside world.

Too much at once, yes? Or no?



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13 Sep 2007, 9:59 pm

Yes, it sounds like too much at once. I sympathize, I am in the same boat right now. I am trying to relax and just deal with one little thing at a time before moving on to the next thing (very difficult to do with a child who is like a screaming indoor hurricane). Good luck to you with everything!

(Yes, I'm also visiting WP right now to try to escape from the world and all of it's challenges.)



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13 Sep 2007, 10:06 pm

Yogamat wrote:
I was just told this morning that my ex-husband wants child support for our 17 year-old daughter (he just inherited almost half a million dollars and I was injured and haven't worked for over a year).



I doubt the courts would allow that. Though I look at the world today and wonder WTF is going on. So, meh. I dunno what to say.

Yeah, life sucks sometimes. You'll get through it; we all do eventually. I'm still waiting though :?


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13 Sep 2007, 10:44 pm

Don't know what the laws are like in T minus 10, but could you tell your ex you'll see him in court? If it's like it is down here in Oz your daughter will probably be a grandmother before it even gets looked at.

I was sorry to read your comments to the mother of the 4 year old. I can now see that you're having a bad time of it too right now and I apologise for having bad thoughts about you. Having been judged all my life I admit I'm a hypocrite. Sorry. Her world is crashing around her too and she's looking for help. The last thing I want to do is make enemies in this place, but I was pleased your hubby is sticking up for the dog.

I really hope you get the job! :D



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14 Sep 2007, 1:01 pm

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Having been judged all my life I admit I'm a hypocrite.
I really hope you get the job! :D


What an interesting thing to say!
Anyway, thanks for the well wishes - I need them.
I'm about ready to give up on anything resembling a neurotypically normal life.



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14 Sep 2007, 1:04 pm

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Yeah, life sucks sometimes. You'll get through it; we all do eventually. I'm still waiting though :?


Yeah, I've been waiting a long time. About to throw in the towel and accept that I'll be victimized by all layers of society for the rest of my life, and just bow out of it. Go live somewhere where I don't need to be a part of the type of world that makes people who don't entirely fit in, suffer for it every day. Like an island with no running water or electricity. Or husbands or bosses or exes.



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14 Sep 2007, 3:47 pm

Sounds a lot to deal with at once, yes, especially as having AS seems to predispose us to caving in under less stress than maybe those without can deal with... is that true? I find it so anyway...it is the accumulation of a number of issues that can bring one to a meltdown I have found. The problem is, escaping it all only seems to make it worse as then when it really all erupts, you are suddenly under pressure to sort it immediately.



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14 Sep 2007, 3:57 pm

Graelwyn wrote:
...it is the accumulation of a number of issues that can bring one to a meltdown I have found. The problem is, escaping it all only seems to make it worse as then when it really all erupts, you are suddenly under pressure to sort it immediately.


Yes, the number of different issues that pile up is what becomes overwhelming. My problem is that I can only work through issues very slowly, so by the time I find a way to work through one problem, 20 more problems have been piled on, and so the cycle continues. I am at the point now where it is very difficult to sort out the problems and find a way to manage them without everything getting tangled up into one huge overwhelming blur. And I never like to take a break to do anything 'fun' because that only gets me further behind on unraveling problems which increases the stress.



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14 Sep 2007, 4:00 pm

Boutique wrote:
Graelwyn wrote:
...it is the accumulation of a number of issues that can bring one to a meltdown I have found. The problem is, escaping it all only seems to make it worse as then when it really all erupts, you are suddenly under pressure to sort it immediately.


Yes, the number of different issues that pile up is what becomes overwhelming. My problem is that I can only work through issues very slowly, so by the time I find a way to work through one problem, 20 more problems have been piled on, and so the cycle continues. I am at the point now where it is very difficult to sort out the problems and find a way to manage them without everything getting tangled up into one huge overwhelming blur. And I never like to take a break to do anything 'fun' because that only gets me further behind on unraveling problems which increases the stress.


I tend to be an escapist and as soon as there is a problem, I find myself losing myself more and more in my obsessions and in fantasy, lol, and avoiding facing the problem, thus in the end, something happens where it gets so bad it is a lot harder to resolve and causes triple the stress.



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14 Sep 2007, 5:52 pm

i hate "finding" a place to live, goodluck. :)


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14 Sep 2007, 7:51 pm

Yogamat wrote:
Today my husband and I are looking for a new apartment in an area where the rents are high; we have a dog and all my husband cares about is "Will the dog be happy?"
I have a job interview tomorrow.
I was just told this morning that my ex-husband wants child support for our 17 year-old daughter (he just inherited almost half a million dollars and I was injured and haven't worked for over a year).

I can't handle it all. That's why I'm here on WP, trying to forget about the outside world.

Too much at once, yes? Or no?


YES.

That is all. Oh, wait, no. . . also, good luck, hope it goes better. . .


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