I'm so stressed! I'm dying to do this, but how do I do it?

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Okay, I'm having a hard time finding 6 more people to come live in an apartment with MADDuck, username88, and I... what if nobody ever wants to? How should I go about meeting them with no friends in real life or anything? What do I do? I don't even think they'll be ready to come at the same time!

Why do you want to live with six more people?

Isn't two enough?

Living with 8 people sounds like a nightmare to me.

I mean for safety's sake. I'm a girl, and these are 2 guys I'm planning on meeting. Oh well, I'll have more time to feel them out in public... my concern is that I might have to meet one of them alone (the one that comes up first). Even in a public place I feel like it's risky!

You shouldn't meet people you don't feel safe with (let alone live with them)

But I want to meet them... how can I get to know them in person more? Where will they stay? I guess they can get a place together... I think they're legit-- they look and sound that way-- but I don't know; I've never met them!

A lot of sexual pedaphiles, con artists, rapists, etc all sound and act legitimate, too. That's how Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer
got their victims. Be EXTREMELY cautious!

Don't move in with people you haven't met yet.

That said, I've meet many friends off the net and nobody was a psycho yet. Or not the killing type, anyhow.

Ana, you are an astounding, mind-bending conundrum, you know that? You spend weeks and weeks and weeks pining for folks to come commune with you; you post detailed information about your sexual tastes, and speak frankly about masturbation and other sexual matters; you provide precise information about where you live, what your living conditions are like, your daily activities, what you look like, and what you real name is; you already live at the Y with a bunch of strangers and crazy folk and drug users; if you were to disappear, only your half-crazy mother would even notice... And only now are you becoming paranoid? You live utterly and entirely in the moment, don't you? WHERE is it that you think you could live that could house you plus 8 roommates, and how would you pay for it? Don't get me wrong, I love the way you are, and I'm very happy to have you around here; I called you "nature's magic anti-depresant" one time, and I meant it; but wow, you make my head spin sometimes...!

I think the fact that username88 or MADDuck or anyone else hasn't already come and nabbed you, and taken you away to be chained up as a love slave speaks vaguely well for things. I have the apparent luxury of being a guy and not really being worried about such situations, so I'm really not sure what to tell you. When it comes to humans, there are no guarantees about anything, ever; you could even meet someone in person, get to know him a bit, decide he's nice and OK, and he could STILL turn out to be a Hannibal Lector groupie. If it makes you feel any better, I suppose you're basically in the same boat as pretty much any girl out there who wants to date a guy she scarcely knows, or even one she does. My dad once tried to actually kill my mom, and that was after they'd been married for 10 years! Since you're 19, at least you can mark the pedophile croud off your list of things to worry about. I don't know MADDuck (which is simply to say that I haven't interacted with him at all), but my gut tells me username88 is nominally OK; of course I could be completely wrong; hell, I could even be masquerading as him.

In all, I wish you the best of luck; like others here, you deserve your bit of happiness, and I hope that you find it.

Good fortune,

- Icarus the Serial Meddler

I don't know; maybe it's the antidepressants I take that make me more introverted and cautious! I was so depressed before I would have done anything for stimulation, but now I'm willing to wait awhile, like a month or two, while I get things sorted out where I am, and then I can invite people up to meet them in public.


If there are only those two though, my screening plan won't work so well... because I was thinking of us hanging around in one big group for a few days or weeks until we knew each other better... but on the other hand, you never know so if you don't want to live a lonely life you have to take chances, as Icky said.


What IS paranoid? How far do you have to go to be paranoid?


I DO feel better that they haven't come to get me yet!


I'd LOVE to live with 6 or 8 other Aspies! That would be like heaven to me!


As for the practical stuff, that's in the other thread.

Lol Ana your right this is an interesting thread
And plus I thought you said we were going to hang out with your other friends too? If someone in the group tries to pull anything we will be there to kick his ass.

LOL, MADDuck says the same thing about you. He said he'd be there to kick your ass if you tried anything. That's why I'm hoping to get into the group home, anyway. So that I can make friends there and take them out to meet you in a public place... it would be the best if you both came at the same time!


My problem is that I don't have a backup plan for in case I don't get into the group home.

But the only thing Ill try to pull off is a hug, I hope I dont get my ass kicked for that

I guess I can comfort myself with the thought that if I'm ever alone with you and you produce a gun I'll see to it that I get to poke your eyes out before dying.

.... Produce a gun? Lol whats that supposed to mean?

If you pull out your gun and tell me to lie down on the floor, and then you get on top of me, and I poke your eyes out. What, you gonna wear goggles? Then I'd run immediately!