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Autism/Aspie same spectrum or different condtions?
Poll ended at 20 Oct 2007, 8:20 pm
Same spectrum 13%  13%  [ 2 ]
Same yet different in way 40%  40%  [ 6 ]
Autism different all togather from Aspie 7%  7%  [ 1 ]
Aspie more "normal" side of spectrum 7%  7%  [ 1 ]
One big family..we all have our quirks 33%  33%  [ 5 ]
Total votes : 15

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15 Oct 2007, 8:20 pm

I'm 25 I'm Autistic (anywere from High functiong on a good day to pretty ok on a bad day). I just feel like I don't fit in anywere. If you can understand that. I have my stimming behaviors IE: rocking,handflapping when happy,or just repeating a phrase if I get really stressed out. Most of those done at home or a few times in public when things are really bad. I don't fit in with the NT world because it's hard to get "friends" when people judge you on what you look like IE: "normal" or not. I don't quite fit into the aspie world because I'm not on that level of functioning I guess..as i come to see from the boards (not all just some) seem to split themselfs from autistics. Meaning either aspie or autie but not as a family of one. I'm married to a great NT guy. This saturday is our 1yr anniversy. Im very happy don't get me wrong. I guess im kind of down because I want to make friends I want to have people to talk to and just share idea's or thoughts with but I don't see where I would fit in on the boards on Wrong planet..I have made one great friend here..she knows who she is (thanks your awesome chicka!) :lol:
I'm just confused as to were to begin a cycle of friendships and where I can just be myself...without being told autistic's arent intelligent as aspies or vice versa...
Yet i typed all these and the thing im really trying to say is stuck in my head and wont get out...thats autism for you! HAHA...I hope someone understands what I was trying to say and could lend me a hand or some advice with these mental mess of mine lol


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15 Oct 2007, 8:22 pm

I voted for the second option.

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15 Oct 2007, 8:25 pm

Thanks.. :) ....I dont know whats wrong with me tonight..i guess im thinking to much!! I need to stop thinking..just shut my brain off..i wish i had a little switch...and just click :poof: no more thinking..that would be great....I have to leave you a comment on your myspace I keep forgetting lol...thanks though tim...
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15 Oct 2007, 8:45 pm

Always glad to be of service.

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16 Oct 2007, 6:56 am

Feeling like you don't "fit in" is an Asperger's/autistic thing, i.e., I'm assuming that most people here with an ASD feel like they're different and cannot fit in no matter where they go.

Saying that, not many people are accepting and/or understanding of others, it's a human thing (the disorder doesn't completely define the human after all).

Anyway, hello GizmoGirl,

I'm autistic, "HFA" because I have a normal/above IQ, in reality I'm LFA concerning my objective achievements and milestones, and I probably always will be concerning such (I'm being realistic here). I rock/flap nonstop when overwhelmed (which is quite often out there amongst people), I never even knew I did it till it was pointed out recently; the thing is, people with Asperger's can rock/flap just as much as "us" when they're overwhelmed. "We" had a "genuine" delay in verbal ability, both written and spoken (speech therapy and gentle education can help us immensely), and others like us have a delay in intelligence too.

Autism and Asperger's are very similar in reality, in reality they're probably the same disorder, the labels just place us along different parts of the line of severity.



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16 Oct 2007, 4:37 pm

hey daniel

thanks so much for the info and for the postive words..i dont feel alone now...and if you ever want to chat just PM me...thanks again.. :D


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16 Oct 2007, 5:45 pm

Danielismyname wrote:
Feeling like you don't "fit in" is an Asperger's/autistic thing, i.e., I'm assuming that most people here with an ASD feel like they're different and cannot fit in no matter where they go.

Saying that, not many people are accepting and/or understanding of others, it's a human thing (the disorder doesn't completely define the human after all).

Anyway, hello GizmoGirl,

I'm autistic, "HFA" because I have a normal/above IQ, in reality I'm LFA concerning my objective achievements and milestones, and I probably always will be concerning such (I'm being realistic here). I rock/flap nonstop when overwhelmed (which is quite often out there amongst people), I never even knew I did it till it was pointed out recently; the thing is, people with Asperger's can rock/flap just as much as "us" when they're overwhelmed. "We" had a "genuine" delay in verbal ability, both written and spoken (speech therapy and gentle education can help us immensely), and others like us have a delay in intelligence too.

Autism and Asperger's are very similar in reality, in reality they're probably the same disorder, the labels just place us along different parts of the line of severity.


well said

and the brain is so complex... we don't know what's goin on! even looking at how many different ways a non-neural gene can be expressed (and used in completely different ways)



i do think no one here probably really feels like they fit in very much... and as for anybody, finding friends is a matter of luck and just finding people you dont have to work to interact with :)


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16 Oct 2007, 5:55 pm

Danielismyname wrote:
Feeling like you don't "fit in" is an Asperger's/autistic thing, i.e., I'm assuming that most people here with an ASD feel like they're different and cannot fit in no matter where they go.

In my experience... Yes, fitting in nowhere is true of me.


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16 Oct 2007, 9:07 pm

GizmoGirl wrote:
Thanks.. :) ....I dont know whats wrong with me tonight..i guess im thinking to much!! I need to stop thinking..just shut my brain off..i wish i had a little switch...and just click :poof: no more thinking..that would be great....I have to leave you a comment on your myspace I keep forgetting lol...thanks though tim...
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Reminds me completely of me, excluding the myspace part.


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