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Hello Everyone... I am a 15 Year Old Boy who is skilled at Web design and working on my Mac.I also am certain has Aspergers Syndrome. Last Year my therapist told me and my parents that I had AS and we are still waiting to get that confirmed by a Childrens Hospital ( 6 month wait for appoinments and it took some time to get the required reports in) But My Symptons match up with Asperger's Anways, My problem is I am also going through Depression and no-one that besides the people I talk to online from forums that I created. Most everyone in my school dislikes me because they find me annoying even though I have told some of them that it is because I have AS. In Classes they have asked to be moved away from me and when we do groups the teacher ends up having to pair me up with someone because no-one wanted to be in my group... So for the last 3 years I have been Bullied by people and Ignored by people.
I Don't Know what to do. What ever I do I never am happy and on the rare occation that I am happy, because I got a new computer or seeing some family members that went away, I always fall back into this depression.......
Many People Online have suggested that I tell my parents but I just can't bring myself to do so, I have no idea why its just... Its hard to explain...

I Just Don't Know what to do... Please Can someone give some advise
Any advise would do


-Kijana

Your parents need to know because they can't help otherwise. Depression is not a shameful thing. It's a common thing for people who feel rejected by the people around them. Your classmates don't understand what's going on in your brain and probably cannot understand. The brain does not stop adding cells until around age 21, so their capacity to see your point of view is not all there, yet. They're still wrapped up in their own needs.

Your parents can talk to your teachers to find out what you're doing that your classmates don't like and help you adjust the way you interact with them. If you ask your classmates directly, they may not know how to tell you what you need to know.

Sometimes verbal communication is hard for me too, especially when it involves intense feelings. It's definitely important that your parents know what's going on with you, but to be able to communicate something hard like what's going on inside you, you're going to need to be able to get a handle on it so you don't feel so out of control. (It sounds like you're overwhelmed a bit.)

In situations like this, I find that writing down lists of facts (even if those facts start with "maybe I am upset because...") about what's going through me head (which we aspies are better at dealing with than feelings) helps me sort things out when I'm having a tough time. After writing things down, I usually feel better.

Give it a try and let me know how it works out for you.

Hang in there. 15 was a very tough age for me. Maybe one of the toughest. Life got a lot easier afterwards.

Thanks for the Advise I will try that



If I come across another problem I will be sure to come post about it

The year I cried every day was thirteen.

MysteryFan3 has it exactly right. But instead of telling, you could spend a week writing a letter to them and giving yourself time to think through each phrase.
I wish there had been the medications for depression there are now when I was a kid. Life would have gone smoother. I'm quite open about the fact I take medications for depression. Some people think I am brave for doing so, but I feel no shame about it. It's not my fault my brain can't make enough serotonin.
Depression makes it look like every option is hopeless and you think dark things you don't want anybody to know about. Well, there were many dark things I thought that I have never told anyone and never will tell everyone because it was the depression thinking and not my rational mind. You can tell people you are depressed without going into every detail. In fact, I'm sure you shouldn't. But unless you have pathological parents, they want to know what is going on with you. They may not know how to help, but they would like to, and they can't unless they have some information.
You should look into some sport or activity that makes you sweat, maybe DanceDance Revolution. Exercise can help a little with depression. So can talking with people who know what you are going through.
You need some sort of coach who can watch you and tell you what you are doing that is annoying people and then can help you learn how to behave differently.
I wish you well. What got me through high school was knowing I wouldn't be there forever. Adulthood is so much easier.

Well I do go out and play run around shooting hoops everyday for exercise... the only thing right now stopping me from saying anything is that tommorow is my mom's birthday...

Telling people I was a Aspie actually helped me.... Atleast for a day or two.... But now they want to move away from me..... This has been going on for 3 years even before I knew i has AS

Hi Kijana,

Do you have any hobbies? Do you have any pets? Tell us more about your life.....

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Yeah I Really Like Computer and I'm a Lion King Fanatic ( My display name means young in Swahili the language used in the movie the lion king to create there names )


I have 4 Cats ( 3 Kittens and 1 Adult Cat)


I talked to my mom today and she said the Children Hospital ,which does all the diagnosis' for sure, called and they will call when they have an opening.. which would be anywahere from a day to 6 years...

Kijana, tell them unless their reaction will make you more depressed! PM me too if you want. I was going thru depression when I was 15-- not nearly as bad as it is sometimes now, but still pretty bad. If you were diagnosed with it and added it to your IEP, it might really help people treat you way better.

Just for you - because courage is what is needed right now......

lol Thanks