Regret

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I seem to always regret any situation where I've communicated to someone how I feel. I end up feeling vulnerable or like the person thinks I'm crazy. I know people communicate their feelings all the time, and to people that are close to me, I don't have an issue with it. Letting someone new see my emotional side scares the hell out of me and makes me feel like an idiot afterwards. It's as though I've been caught naked out in public. I always beat myself up afterwards and stress over the appropriateness of it.

I know what's done is done, but I can't stop feeling like an idiot.

Totally the same. It feels stupid to express feelings about things and I tend to feel pathetic when I have, regardless of humans being meant to be emotional beings.

No idea why this is... but then, I sometimes wonder, do NTs express emotions all that much themselves?? I don't even notice them do it if they do, other than in physical fashion.

Ah, I've been there more times than I can say. It stems, for me, from my inability to read people. So I'm free to imagine the worst, with no possible way to confirm if it's true or not.

I can relate to that. I don't mind expressing emotions to my boyfriend, but it's different with anyone else. I'm not very good at communicating about emotions. Whatever I say gets misunderstood. I've also had some bad experiences with that kind of thing.

For the most part, whenever I've let on that I was depressed or sad or miserable or angry, the person I've told has immediately stopped talking to me. It seems people only want friends who are happy all the time.

Anyway, I drive enough people away just by accidentally expressing emotions. For example, my voice always ends up sounding angry when I talk about something of interest to me. This freaks people out.

Yeah, this is what I'm going through right now. I convince myself that the person now wants nothing to do with me because they think I'm psycho or emotionally unbalanced. And I'll focus on (possibly) insignificant actions or lack of action on their part to back up that belief. I hate feeling like this.

What kind of contact do you have with the person? Phone calls and emails can be maddeningly ambiguous.