I've been reading my mom's emails.

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Okay, get it over with, scold me for sneaking into her email account, then help me, okay?


All my relatives ever hear about me is my problems... I feel sorry for them.


She told them many times that I'm on Celexa for depression and social anxiety and have an understimulation problem, or a "starving brain" and need a lot of action in my life, but that I also have an untreatable condition, that she wasn't sure if it was AS or PDD-NOS or what, and that those were the only things in my condition that could be treated. f**k! Those were my ONLY problems! I'll be perfectly fine when they're treated! The fact that she thinks I have these other issues brings down my self esteem, gives me MORE depression and MORE social anxiety, and jsut kills me. I don't know why. No offence to people who do have AS and PDD problems besides mine. But I can't be treated right if people don't know me, and I don't want to be treated as an understimulated social ret*d. Being treated like I'm understimulated is okay because I AM understimmed. But I resent the other part. Can someone tell me why?

My friend recently had an experience similar. She had been on the phone with a friend, and the friend did not hang up the phone completely. When my friend then went to dial another number, she heard her friend and the woman's husband discussing her personal issues. It's one of those things you figure happens, but to hear it is not pleasant. My advice would be to stay out of mom's e-mail - not because I think you're a terrible snoop, but because your mom will think and do as she will...and it's much less stressful to you if you just remain unaware. Honestly, I do not ever want to know what my mom says about me outside of my current knowledge. I really sincerely mean that.

Wow, I'm glad my parents aren't as nosy as you Ana. My dad would discover some seriously disturbing s**t about me if he saw my emails.

I read my mom's diaries when I was 15 and I was sorry I did.

It isn't so much that they are private and disrespectful and all of that stuff, it was because it just complicated the situation between her and me. I was for EVER checking myself that I didn't blurt out something to her that would have her know that I had been reading it, I couldn't reveal to anyone ELSE that I knew what she thought I didn't know. .

It got really complicated and I just shot myself in the foot, thinking I was getting over on her.

Merle

I had a 'friend' who I helped through university, then afterwards I was having serious problem for a few weeks and would ring her for support, one day her mum answered and called her to the phone saying 'it's <beetle> and she sounds upset', my friend said 'oh no not again what's up this time etc.' then picked up the phone and spoke to me with cheery friendly voice. I never rang her again.

I will admit that I have read both my kids diaries and it helped me to understand what was going on with them and so improved things for all of us. If they leave their diaries in plain view and not hide them then perhaps it was also their way of communicating knowing I would read them.
Hacking email may be a bit more extreme, but at least you are aware of the thoughts and concerns of your mum now and can maybe try use this information to help things.

I would agree with your mom, possible AS, and a hunger to learn everything and anything to understand.

You seem to be progressing in that direction.

Not to ruin your day, but you are almost understandable lately.

You are 17? going on 13, with a Universe to understand, and childhood fading fast.

It is our way to question all, and to build around the things we understand.

You came in like a hot wind, slowed, condensed into a cloud, change shapes, gets stormy, calm, sprinkles water on the flowers, and are forming around a center.

You are doing what is right for you, progress is apparent.

I see you the same as Mom does.

Post the Ana54 poll, Is Mom right?, most will agree.

All kids are snoops, I would have left an email saying,

"Shall we sell her to the Arabs or the Gypsys, or just part her out?

When my kid was spying, her mother and I discussed taking the Gypsys offer of $2500, or holding out for $3500. It was an important question, the cost of food and clothes could eat up the profits.

Everyone should stop using the codes in the DSM IV to describe themselves. The DSM is not a description of symptoms or conditions, even though it is used that way. The DSM is a guide for psychiatrists who have already done all the background reading when they code the forms that have to be used in hospital reporting. It's a standards book. I have been writing for a couple of psychiatrists for the last five years, and I have one on my desk (the full version, not the digest) and when I mentioned it to one of my psychiatrists, she said, "well, you're not using it to understand the symptoms, are you, because it leaves half the stuff out."

Word to the wise.

Btdt