I don't understand at all, Why does it happen?

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So a week after my mother commited suicide, My roomate, his wife, and his wife's sister were over at the apartment. His wife's sister asked if I even went to the funeral, I told her that I couldn't get up there (As I live in utah and my mother's funeral was in washington, as she lived there) and that I felt bad about it, my roomate's wife then asks "How did she die again?" "Overdose." I say quietly, then the three of them try to convince me somehow the autopsy was wrong adn it may have been accidental, and then they proceed to basicly make fun of the fact my mom may not have commited suicide. I snap and go into my room, I lock the door and lie in my bed, I then get a text from my roomate's wife's sister telling me to "Stop being a baby and get some balls"
I aknowledge the fact that they (in some sick idiotic way) tried to help but in the end hurt even more.
I would like to know: has anyone had something like this happen to them?

It sounds to me like blatant disregard for your feelings. So what if you couldn't make it to the funeral? You are affected just the same.

Similar things have happened to me, but I have a hard time remembering the specifics. My mind tends to blot out the event afterward.

People can be insensitive and cruel simply due to their own ignorance in knowing what to say and how to be helpful in such highly
emotional situations when one is dealing with grief and loss whether it is a death or divorce.

Sometimes, I find it better to be alone than in the company of such people who find it difficult to be supportive.

I would say "EXCUSE ME YOU F*CKING A**HOLE?!?!?!?! My mom just die! And instead of texting me why don't you grow some balls and say it to my face!" (well something along those lines, I understand she is not a man)

I seriously want to punch that woman! What a f*****g as*hole, excuse my language but thats what she is. Your mom just died, they all should be conforting you and be sensitive to your needs. And they say NTs have empathy! Bull f*cking sh*t!

I think they all deserve to spend one day in hell for putting you through that! I wish i could be there for you so i could hug you or something, or make you some hot chocolate! (i dont even know what you like LOL).

That wh*re needs to be pimp slapped or something.

EXCUSE MY DISGUSTING USE OF LANGUAGE! IM JUST PISSED OFF AT THAT LADY!

I was trying to get a person to understand how I felt. I went from sitting on the couch and then knelt down and reached out for her hand. She didn't seem to be astonished I did this, as we were having an animated discussion at the time. She had told me that the landlady that reneged on our business deal screwed her over too, but she was too social to hold her to it, because bla blah loveless marrige bla bla raped at 14 going though health problems. I suddenly realized this woman had known the woman indiscriminately burned people becuse she put her own issues before the fulfilling the business deal. I was then aware that this betrayal of trust happened before she recommended me for the business deal in the first place.
I was prompted to show her how ethically wrong this was on so many levels when I was driven to go down on one knee and grasp for her hand, to beseech her of her own moral compass. She pushes my hand away and tells me there is nothing for it, this is the way of the world and she always takes care of herself, she gets repaid in her own way from anyone that does her wrong. Apparently moral behavour wasn't used or needed. I didn't know it then, but I know it now. She is not to be trusted either.

This is good to know.

I am sorry I have to know it. I am not sorry I have a moral compass that points to what would most help my karma. That is my compass.