Do you like it when people treat you like you deserve to be

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If you forget a lot of things, do you like to be treated like a scatterbrain or a clumsy clod?


I don't.


Nobody is forgetful. They just forget things. Just because someone forgot 3 appointments in a row, or locked their keys in their room 3 times, or whatever, doesn't give you the right to tell them not to forget their stuff in the microwave (before they've put it in) or to remember to punch their floor number in the elevator (before they even get in) or to punch 9 before dialing the number they need to call on the phone (before they even pick up the phone).


It's called respect, and honestly, having to deal with the cululative lack of it, year after year, from so many people, destroys so many more people than it gets credit for. It's time it destroyed the generators of this disrespect instead. Who here agrees?


For the record, this hasn't happened to me yet, but when it does, I'm going to be ready for it.


There will be no more cumulative, unknowing, ignorant, pathetic, ludicrous abuse.


Never, ever, ever again.

I do, but I can't get too arrogant about this. It all depends on what the word 'deserve' can mean. It can be positive or negative. Positively, it can be enjoyable to a certain degree. Negatively, I can't stand it, for it stimulates my little drill sergeant in me, causing me to go bananas on the inside.

Like I deserve to be treated? That's a loaded question.

Only a fool wants to be treated as others think they deserve to be treated. You're just asking to be strung and quartered as there are loads of sick people out there that think we(humanity) deserve to burn squirming like maggots/worms for all of eternity.

I want to be treated by others how they would like to be treated. Unless they are masochistic.

I feel that I deserve to be treated with respect.

But what is your definition of disrespect?

And no; I'm not a fool-- I don't want to be treated the way people believe I deserve to be!

I don't know what it's like to be treated as I deserve, no one's managed to kill me yet.

My mother is the worst about minor disrespects to me, though. She's one of the only one who knows about my dx so she frequently makes assumptions about me based on what she's read, and no, I don't like it.

When people treat me like crap i sometimes think i deserve it. But that´s got more to do with my lack of selfworth than anything else i guess.

I don't agree with this. People can be forgetful. I am forgetful. I've lost my keys while they were in my pocket the entire time, spent fifteen minutes looking for them, had someone ask me if they were in my pocket, and, sure enough, there they were. If someone gives me a light ribbing for that kind of thing, I don't mind it. I don't consider it to be disrespectful, so long as it isn't a constant thing that someone brings up that I can be a bit absent-minded at times. If I mention that I had a hard time finding ______, I'm not going to take it as disrespect if someone immediately afterwards mentions some obvious spot that I might have needed to look. (Like in my pocket.)

Forgetting three appointments in a row, that's significant. Three non-consecutive appointments is one thing, but three consecutive ones is another entirely. That is forgetful. If someone fails three tests in a class in a row, they aren't doing poorly on those three tests, they are doing poorly in the class.

As for reminding someone about something, like dialing 9 as in the example given, if that is something done for one person, in multiple scenarios, to the point that they are made to feel that the other person views them as incapable of doing anything, then sure, that could be considered disrespectful. If the person saying such things tells everyone to remember to dial 9, maybe they just want to help, because many people have forgotten to dial 9.

I totally agree with you about all that. I was talking about someone doing poorly in the class, for example, doesn't deserve to be treated like they do poorly in every class, like they're just an all-round bad student.



This has TOTALLY happened to me, a lot, less now than before now that she realizes that I'm me, not some hopeless scatterbrain from a book she read on Aspies.

If someone says "Why have you become stupid?", as in "What happened to you; did something happen to you?", for me, it's better than "Are you stupid?" as in, "Are you a bad seed or what?"

It depends on the situation. If it's a class I prefer people think I'm dumb because then they don't ask me any questions or favors. For the most part, I like being left alone, but I let a couple people get close enough to see the real me. I don't really care what anyone else thinks, so I'm pretty carefree when it comes to others underestimating me.

It depend on what I've done!