I hate being cooped up all day

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My parents won't let me go to public places alone, and thats starting to tick me off finally.

I have NOT said anything about this, but I have told them that I want to go find a job and they seem to approve (I am 16, but this is a secret plan to get out into public places, which I am probably going to carry out this summer).

Any tips? Yeah playing video games is fun, browsing the internet is fun and so is listening to the music but I want to go "out there" if you know what I mean.

Oh and another thing, with friends I am allowed to go places without them (parents), but I have no friends living nearby!

Someone who has the same problem as me, wow.

You should be able to do things. Be careful not to rebel though. I've seen that happen to people, where they go over the top cause they feel they've missed out. Just take it easy yeah

I don't get it, how exactly are they stopping you and where exactly did you want to go?

Maybe you could find a nonthreatening place to work that is nearby. Maybe a pet store? Tell your parents you think it is very important that you start this experience early. You may even want to throw in the "it will be harder to get a job if I dont have experience for the future. And the more experience I have the more money I will make when I age" defense. Afterall it is 100% true. Now is a better time than any for a kid to get used to the working world.

I don't understand exactly. You mean that your parents will not let you leave your house alone at all? Is there a reason that you can name for why they would feel that way? I think you're certainly old enough to be out alone and hold if a job if that's what you desire. (oh nice avatar btw, love nin).

Like the others, I don't understand the situation here. Do you go to school? How are they stopping you from going out? What do you want to do outside? Go for a walk?

Sorry for all the questions, I'm just curious how this works.

it sucks that they are being that overprotective of u and it won't help u at all when it comes time to move out (whenever that is)

maybe u could negiotate some kind of "trial run" with your "rents to some place where they know where u are and what u will be doing etc. just so u can show them that u can go out without the sky falling in(as in some huge disaster happening).

anyway it would be worthwhile to obtain a cell phone if u manage to get let outside alone. just cos it is a way for them to feel secure about where u are cos they can contact u. (worked for me's)
as soon as i got a job mum made me carry a phone.

Ok I'll explain to you all why

Because they don't think I can take care of myself.

But they want me to get a job

So...

I'll just see where this is going to go.

They say I can't take care of myself cause I have no interests (I love computers, hiking and video games, and listening to music but I dunno anymore).

Well, I think they are wrong

But rebeling just makes it worse..

You like video games too? Heh, same here. My mother obviously doesn't think I can take care of myself either.

tell them you're going with friends after school. then just go after school without going home first.

I had a friend who used to take a video back to the store, then hop on the train and disappear for 2 weeks.

His mother used to go spare, but what could she do.

He didn't always ring to tell her where he was either.

I'd ring and his mum would say, "he went to take a video back last week - I don't know where he is now".

at the time, I did feel sorry for his mum, but she shouldn't have tried to keep him cooped up like that.

Ok, I am 16 aswell and my mother basically doesn't care what I do or where I go. I can walk in the middle of the night and she wont care.
I think that your mother is just worried that something will happen to you. Sure, it does sound like she is being over-protective...but it's her instinct to do so.

Sooner or later, your parents will want you to get a job and pay rent. They will have no choice but to let you leave the house and go to public places on your own. You are legally allowed to work and they can't stop you from getting a job.

I think their mothers are being over-protective too.

Of course for you, it's different - nothing bad happens in NZ, there's no dangerous fauna, the people seem pretty friendly - and I'm beginning to suspect that everyone's tucked up in bed asleep by about ten-ish.... It's a very safe country from what I can tell.