Overwhelming Incident

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I live in a semi-detached house, which means that one wall is shared by the neighbor on the other side. Today, he started playing loud music, with a lot of bass in it. When I hear loud music filling up my living area, I tend to have a very low meltdown point. It's like I feel trapped. The knowledge that I can't get away from it is unbearable. I tried to ignore it (impossible). Since this guy is usually quiet, I thought maybe he would stop after awhile. But it got even louder. I didn't want to go over and talk to him, since I find this difficult. I don't know him, anyway. I'm rambling, I know. Anyway, I started to shake, and wanted to cry. It was like watching a stranger take over my body as I started slamming the back door repeatedly in frustration. The music went off, and now I'm afraid that this guy might be rude to me. I am still shaking.

Looks like he got the message. I think you did the right thing.

Sorry to hear that.

If he's rude to you, he's got no right to be.

Remember that and hopefully it will give you courage if something happens.

Stay strong for us, okay?

Maybe you're right. I wonder how many Aspies feel as if they go "primitive" when overwhelmed? That's how it felt. As if I had lost all ability to reason, and could only communicate with symbols.
I hate it when people use some meaningless holiday to forcefully entertain everyone in their immediate environment? I suppose I am supposed to tolerate his noise, just because it's Memorial Day weekend?

I've been tempted to start up my instruments - I have amplifiers...

Of course now I live in a trailer, so the next nearest neighbor isn't a problem...

I understand that people sometimes like to play music loud. I use headphones, myself. I just can't seem to tolerate it anymore, especially when I can't get away from it.

i think you done the right thing.

is it possible he thought you were out before you slammed the door?

Is there anyone you both know who might talk to this neighbor for you?
Or maybe just someone you know?

hartzofspace believe you me you are not the only one, I use to do this all the time when living in London. One place I lived in use to stress me so much because of the noise and like you it made me shake... until I really was out of control, thats when I use to go and shout at people!

Really not the answer, talking to most people does usually help. I moved as far away from the noise in London as I could, now live in NZ south island - heaven

Since he's usually quiet, and you don't know him, and he turned down the music when you started slamming the door, it might be that the guy's at least a little bit considerate and he didn't want to disturb you.

Being forced to listen to somebody else's music drives me crazy too, but most people aren't like that, especially on a holiday.

^^^ ditto

... and now I'm afraid that this guy might be rude to me. I am still shaking.

You mention communicating only with symbols - this would not be unusual for anyone, according to some. Are you familiar with the mid-20th century sociologist Erving Goffman? He would say your not acting strangely at all - in fact, he believed that at heart, symbolism was the only way that humans could communicate.