I'm scared of everyone right now.

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I am terrified of my mother right now. What she might do or try to do to get my posts deleted. She sent me this:


From:
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 4:26 am
Subject: HI HOPE YOU READ "ALL OF THIS --
Hi,

I ws just reading an article in the Vancouver Sun abut this girl who was abudcted by a guy who was posing as a 14 year old on line and pretended to be really understanding and would say nice things and things that he was certain this girl would want to hear. The article said that you have men out there (sometimes they will even pose as females!) to lure young women away.They visit various sites on the internet seeking to find young women who post a lot of person information online. It said that they are looking to pick on anyone that is troubled or confesses their troubled feelings or circumstances online--they could be on wrong planet just like anywhere else --- they are looking for vulnerable people and vulnerable to them means young people that are troubled and can be taken advantage of--they will say comforting things to you when you are troubled and then the young woman starts believing that she has a real friend or confidante and will go anywhere and do anything for them so PLEASE BE CAREFUL WHEN YOU ARE ONLINE--WRONG PLANET CAN ALSO BE VULNERABLE SINCE THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO COULD JUST GO THERE TO FIND VULNERABLE PEOPLE AND IF THEY DO THEY FIND SOMEONE LIKE YOURSELF FOR EXAMPLE, THEY CAN PRETEND TO BE REALLY UNDERSTANDING AND YOU MIGHT THINK THAT THIS PERSON IS GREAT BUT IT COULD BE A REAL PREDATOR.

tHIS GIRL WENT WITH THIS GUY AND ENDED UP BEING CHAINED AND RAPED IN A ROOM . SHE WAS RESCUED MIRACULOUSLY (IT USUALLY DOESN'T HAVE A POSITIVE OUTCOME) WHEN THE PREDATOR SENT ONLINE PHOTOS OF HIS CAPTIVE TO AN INTERNET AQUAINTANCE, WHO IMMEDIATELY CALLED THE FBI. WORKING FEVERISHLY TO MATCH THE SERVICE PROVIDER AND GEOGRAPHIC LOCATION, THE FBI QUICKLY LOCATED THE YOUNG WOMAN AND ARRESTED THE PREDATOR THIS WEEK.

A NATIONAL ORGANIZATION IN THE STATES HAS RECENTLY LAUNCHED ADVERTISING CAMPAIGNS AIMED AT YOUTH WITH THE THEMES DON'T BELIEVE THE TYPE AND THINK BEFORE YOU POST.

EVEN SOMETHING SEEMINGLY INNOCUOUS AS SIMPLE CONVERSATION CAN GRAB A PREDATOR'S ATTENTION. A PREDATOR CAN EASILY PICK UP SIGNS OF VULNERABILITY SUCH AS LONLINESS, LACK OF CLOSE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS, OR DIFFICULTIES WITH FAMILY MEMBERS OR DIFFICULTIES ABUT ANYTHING

SO IF YOU CAN ERASE YOUR ALL OF YOUR TRUBLESOME POSTS OR CHANGE YOUR AVATAR, IT MIGHT BE A GOOD IDEA TO SAFE-GUARD YOUR PRIVACY. WHO CARES ABOUT HOW MANY POSTS YOU HAVE--YOU CAN ALWAYS TELL THE FEW TTHAT YOU HAVE KNOWN FOR "A LONG TIME" AND FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE DONE BY SENDING THEM A PRIVATE MESSAGE. CHANCES ARE THE PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE SPOKEN TO FOR A LONG TIME ARE O'K -- BUT YOU MUST BE CAREFUL EVEN WITH THEM--

IF YOU HAVE ESTABLISHED A CYBER FRIENDSHIP WITH A FEW OF THEM, DON'T EVER GO TO MEET THEM UNLESS JACK AND RICH CAN GO WITH YOU. OTHERWISE, FORGET IT.

BE VERY CAREFUL. THIS YOUNG WOMAN IS BACK WITH HER MOTHER NOW BUT SHE IS ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES!

I DON'T WANT TO SCARE YOU DEAR -- JUST WANT YOU TO BE STREET-SMART AND CYBER-SMART SO THAT YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TO BE A VICTIM.

IF YOU DO CHANGE YOUR AVATAR, LET ME KNOW WHAT YOUR NEW ONE IS--PERHAPS YOU WILL JUST DECIDE TO ERASE ALL OF YOUR PREVIOUS POSTS INSTEAD--WHATEVER--I AM SURE THAT YOU CAN FIND A SOLUTION TO BETTER PROTECT YOUR PRIVACY WHILE STILL POSTING ONLINE.

ANY MESSAGE THAT COULD INDICATE TO A PREDATOR THAT YOU ARE A TROUBLED INDIVIDUAL AND THEREFORE 'VULNERABLE" TO HIS ATTENTION, SHOULD BE POSTED PRIVATELY.

SINCE YOU WERE ALWAYS INTO AMERICA'S MOST WANTED AND ON THE LOOK-OUT FOR PREDATORS WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG, I HOPE THAT YOU DO NOT FORGET TO BE VIGILANT NOW. DON'T BECOME PARANOID, JUST BE CAREFUL.I HOPE THAT YOU TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY BECAUSE THESE CYBER-CRIMES ARE HAPPENING MORE OFTEN THESE DAYS.

ALSO BE CAREFUL IF PEOPLE COME ON TO YOU IN AN OVERLY-FRIENDLY MANNER WHEN YOU ARE ALONE ANYWHERE IN PUBLIC OR OUTSIDE YOUR HOME. TRY TO BE WITH YOUR FRIENDS BUT IF YOU ARE ALONE IN A MALL OR ELSEWHERE, JUST TRY NOT TO DRAW ATTENTION OR HANG AROUND AN AREA WHERE YOU FEEL THE PEOPLE ARE NOT QUITE RIGHT. IF YOU HAVE THIS GUT FEELING, TRY TO FIND AN AREA WHERE THERE ARE OTHER PEOPLE SO THAT YOU WILL BE PROTECTED. IF THERE IS ANY KIND OF EMERGENCY ANYTIME, MAKE SURE THAT YOU KNOW YOUR FRIEND'S CELL PHONE NUMBER AND CAN CALL HIM RIGHT AWAY OR 911.

I AM NOT EXPECTING ANY OF THIS TO HAPPEN MIND YOU BUT JUST IN CASE THERE IS A PROBLEM SOMEDAY, YOU WILL BE PREPARED LIKE ANY GOOD SOLDIER, COP, OR GIRL SCOUT.

LOVE YOU AND GOD BLESS.




Why not just tell me to come back if she's oh-so-scared for my safety?


But now I'm getting paranoid again about my friends. One of the ones that might be coming is a girl. That makes me feel a little better.


Shut up, Ana! If you can't trust your friends you can't trust anyone so you'd better trust them if you want them to trust you and if you want friends.


There; that's settled.

That's a lot of shouting on her part...
Mother's worry, they never stop. I'm 50, and my mother still worries about me...

Still, it sounds like she's going a little bit over the top. I know you've brought this up before, but the main problem seems to be one of communication. If there was only a way to talk with her, it might be different.

stay tuned for more helpful answers following this one...

oooh yeah. I'm terrifed that she'll do something. I hope it's just calling the FBI or something, and not her hacking into my s**t somehow or rather, since she's illiterate nad inept, getting my dad to do it, or getting someone else to do it, just so she could delete my posts "because she loves me" and "for my safety and security and well-being". f*****g physical wellbeing. Means nothing.

Um...I'm under the impression that she's trying to protect you because she loves you. She's trying to help you and support you while you're living in Texas and she is back in Vancouver. I recommend that you take off your blinders and see what she's really trying to tell you. I know it's hard to do, but we sometimes need to read between or even BEYOND the lines in order to see what the author is telling us. The same goes for what people are trying to tell us. My grandmother is the same way and my family knows that she loves us dearly and cares about us. Perhaps your mom is the same way. I think she's just worried about you, since you're so far from home.

Part of me knows I way overreacted. The other part of me thinks half the world are out to get people like me and the other half are out to "help" them-- aka restraints and aversives. And yes, trying to make me delete my posts is a restraint. A lot of you know my views on restraints and aversives. Scary things.

what scares me is knowing that teenagers are spending more time chatting with strangers about personal problems and not with their parents/grandparents.

My parents would tell me to: leave it behind me, put it behind me, write privately in a diary and never ever show anyone, get over it, move on, rise above it (aka ignore it), don't think about it, concentrate on something positive (not understanding that it's f*****g impossible when one is clinically depressed), grow up, move beyond it, forget about it, don't take it to heart, don't let it hurt you, don't let it get to you, basically run away from it.


It isn't possible to do any of that crap when you're CLINICALLY DEPRESSED! Maybe I was all my life.

I ALWAYS have to watch who I speak to here on WP, mainly because I don't like making enemies. I don't have a MySpace or a FaceBook account because I don't trust either. I watch the news often and I hear about stuff like this. But, I, personally, am more prone to identity theft, spyware, and viruses than anything on the internet.

All they'd tell me if I talked to them personally was to shut up; was I forgetting all the POSITIVE things they'd done for me? They would tell me to talk to a shrink. Talking isn't enough. I need to write it somewhere, somewhere permanent. I don't want it getting lost in the air or whatever.

Considered joining livejournal and keeping a journal there?
You can make it private or public and lotta people there to comment on it etc.

What if my parents contacted the admin and had my journal deleted? It's happened to people who were reported, though I know there's a lot of bad s**t on there that wasn't reported.


Another thing my parents did if I tried to talk about my problems was tell me they were too busy, they had problems of their own, they were going through a lot right now, they had a bad day, they were havinga bad time, they had a lot on their mind, they had a lot to do, they had to go pay the rent, they had to fill out this form or make that phone call because that was more important than me and my problems and my mental health.

Your parents wouldn't need to know your journal name unless you told them.
I think you are letting paranoia get the better of you...your parents aren't 'out to get you', seriously.

Want things they cannot see, simply use a different name and only let those you trust know the link.

Out to HELP me. That could be just as dangerous/'detrimental if they don't know me. You have to know someone to know how to ehlp them.


And that's true; I didn't even think that they didn't have to know the name. I'm rather stupid. Now I'm so embarrassed at my stupidity. And it'll take so long to paste all those posts into a journal...