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First off, there's going to be some swearing in this. If it's against some rules, tell me and I'll bleep 'em out or something, though I'm sure they'll be bleeped already.

Secondly, I have no idea what forum to put this thread in, seriously.

Now my problem. I think sensory issues are an aspie thing, yes, but they're completely off the wall for me. I have an actual problem with sensory issues unrelated to AS, so it's... well... an issue. Clothing bothers me, touching bothers me, sound bothers me, movement bothers me--everything. I mean, I live in the attic three flights up, and when people put the dishes away on the bottom floor I can hear it and it bothers me.

Now, when I say bother, I don't get my message across at all. I actually mean hurts. It seriously hurts me to hear noise. Now, of course not all noise, I love music and my cat meowing, but sounds like basketballs bouncing, or kids making... noise, or machines doing wtfever they do, uhg, uhguhguhguhg, I can't. STAND. It. Seriously, I just, I have only enough self-control to keep from hitting people, but I just get angry and want to throw things (and often do) and yell and... uhg.

Obviously this is a problem because people move and make noise (people are banging a basketball right now and I want to get a f*****g bomb and blow them up, seriously). But... even my own family doesn't understand my problem. And I can't. Fix it.

Seriously, this is my... only real problem. I mean, it's a huge one, and it often makes me want to just kill myself or other people and just, uhg, die. Or something. But if it were fixed (which I seriously don't think is possible, thus the desire to die), I don't... think... there would be any other problems.

I don't know why I'm even writing this, it's not like any of you could help, and I doubt you could even understand. I mean, I'm sure you'll say 'oh, noise bothers me too'; but I doubt... I don't know. I can't be with people at all, even my family, because they move.

The worst part is seriously that my family often doesn't believe me, and just thinks that either I'm faking it... or controlling them, or something, or just don't care if it's real or not, they just want me to shut up, I guess. I mean, I understand, sort of... I'm sure living with me must be hell, but imagine f*****g being me, okay? Gah. Their punishment is they have to go to the park to play baseball; my punishment is I always feel like I'm in hell. Maybe it's just because I have no desire to play baseball in the first place, but... I don't think I'd choose the latter.

I expect some people here will tell me to shut up and live with it, or die, but whatever. I really don't know what to do other than those, though.

Actually, I think quite a few people on here can relate to your sensory issue. Including me. I have had numerous nervous breakdowns, from a steady diet of the sort of noises you speak of. One night I was driven mad by the rowdy conversations of some college kids on the balcony of their apartment building, two blocks away! I hate the sound of my refrigerator, the dog next door barking incessantly, people's booming car stereos, etc. I practically live in either ear plugs, or noise canceling headphones. I did find that cutting wheat and dairy out of my diet reduced the pain made by noises, for some reason.

How about trying some ear plugs? Nobody has to believe you, and it might help.

I dunno, I don't think ear plugs would work at all. I tried some, and they always fell out (I had things going in my ears anyhow, incredibly annoying) and didn't block the noise in the first place.

I do use the headphone-things people use when shooting guns, but it doesn't completely block the noise, and it really messes up my glasses, because they (the headphone-things) are so thick. And tend to give me headaches after a few hours of wearing them. >>;;

perhaps buying more insulation for your room? hang up some decent looking "carpeted" like hangings? that might muffle just a bit. You said that the noise canceling things worked some, but messed with your glasses (if you glasses were messed up that might explain the headaches or if you had to take them off.) Have you thought about contacts?

If your room was a little more muffled, it might make things a little easier to bear when you did have to venture out.

I've never been bothered by the constant stuff that's always around, but there are times when i get migraines and everything bothers me. Maybe if you could make a little more of a refuge for yourself the rest would be more tolerable.

Maybe even a carpeted bed hanging, like those huge curtains they used to do back in olden days. you could hide in there with your headphones and some light music, and just get away for a couple.

eep, I'm rambling!

[edit]I hate those things that acutally go IN your ears too, can't stand them.[/edit]

I have always had a big problem with noise "like basketballs bouncing, or kids making noise" both of these have really affected me and have played basket ball myself and had 2 kids, so you can learn and change and often when things are bad I had to find some think to distract me, I like music so play that, when younger took a little too extreme and played far to loud..

This can be a huge problem living so close to other people, I am a Londoner and hated living in London, I have now moved to NZ and a lot of noise stresses have gone.. could you move somewhere quieter!

I could never get on with ear plugs, but maybe a good pair would be an option for now...

It was always a lot worse when I was stressed already and have found if find others things to focus on problem not half as bad, bearable..

As when stressed even others breathing can brother me...

I dunno if we'd be able to buy more insulation; my parents already spent so much money renovating the attic (which was previously just storage) into a room, and sealing up the window... and now they're paying a ton for all my psychiatrist-people to get me diagnosed and treated. I did try contacts, though, several times, but we just can't get them into my eyes. I keep blinking, yaknow? It's a huge pain. Dx Getting them in every day... too much! Oiy.

My room is a sanctuary in that I love it, it's my room; but the noise, uhg.

There's no way I can move though. Haha. I live with my family, I'm 17; I rely on my mom almost completely. And there's no way, at all, that my parents would agree to move. I mean, none. At all. There's a higher chance that the ocean would suddenly turn into coca-cola and the fish turning into those gummy-fish. Yep. They're jewish, this is the 'holy land', they saved up for years so they could move here, we have a big home... the deal. Meh.

Insulation does not necessarily have to be insulation. I don't know if you are male or female, but I guess it would work either way, just might get a couple odd looks if you are male.

Perhaps hanging up some pretty comforters/quilts on a the wall? Could even be just old blankets that got stained or something (something picked up at one of those second hand places, if you can stand using someone else's outcasts.) might not be too aesthetically pleasing, or people will think it's someone's great-grandmother's room.

In case my post is somewhat garbled there is a screaming one year old one foot away. The baby is having a HUGE time getting over the daylight's savings schedule.

Whivit, I think I know how you feel, except for me it's with depression, not noise bothering me. The following isn't explained right but is explained in the best way I know how to: when I tell people I'm depressed and therefore need lots of stimulation, they think I'm trying to control them or faking it or using it as an excuse for something (what, I don't know).

Detren, that sounds like a good idea, any suggestion on how I would actually hang the blankets up?

And uhg, Ana, that sounds horrible. I don't think I actually told people I was depressed while I was, since I really refused to admit it to myself, but uh... maybe get a doctor's note to prove it? Dx Uhg.

They actually know I was diagnosed and put on pills, so they know it was medically confirmed or whatever. (And about the pills, now that I'm off them I think they worked better than I thought they did. What I thought was just me getting better was actually the pills helping me, I guess. When I came here I went off them (there's no one to prescribe it to me and I'm fallen out with my parents so they can't send them to me, and MADDuck has some but they'll run out... unless he gets his doctor to keep prescribing them, hmmmm...)

Eesh, you can't get to a doctor or anything? If not, I'd say make up with your parents if just to get the pills. x_X;

hmmm, probably drywall nails (the little nails) every 6 inches or so on the top, maybe one each of the bottom corners, or you could some of those rod type things and fold the top over on them and sew a tube type thing to put the rod in. The drywall nails leave little holes, and are easy to patch if you ever decide to take them out or paint. (a whole bunch of thumb tacks might do the trick as well, though probably not quite as well.)

Rod would probably be prettier, but the nails would be cheaper and just as efficient i think.