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Most of them are entitled "Hi from Mummy." I'm not even going to read some of them; Jack read some for me and said they'd cause too much brain damage and then I read one when we were drinking and having fun and OMG, I wanted to PUKE!11 They started off all nice and sweet, and mayube I didn't give her the credit she deserved for the first ones which were sort of civil and nice, bercause they just got nastier and nastier. But you know, sometimes I don't feel like messaging her. I don't feel like having to go on the compiuter and log in everyu single day and check my messages; it's like a chore to me for some reason. Am I just a bad person or what? You don't havwe to rad it all, just the first like 5 and the last like 5. That should tell you everything really.


Here they are, from beginning to end:


Message 1:

Yes, I detest scattered lives too. God has given us all the the power to create a better life through faith,hope,peace, love, and charity but we must believe in his infinite grace and wisdom. We must take up our cross and follow Him to the promised land of our dreams. If we have the courage to do so, He will never let us down. We must learn to forgive and be forgiven for none of us are flawless but we are all equal in the eyes of God since we were made in His image.

Please let me know if you are o'k. You can contact me at the Travel Lodge at 604 985-5311 rm 256 (leave a message if I am not in ) or simply knock on the door. Hope to see you soon. I do not even have a cutie polar bear to hug since you've been gone.
Love Mysterium


Message 2:

Inbox :: Message
From: censored so I don't get banned for violation of privacy
To: Ana54
Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 6:24 pm
Subject: News from the homefront === Mummy
Hi Kate,

Hope you have a chance to read this.

Please check your e-mail whenever you can. I need to know that you are and will continue to be safe. You do not have money for food, clothing, shelter, etc. I know that things might be o'k but we do not know this person youAdverb too well. He seemed alright---I wish that you could have some nice friends closer to your own age but perhaps that also will come in time. Perhaps you will be able to upgrade your classes eventually too--when the time is right for you. You could eventually meet friends at college or university as well--they are not all neurotypical snobs--some are eccentric individuals with more than a touch of genius or simply fun-loving, caring individuals who want to establish a higher career goal so that they can make a real difference in the world. Achieving higher educational goals gets them noticed and proves to society that they had the level of intelligence, patience, dedication, and maturity to get through school in order to accomplish this. It may take some people longer to do it but the end result can only be positive if they too are positive and have confidence in their own superior abilities. Perhaps someday, you will take this opportunity and use it to shine--when you feel this way psychologically, you will be ready to embark upon the road to higher learning.

Your under-stimulation problem will have to be addressed if it does not work itself out soon. Perhaps, being with "friends" will resolve or banish it forever. I hope so. If not, I think that there is medical help for it. I know that Vancouver has some free emergency services (until you qualify for medical coverage--remember the clinic on Lonsdale that we were going to go to before) which we could look into a.s.a.p. if necessary. You just need to keep me posted on how things are.

I am more concerned about your well-being now so please let me know how you are getting on. I am hoping that you have not left Vancouver yet but if so, let us know how you are doing. I wish that you could have been more honest and upfront about everything. Perhaps you can be so from here on in. If what you are doing is right, then there is no reason to conceal the truth. Honesty is always the best policy in this lifetime. I will communicate with you via [email protected] if that is o'k with you.

I really wonder if any of those other guys would really come to live there in the end. I want you to have fun but also hope that you wish to accomplish something meaningful as well. If you cannot ultimately achieve a successful career with these people, then there are tons of other options. Don't ever feel that you have to accept mediocrity.That adverb seemed a little weird to me but don't tell him so. He really did seem like someone with Aspergers but we do not know him very well so just be cautious. You can contact me anytime--day or night for anything.



You are still my precious one with some very special talents that I believe could be put to great use in this future---I hope that you can get back to school someday so that you can realize your full potential. It would be nice if you could have fun and make some friends in the meantime. I am not against that---it will be interesting to see if this Asperger cha rity is successful. It may just end up becoming a fringe-type organization that impoverishes you. I hope that you do not end up living in a poor neighbourhood full of unsavoury characters when I know that you can do much better than that.

Your happiness comes first. This would be one experience in your lifetime but there are many other possibilities. I hope that you do not get stuck in some mediocre place going nowhere. If you do not make great friends from Wrong Planet, there are many other places here where you can and you could start doing something right away---whatever interests you.

All my love,

Mummy


Message 3:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 3:30 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi Kate,

I am glad to hear from you. I spoke very briefly to Christian awhile ago and he said that you were in Portland. I suppose that you are much farther along now. Just be careful. I don't know what this guy is like--he forgot his khaki coat and cigarettes here. Why such a rush? This is not the way to leave but anyhow, I am relieved to hear from you--however short the message may be. I hope that you will be safe and sound --- you will see if the others show up. You should call Christian when you get to Texas--he does want to hear from you too. He is not sure about this fellow either. Afterall, you have not known any of these people for very long so just be careful. Once you are down there, this guy might be looking for somehing like sex in exchange for free accomodation--you just never know. If you sense this, contact me or Christian right away. At least if you are in any danger, Christian is down there and I know that you could pop over there if you needed to until we could make arrangements for you to come back to Vancouver. I am just telling you this just in case there is now or would be a problem after you arrive or even later on. I hope that you will keep this post confidential==in other words, I do not want you to tell Adverb this. It is just a precautionary note since we do not know him very well.


God Bless and let me know what is happening. I am disappointed that you had to leave at this time-you did not even take a toothbrush--what on earth are you going to do without your clothes and other necessities? There is no free health care down there so getting your medication will also be a hurdle. Perhaps this may turn into a visit rather than a longer-term thing--you should probably wait and see how things unfold once you are there.

I hope that you are having a nice time but I am beginning to miss you a bit already. I can't imagine what it will be like later.

Keep me posted on what is happening. I am curious to know what your impressions of these places are---particularly Houston and the surrounding suburb that you are supposedly going to.

And remember--if there are any problems, call, pm, or e-mail me right away.

Talk to you later and happy trails.

Love Mummy

Message 4:


From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 8:03 pm
Subject: Hi again -- Mummy
Hi,

I will make sure that we hold on to your friend's jacket--your father does not need it. He has decent coats--he just doesn't always see the need of wearing a coat--especially if he is going to be in his vehicle. He has always been an outdoors person and I think takes some secret satisfaction in being roughing it---MMS (Marlboro Man Syndrome, I gess- Ha!)

As for one meal per day--he is sometimes like that when he is trying to conserve his resources. He also has a thrifty streak (perhaps you can blame part of it on his predominately Scottish roots--quite a few Scots are known to be "tight" with a dollar but I certainly would not want to brandish an entire race. Who knows for sure? Living does not seem to have ever come easy for him but as time goes by, this miserly habit seems to have become more pronounced. I have also seen him be quite generous in the past when he was happier than he is now. But he has often made himself miserable due to his own pesssimistic temperament. He is hacking his guts out lately and refuses to do anything about it. This, of course, makes him even more taciturn and moody. He can be thoroughly enjoyable when he is upbeat. You probably know that as well as I do.

Hope that you are having fun. I worry about your future in such a place but for the time being, I guess you can relax and take in the lovely scenery. Where would we be without friends to share life's journey with? We can get along alone but life does seem so much richer when we have a few good friends to share it all.

Write and let me know how things are---I guess that you must be quite far along now. We will be at the Travel Lodge for a few more days. I will keep you posted on any change of residence. We might still take that place up in the hills around Pemberton Heights but I am not sure yet.

Love As Ever, Mummy


Message 5:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 1:31 am
Subject: Hi ag ain from Mummy ---- WE HAVE MOVED SOONER THAN EXPECTED
Hi,

We are no longer at the Travel Lodge. We are now at 1095 West Keith Road for the next 30 days. I need to see about getting my teeth fixed soon. I will be glad to move on from here. There is no telephone at this place but it is still in North Vancouver at the address mentioned above. There is no private telephone that I can use to contact you there and no wireless internet service. Right now, I am at the A & W which has free wireless. Your father is waiting on me so I won't be long. Just let me know where you are and if all is well.

Have you arrived in Houston are you still on the road or visiting other WP members?
If there is a telephone number that I can contact you at when you get to Houston, let me know--send the number through a private message here on WP or to my e-mail address.

I will talk to you later--it is a real drag not having internet service now but I will keep in touch. Hope to hear from you soon.

All my love,

Mummy


Message 6:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 2:39 am
Subject: Hi from Darlene ----
Hi,

Please send me a message to let me know that you are alright. I did not hear from you yesterday and would like to know that you are safe and doing fine.

Please try to at least let me know that you are alright. Then, I will not need to worry about you.


Send me a note today or as soon as possible since you have not posted anything on any of the discussions boards as well. Let me know how you are and where you are. I hope that you are happy and having a good time but let me know either way.

Love, Mummy


Mesage 7:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 1:24 am
Subject: From Mummy --- Let me know that you are alright!!
Hi, rary

I am ou ou getting in touch with you again to find out where you are and how you are. You are not posting anywhere so I am concerned that something has happened to you.

Just send an e-mail back letting me know that you are o'k as soon as you can so I will not have to worry. Find a public library if necessary

Love, Mummy


Message 8:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 1:45 am
Subject: From Mummy
I am calling Christian tomorrow if I do not hear from you so please let me know where and how you are.

Mummy


Message 9:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 12:31 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
HI,

We still haven't heard from you. I also sent you an email. I hope that you will be in touch with me soon. Tomorrow will be February 12th--my 50th birthday!! My greatest birthday present will be to hear from you and to know if you are alright. So, please try to get to a computer at a library or somewhere to send me a message via e-mail or pm me on wp or if it is possible, you can also call your father on his cell--whatever. Don't be shy--we would both be v. happy to hear from you and know how you are doing.Your father was checking his cell today hoping that you had left a message of some kind for him.

We want you to be happy and have friends--if things are going good or bad, we still want to hear from you.

Hope that all is well but remember, I am there for you, no matter what the circumstance.

Love you, Mummy


Mesage 10:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 12:57 am
Subject: From Mummy --
I will be trying to reach Christian this afternoon. I hope that he has heard from you. Remember. I have to go outside now to use the internet. But I am checking everyday. I am at an internet cafte right now all by ownsome missing your voice --- written or spoken.


Hope that you can send a message soon.

Love as ever,

Mummy


Message 11:

Inbox :: Message
From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 3:17 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi,

So glad to hear from you and that all is well. Your father says that we can send your stuff to Houston or wherever you plan on staying. Just let us know where you will be staying. If it is Houston, then we will send your clothes and all of your things there.

I can also send you money later on as well.


I look forward to seeing your pictures. I am so happy that you are having a great time with friends.

If anything should change, however, you know that you can always return---anytime--we would send you travel fare.

Hearing from you was absolutely my best birthday present---I don't "need" anything else.

Your happiness is worth more to me than all the riches in the universe.

Love As Ever, Mummy

PS: Watching the primaries in the US in my spare-time--Hillary & Obama would probably make a very good team if the democrats win. Huckabee is far more impressive than MacCain on the Republican side.


Message 12:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 1:22 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi,

I hope that you are fine. If you are stopping in Vegas, be careful--there is a lot of gambling, drugs, and prostitution in that town. Just be careful whom you meet. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable or you sense that something is not right, it is best for you guys to move on as soon as possible.

I hope that things are going well with you and Adverb. Just let me know if all is well. Are you guys still on your way to Houston?

You must really miss not having extra clothing but if you decide to stay in Houston, we will send all your belongings on to you. I will wait to see what you want to do. You can come back to Vancouver too. It is your choice. I hope that you are not hungry.

Once you get to Houston, I am hoping that I will ce able to contact you by telephone.

If there are any problems, just send me a message --I check my messages everyday and will get back to you a.s.a.p.

You also have your father's phone number just in case. (althgouh you would need $5.00 for a phone card--cheaper unless you have free access to long distance somewhere.

Hope that you are having a good time and will wait for further news on how things are going.

Love, Mummy


Message 13:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 1:47 am
Subject: Hi from Vancouver --
I look forward to seeing the pictures. Hope that you can post them soon and don't forget to let me know where you are. I need to be reassured that you are alright while you are on this road trip.

Love Mummy


Message 14:

Inbox :: Message
From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 3:28 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi,


You might be wondering why I seem so concerned. I am for the time being until we know a bit more.You left with someone that you did not really know so I hope that you can trust this person and others that you meet.

If all is well, then I am happy for you. But if there is anything questionable, you know that you can contact me anytime.

This is just to reassure you--I am really hoping that all turns out positively.

Love, Mummy (I will definitely wait to hear from you now--I have already sent 3 messages--I think that is enough for one day!!)


Message 15:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 2:53 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy --- Happy Valentine's Day!!
Hi,

I am glad that you have finally arrived--too bad that you didn't meet up with a few of your other online chums since they seemed to have been o'k people. You said that you stayed 12 days in a hotel--you haven't even been gone for 12 days or not much longer than that to be sure.Was this a typographical error--perhaps you meant '2' days---correct me, if I'm wrong but the math just doesn't seem right.

And I will call Adverb Jack from now on since that "is" his correct name. I hope that he is nice to you and that all is well.(He seemed alright in Vancouver but he iss still a relative stranger to us)


Can you send me your telephone number so that I can call the house this weekend or whenever you are available? If you decide to stay in Texas, we will need to send your belongings on--it must be rather difficult not having anything to wear. I hope that your friend has managed to buy you a toothbrush and that you have something to brush or comb your hair with. What on earth were you guys thinking of anyway? I keep trying to remember a time when I was young and spirited--still am to some extent but I always had, at the very least,a backpack with me. I presume that your friend has indoor plumbing and that you will be able to have a nice long shower or bath.

I hope that you are having a great time and that the others will be coming to visit soon. (I also hope that these other people will be o'k too--I suppose that you and Jack can figure that out for yourselves but in this day and age, you do have to be careful about whom you let into your home.

I hope to be able to talk to you on the phone soon and if you do want to stay, we will need your address to send your things on.(as well as your friend's khaki coat and cigarettes!!) Will you be calling Christian soon ? I suppose that he is also expecting to hear from you. He said that he was worried about you.
So please send us your phone number if you can so that we can contact you this weekend.I look forward to hearing more about your travels and Houston.

PS: You arrived back just in time for St-Valentine's Day-

Wishing you lots of love and joy and looking forward to hearing your voice soon.

Love As ever,

Mummy


Message 16:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 7:17 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi,

I'm still waiting to get your telephone number that I asked for in my last message to you. Perhaps you overlooked that one. Well, anyhow, I hope that you can send me the house number (residential phone that is) so that I can call you and find out how you are doing--if you decide to stay, then we need to make arrangements for you--your clothes would need to be shipped to you and we would have to see about your medication, etc.

We need to know how you are and if you like it down there. Perhaps, you haven't had enough time to know yet. Afterall, you have just arrived!! The Hillary and Obama campaigns have hit Texas now-I wonder who will garner the most support in the state.

Did you manage to call the others and are any of them planning on visiting or moving to Channelview? It must be really nice and warm there now.


Call and let us know how you and Jack are getting along.

Love Mummy


Message 17:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 12:49 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy -- The sun is starting to come out here!
Hi,

Just let me know when you oucan plug your phone in and send me the telephone nimber--you will need to let me know when you can call if the phone is not plugged in all the time. Is there a particular reason why the phone is not plugged in regularly--I hope that you are getting along fine.

Do you want us to send your things down to you right away--then we will do that. I would still like to speak to you first--are you planning on staying there?

Hope to have your number so that I can talk to you soon? I guess that you will be needing your medication as well?

Love, Mummy


Message 18:

From:[censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:02 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
HI,

This is just to reassure you about the custody thing--believe me, it never even entered my mind. I consider you old enough and capable enough to take care of yourself. I have confidence in your ability to make your own decisions in life without my interference. However, if you need my advice, I am here--if you have any concerns or questions, I will always try to help.

I just want you to be happy and healthy wherever you decide to be and whomever you decide to be with. I hope that you are
forming food friendships with the people that you mention. Hopefully, the others will be joining you soon if they are as nice as tthey appear to be.

I look forward to talking to you and getting all the news---remember--you are twenty years old and just starting out in life---Independence and responsibility go together and I am quite confident that you will be learning a lot from your life experiences.

You have two new messages--this one and a previous one which I have just sent as well.

Talk to you soon, Mummy


Message 19:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:07 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy--
Hi,

I just want to reassure you that all is fine. I just lost my post that I sent to you explaining that this custody thing it never even entered my ming.

You are twenty years old and quite capable of taking care of yourself---Idependence and responsibility go together and I am sure that you will learn a lot from living on your own . However, if you have any questions or concerns, I am always here. You can also come back for a visit or to stay anytime. It is all up to you.

I hope that you have a chance to form some meaningful friendships, Don't forget to send your telephone number and let me know when I can call.

Love as ever,

Mummy


Message 20:

Inbox :: Message
From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 4:40 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

I wrote four long letters and they have all failed to go through. I am totally frustrated. This is just a test.


Message 21:



From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 4:47 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

Just let me know if I can call you--otherwise, we will need to send you the money to purchase a cell phone.at Is this really necessary or do you have access to a telephone at the house.

Be careful with this medication. You should not be taking it unless the ingrediants are all-natural. Perhaps there are potentially serious side-effects--have you done any research online to find out more before continuing to take these substances. I strongly suggest you do so. We cans send you the money for the celexa but if you are sure these stimulants are better--why are they not recognized in the USA then? I will have to do some research on my own and find out more as well.

I do not want to loose any more information--will write a longer letter when I can. I hope that we can talk on the phone because we need to know what your plans are--I am not sending your clothes on yet until we see how your plans are going with your autism awareness group. Remember, there are always other options if it does not work out such as volunteering overseas, etc.

Anyhow, you will decide for yourself--we just need to know that you are happy and healthy.

Love Mummy


Message 22:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 5:22 am
Subject: From Mummy
One of the substances seems to be quite harmless-the paracetum--I have not had time to investigate the others. I just don't like the idea of you taking foreign substance without being followed by a physician. However, you need to monitor youself--perhaps these pills will enhance your overall well-being. I hope so but if you start to have any doubts, stop taking them. I will see if I can gather more information on them. It would be nice if they were an effective long-term treatment without any serious long-term side-effects. That may be the case. Why are they not approved by the FDA? Your friend Jack must know a lot about them--this paracetum is taken to enhance one's cognitive skills and awareness--that is v. good but we need to know more--are you feeling better because I can get make sure that you get more celexa if you need it but you cannot mix them. You will see how you feel--let me know.

Talk to you later,

Love Mummy


Message 23:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 5:40 am
Subject: Hi again ---
Hi,

Jack seems to be on the right track with these substances--they are nutritional supplements (various tests have been done proving their lack of harmless effects) that have been proven to have quite positve effects on neuro-transmittters and cognitive enhancement.

However, you will see how you feel--if they do not have a positive effect upon you, stop taking them. I hope that they do work and you really no longer have to take the celexa.

Let me know how things go,

Hope to get my dental work done here, work for awhile, and then head down to Nova Scotia. Cape Breton Island is especially beautiful.Wouldn't it be nice if you could come to visit (or stay) up there eventually but we shall see.

I need to talk to you on the phone sooner or later to find out what you need--food,clothing, etc.



P.S. Hi to Jack -- I hope that you are helping him out with the dishes and other chores.




Love As Ever,
Mummy


Message 24:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 7:18 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

One last thing (you have two or three other new messages from me by the way--hope you read them)

Just was looking for your new Channelview address and cannot find where it was posted.Can you send it again?

Thanks,


Thinking of you and hoping all is well,

Mummy


Mesage 25:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 21, 2008 1:21 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy!
Hi

I will wait to hear from you---I wonder what you are doing now . Doesn't your friend work? What do you do when he is not around or even when he is? Don' forget to read all of your messages!

Talk to you later,

Mummy


Message 26:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 6:19 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy --- the latest from Vancouver
Hi,

How do you propose to make a living down there. Will your friend also be looking for another job or does he have other plans? What about the autism awareness group--is that something you still plan to pursue?

Are you genuinely happy in Channelview? Would you like us to send your clothes now or wait awhile to see if you are staying in Texas permanently.It is your choice--

I just received a message from relatives back East that my father is trying to reach. I will try calling him tomorrow. I hope that all is well.

Your father is still working here but would still like to move to PEI but that won't happen until his current contract expires within ten months but that should give him sufficient time to find similar work elsewhere in the Maritimes.

And what about the others--I suppose that they are not coming afterall--what happened to these guys Rich and Randy? Did they ever get back to you--It is always better to meet people first to get a good idea if they should even stay in the same house with you guys--for saftey sake, I mean.

Are you going out anywhere and doing anything at all? I worry that you will end up down there with nothing to do. I sent you a long e-mail shortly after you left about relationships (love and sex and all that cool stuff--I hope that you read "all" of it. I hope that you take your time before getting too involved with anyone (sexually I mean--as you know, you need to be on birth control pills for at least a month--I don't know how long it is nowadays or else you will wind up pregnant and you are still very young--you have not had any boyfriends yet so take your time--it is good to have a chance to meet other people through socializing, outside activities such as the local church,school,or work. It is not good to be isolated with anyone- I hope that you will both go out and interact with others as well.

Perhaps the two of you are just friends or have a platonic relationsip--that would be better until you got to know this person--perhaps you will always just be friends--nothing wrong with that--but just keep in mind that if you do haa a boyfriend now or later, you must take precaution through birth control. In that way, you will be protected and you can still get a job,volunteer, or go back to school at some point if you wish.

I pray for your happiness--this has all happened so suddenly that it seems almost surreal. I want to be sure that you really want to be in Channeliew and that noone is cajoling or coercing you. I support you in any decision that you make as long as I know that you are happy and safe. If you are unsure, there is no deadline--you can stay there for as long as you want and your friend will have you.

I would not be able to visit for quite some time--I have my first dental appointment next week. It would probably be quite awhile before I would be able to come down--I need to get my teeth fixed and then plan to work here for now. I can definitely send your clothes to you before then but I need to know if you definitely want to stay in Texas. And as I mentioned earlier, what are your plans if you do plan to stay--do you plan to start the autism group, secure a working permit ,go to school, or come back to Canada?

Hope that I haven't been too long-winded. Just need to know that you are alright.

Love, Mummy



Message 27:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 6:40 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy -- one of two messages.
One more thing---will your telephone be repaired--I just need
to know--perhaps we can get you a cell phone in the near future if it is not.

Sorry for going into all that stuff about relationships--I am hoping that you guys are just friends or involved in a purely platonic relationship at this stage. You need to decide what you want to do with your life--whether it is in Texas or elsewhere'

It would have been so much easier to have this discussion over the phone. Hopefully, we will be able to speak to one another "live" soon.

Keep me posted--good to know that you are doing a bit of house-reorganization. There must be some way that you can clean the carpets or floors? I hope that you help to maintain a clean and pleasant living environment. Do you have your own room and what is it like living in Channelview--have you gone anywhere yet--I asked that question in my previous post as well. I hope that you do not feel too isolated there.

Love, Mummy


Message 28:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 6:17 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy --- Read all of your messages dear!
Hi,

Still waiting to hear back from you to find out if you are sure that you want to stay in Houston--if you really like it so far and what your plans are at this time --- work, school, or other.o

I will send your clothes as soon as I can if you really think that you are making the best decision for yourself at this time.

I heard from my father as I mentioned and just called him back today. He called to wish me a Happy 50th and wanted to know if might possibly be interested in visiting family on the east coast this summer. It looks like I might be going on a road trip as well. (Just like you) His wife can't go this year--she has to stay behind with Darren who is still only fifteen years old.)

My father's sister, Hazel has bought the family home from her brother who was about to put it on the market. All my father has to do is pick up the key and we will be off--well, I just have to meet up with him first in Winnipeg. I will keep you posted on what happens as far as that is concerned--I have so many things to take care of here in Vancouver first. And who knows what you will be doing within a few months--you might be very happy where you are and doing something that you enjoy or perhaps you will have time to join us in the Gaspe this summer. If you are still with your friend, then possibly the two of you could drive up there---if not, we could send you train fare and you could come alone--whatever!! However, you might be too pre-occupied with your own business there to come. Or you might be back in Canada before then. I am presuming that you
want to stay in Channelview but I need you to let me know in your next e-mail--I can send your clothes for sure if that is the case.

I hope that you find something that is meaningful for you to do down there. If not, you can always come back to Canada and go back to school where I am sure that you could plan for an interesting career. Othe rwise, you would have to find something else to do either in this country or elsewhere.You are a good writer--perhaps you could write a novel on the side in Channeliew and seek publication for it the states. Your friend seems to have good writing skills as well--perhaps he could do the editing or perhaps you could both co-author a book about individuals or yourselves living on the spectrum. You would be doing a great community service while having a successful career that could reap great financial rewards or at the bare minimum, enough to sustain yourselves while continuing on with your writing and/or community work.

I hope to hear from you soon. Hi to Jack.

Love, Mummy


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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 7:32 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---Don't forget to read all of your messages!
Hi,

I hope that you will be in touch with me soon. Are you and your friend getting along? Remember: If you want to come back, we can send you a ticket right away or whenever you wish to leave BUT if you are staying, we will get all of your clothes ready to send to you-all washed and folded. I will try to purchase you a few extra items as well. But first, I need to know if you are staying and then we can take it from there. Do you think it is a good idea to stay--if you are both happy with the arrangement, then fine. Just let me know.

Talk to you soon,

Love, Mummy

PS: You don't have to ever give up on your dreams--you can start deciding or planning what you want to do now or whenever you feel like the time is right. You can always try one thing to see if it is what you want and if it isn't there will be other possibilities. The only dead end is the one that you create.



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Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 7:42 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy - Vancouver --- My new message --- Hi
Just lost my message too because I was trying to type with the lap top on my knees--I saw your blog in the general discussion forum. Does your friend know of any free psychology clinic that you can go . Find out first if you can. The Alberta health insurance might cover you as well but I would not count on that. I will find out--I will purchase you medical insurance if that is the case but first we need to know what the situation is. You said before that you could at least get some celexa --seeing a professional psychologist or psychiatrist would probably be a better idea (at least once so that they could prescrtibe something) You could then explain the situation and that you were taking celexa before and mention to him or her all of the supplements and vitamins that you are taking now and what you feel your problem is. Perhaps your friend has a supplement that might be more specific for a mood disorder--if not, try to find out if you can get some free emergency help until I purchase you medical insurance for the USA if you are planning on staying down there.

You said that you are happy now--Are you really happy living in Houston with your friend and have you met other people since you have been there? Let me know if you are staying because I can send your clothes to you sometime next week if that is the case. If you want to come back here, then I can purchase you a train or plane ticket--whichever you choose. Don't forget to answer the questions that I asked in this e-mail (about the medication and if you want to stay--if you are happy there --what you are doing ---if you have met people and what you plan to do in Houston. I hope that your friend Jack has turned out to be a nice person. I will send his coat on to him as well.

All my love ,Mummy--I just want you to be happy and healthy. Glad to hear that you are happy and hope that the mood problem will be resolved soon.



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From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 8:11 am
Subject: Hi there sweetpea---second message from Mummy today
By the way, don't tell doctors or anyone else that you are living long-term in the USA--just say that you are visiting a friend for the time being. You will see how things go--if you do decide to stay longer than several months--I will have to check to find out how many--you would probably need to apply for a temporary or extended visitor's visa. There is also a working visa that you can apply for at anytime if you know someone who wants to eventually hire you to work down there-Your prospectie employer would have to fill out at least part of the application for you, I believe. Anyhow, all of that information is at the Canadian Embassy in Houston if at some point you guys need to inquire. Just be sure that you have a visitor's visa first -- You don't need to contact them at this point and if you stay there beyond six months, I think that they can kick you out of the country if you don't apply for an extended visa.

Anyhow, i am not sure what your plans are. You just moved down there so you can just say that you are visiting a friend for the next few months. If you are plan to stay down there for longer than three months, I had better find out what the rules are just to make sure that you are legal in the country.

I hope that you read the other message that I have already sent you a few minutes earlier all the way through as well--it is even more important than this one right now.

God Bless and talk to you soon.

PS--I hope that you don't use that F word anymore--remember, it will earn you any accolades in this world and might even diminish your stature. I brought you up to a higher standard -- you don't need to degrade your your moral values to prove a point. I know it does not seem a big deal but ask yourself if you really want to present this image to others--that is my only beef--I hope that you don't mind my putting two cents here--be thankful that that is the only criticism I have and it is just because I know that you are a beautiful and intelligent young lady who doesn't need to affiitate herself with anyhing--including words that are demeaning and can put one's character in a bad light or give someone a bad impression of you.You attract what you put out there to some think--Kindness, goodness, optimism,and non-offensive language are more likely to attract similar vibes back to you--and I do want you to have an opportunity to meet good people--not scum.

All my love, Mummy


Message 32:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 8:19 am
Subject: Hi typographical correction ---Read two other messages!!
Hi--I meant will "NOT" earn you any accolades in my last message. Have too much on my mind these days. Sorry but I missed the word when I was typing.There habe been a few other errors as well--I will try to be more careful when I write to you again.

It has been quite warm and sunny in vancover for the past few days--so different from the time you left!!

Just don't forget to read the other two messages!!

Talk to you soon,

Mummy


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From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 1:30 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi,

So do all these positive messages mean that I can send your clothes down to Houston. If so, Just send me the address and include zip code as well?

Just remember--if you want to come back, we can send you money to purchase a ticket. It doesn't sound like you want to come back now and if you are happy, then I am happy for you.

Your father says that he hopes that you are happy and well.By the way, Is that natural geranium supplement working with regard to your mood disorder?

Don't forget to answer my questions this time.

Love you, Mummy


Message 34:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 12:57 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

I will send you more news after I hear from you again.

I hope that you have read my last two messages and I am still waiting for a response. Just wanted to know if we should be sending your clothes--if you are staying--if things are going well.

Love Mummy


Message 35:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 10:38 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---- Keep on shining--keep on smiling!
"If" you are planning on staying in Channelview for awhile, don't forget to send your forwarding address--I cannot send your baggage on without it.

Love, Mummy


Message 36:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 6:12 am
Subject: from mummy---Hope that you are well
Hi,

I guess you must be busy lately--I am still waiting to hear from you to find out if you plan to stay down there for awhile or not--if you are happy and want to continue staying at your friend's house, I can ship them to the closest depot but still need your full mailing address just in case your things get lost or misplaced. You will need your passport to claim these baggages of course when they arrive in Houston and your friend would have to help you pick them up.

Just let me know if that is what you want to do --stay or return to Canada at this time--


Love Mummy


Message 37:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 4:45 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy --
Hi,

I got your address and I will save it. I had a hard time understanding your message. You kept saying down there (where?)and up there as well. Do you mean Channelview or Vancouver-so I am not sure which places you meant for what. Do you want me to send all or only part of your belongings to Channelview--please make your message clear to me. I presume that you are sending me the address because you want me to send your things. I will also need your friend's full name just in case your things get lost or misplaced.


Love, Mummy



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Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 4:59 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy --
hi,

One more think. I don't want to interfere but why wouldn't Jack want to talk to Rich's father to reassure him? This kind of evasion might cause more problems than it solves. All he has to do is be honest and upfront with people- he shouldn't have to avoid Rich's father anymore than me or your father for example--if he cares about you or Rich, why wouldn't he want to reassure your parents? I am certainly no theat to him and Rich's father may be a very reasonable man as well--if not, "then" he can choose to not speak to him but should he not "try" first before forming any preconceptions?

Just letting you know what I think--I hope that you are fine with this person. I hope that he is nice to you and treating you well. If that is the case and if you are sure that Jack is a good and honest guy, then I am happy if you are happy. I hope that Jack truly is this kind of person.

I just need more clarity on your last message about the clothes--read my other message to you.


Mesage 39:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 4:24 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi,

Try not to be so overly sensitive if you can. I was just trying to help if there was a communication problem with yuor freinds--sorry if it seemed like I was intentionally critical.

I hope that you like Texas--"the Lone Star State" and the famous battle of the Alamo which I believe took place in the 1830's near San Antonio which was a Spanish mission. A small band of pioneers and settlers took on general by the name of Santa Ana and his huge army--they lost but they made their last stand for freedom right there. They were all killed but the incident enraged the people who were living there so much that they rallied around l Sam Houston (who Houston is named after today) and they led a force against the Spanish army. They defeated Santa Ana's men and Texas finally became a state within the union.The people felt that were now free to determine their own destiny. They no llonger subordinate themselves to the unjust and rigid rules of an autocracy. They would finally have guaranteed liberties under as defined in the US constitution. Davy Crocket and Jim Bowie (who fought at the Alamo) are two of the most legendary American heroes that you might have heard of. I think Texas has a very beautiful flag--red,white, and blue with the lone star.Lots of cowboys and ranches there too. it is one of the states with the highest number of military personnel too. possibly due to its proud "fighting" history. Audie Murphie, the most decorated American soldier of World War II came from Texas.

Your father has been off work for several days because they discovered asbestos at the shipyard. It was overlooked by the company that was hired to do the contaminaation before. He is supposed to be called back to work tomorrow but we shall see.

Thanks for giving me Jack's name. Did your other friend arrive yet? (user 8 I read your post where you said that you felt like the most ret*d person at the house. I hope that you do not feel that way today.I will send off your clothes as soon
as we can. I will ask your father as he is baack at work.


I I know that you must be sick of this question but are you happy down there living in Jack's house and are you planning on staying? I am asking again because of that post.If you are, that's great but if not, just let me know. Are the supplements that you are taking helping with your mood?


Don't forget to answer my questions=---I sent two e-cards to your e-music cards to your address yesterday. Hope you like them.

All my love, Mummy


Message 40:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 4:29 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

Sorry for all the typographical errors in my previous post--I did not take the time to notice--was typing too fast on this lap top.
Hope that you read your other message and answer my questions there.

Look foreard to hearing from you soon,

Love, Mummy


Message 41:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 3:58 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy--
Hi,

I am glad that you seem to have found some good friends where you are. I hope so. I am still worried about you because you say that you are still depressed at times. I think you should probably wait awhile longer to see if the withdrawl symptoms will go away. If they don't, ask your friend if there is an emergency clinic that you can go where they won't charge you--is there anything? We will need to purchase you health insurance if you are staying down there.

How do you find Rich now that you have had a chance to meet him? Does he seem happy tgo be there with you guys?

Your father told me to call Greyhound today to ask how much they will charge to send your bagagges to Houston. We will need to send money later for you to buy a cell phone there in Channelview or Houston. I will let you know where the closest place will be for you guys to pick up your things.I will send you money for a cell phone later. Does Jack get free minutes on his celll phone at all? I would like to call you on the day that we send your things there just to let you know when they will arrive.Or will you be fixing the home phone soon?

PS: One must be a good friend to make a good friend--kindness, understanding, compassion ,and respect for others is the pathway to the liberation of the soul.

We will send your things down but remember that if anything changes, you can still come back at anytime. I just want to reassure you. I realize that it does take time to get to know people and that you need some time to discover what you would like to do with your life . When you have discovered what that is, let us know and if we can help you to achieve your goal in anyway, we will.

All my love, Mummy

Message 42:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 8:29 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

I hope that you don't smoke pot anymore or mix different kinds of drugs. If your friend wants to smoke pot or experiment a lot, that is his choice. I pray thou will never mix all of these substances again--it could be very dangerous.

If you still have the problem that you had in Edmonton, then you may need to go back on the celexa. ritalin, or something that actually works and you should not take alcohol with them. If you want to live a long and healthy life, then you must take care of yourself. If those natural stimulants don't work, then you will need to go to an emergency clinic (ask if there is a free one) so that you can be prescribed something for your problem. Perhaps you will be o'k in a couple of days but if not, you should ask your friend if there is a psychologist or psychiatrist that he can take you too. Le me know how you are feeling in a couple of days but don't forget to send me a telephone number that I can reach you at. We need it to send your clothing down there.

I am worried about you since you are still having problems with your condition. You can always come back home and get help for your condition her but if you are staying in Texas, I will need a telephone number to contact you at. Le me know how you are feeling.

Take care and I will speak to you soon,

Love, Mummy


Message 43:

From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 10:27 am
Subject: Hi again - Let me know if I can call you
Hi,

Your father says that if you smoke pot in American and get caught, you would automaticaly be deported or go to jail. And Texas have the stiffest sentences. So please take care of you rself and be responsible. Don't take any illegal drugs unless you want to go to jail or be deported from the USA. And they will do it in an instant. We have to let you know because perhaps you are not aware of the law.

and as I mentioned earlier, no alcolhol with medication and no mixing of various medications without a doctor's approval.

I thought that the legal stimulants were working. If that is not the case, then you should either come back home and see a doctor here right away or someone there in which case I will have to buy you medical insurance.

Let me know what you think is the best course for you. I hope that you choose wisely. If you can live a stable life in the place that you are in, be happy and responsible for yourself and NOT break the law, then I guess that staying down there ifine. Especially if you really feel that you are among true friends. If you do not feel that you can live a stable and happy life down there, then you should probably return. You will need help for your under=stimulation problems wherever you are. But you are eligible for free medical help up here. That is the only difference. But if you are going to be responsible and not break the law and would be happy where you are, then we are happy to help with insurance costs. Only you can decide what is best for you since you must consider these factors to put it all in perspective.

Love, Mummy


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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:16 pm
Subject: Hi from Mummy -- Keep on smiling--love ya!
Hi,

Your father is in one of his bad moods again with me. I will have to leave soon--he doesn't want to share a place so I hope that I can get something (a small furnished place for now) a.s.a.p. I start with the dentist next week if all goes well. That is what has held me back so much. I will be glad when the work is finished.

I will try to get him to send your clothes as soon as I can. You did not give me a telephone number to contact you at. Is that because I really have no way of contacting you by phone?

Anyhow, if you are starting to feel better, that is good. I hope so. You worry me when you make remarks like "I could kill them". I don't want to read your posts all the time but I just thought I would get some more news since you do not tell me much about how you are really feeling and I do worry sometimes. I hope that you understand. I do not need to know everything about your life but I do need to know whether or not you are feeling fine. I know that you still have some anger and bitterness in you and I am hoping that now that you are with friends that you can move on with your life and cast these dark thoughts and feelings aside like yesterday's baggage. It is time for you to move on to a better life--start thinking that way and in less time than you ever dreamed possible, we have get in the habit of dismissing these darker thoughts in our mind and replacing them with sunnier, more positive scenaros. I believe that you are as capable as anyone else in doing so but if you cannot, then you would need professional help for that but I think you can -- you said that you are starting to feel better now and if you are, then you don't need the bitterness and anger of past year years dragging you back down again.--it is past and you seem to be ready now to try and move on to a brighter tomorrow---everything will not be perfect--it never is. But you can still have a wonderful life--now you know that it is possible to be content and to have others to share our lives with ---friends can often make each others' lives more pleasant. Friends should also try to forgive each other if there is a misunderstanding. Sometimes, we have to be the first one to reach out and hopefully they will be also capable of doing the same if they can. It is not always easy and we need to understand that as well. if they really are friends,So much depends upon one's own outlook on things.I hope that you can learn not to harbour resentment or dwell upon long-festering wounds. We must learn to forgive each other in this world if we are to become better people. One way is to try to be positive and help show people that there really is a better way to live by setting a good example yourself. There are so many things that you could do to help make other peoples' lives better than laying blame. We should try to discard these kind of negative thoughts which carry negative vibes and prevent us from moving on with our own lives and being happy. I hope that you have found some friends that you can share your thoughts and ideas with sometimes. But even if your friends would turn against you, there would be other people that you could meet elsewhere. If things don't turn out, you can always come back to stay with me and perhaps go back to school or do something else that you can find interesting where you can meet people. Perhaps. you will stay with the friends that you have and your friendships will last a long time, That is great too. Human beings and that certainly includes you just have to be much more positive about things. Try not to be overly sensitive if you can-there are people who are often get a bit sensitive about some things but it is better to just let things roll off our shoulders as much as possible or to try and talk to that person to assure them that you just want to be friends with people and if there is anyway in which you put their mind at ease. Sometimes, it is good to reassure people that we do want to be their friend. If they are really mean, or abusive to us, then we should just let them be alone, I guess. We cannot save everyone but sometimes a kind word or deed "can" go a lnng way--that is all that I am saying. There will always be some people with whom it will not make one iota of a difference after we have tried to be nice to them--those are the people we should leave alone.

Well, I found out that health insurance (the kind that you would need) expatriate insurance is very expensive. (a thousand dollars for six months!) but once I get a job, I will try to get it for you. I obviously cannot get it now. Perhaps, I might be able to find some other short-term coverage on a monthly basis (I am not sure if there is any) You usually have to pay for six months coverage all at once. But let me see what I can do in the short-term but I need more time. I have to get back to work soon but I cannot work full-time until I am finished getting my teeth fixed. It shouldn't take a long time but it will take a month or so. I can work part-time for now and the first thing that I will be able to do for you is buy you a cell phone. Then at least, we could be in touch. Perhaps, you can find out sometime abuot what kind of deals they have there for pay as you go. It is really bad to go for a signed contract in Canada--It is probably the same down there but I am not sure. I think that pay as you go is better everywhere but perhaps you can enlighten me. I wonder what kind of a deal your friend has.

As I mentioned, I will get your father to send your clothes as soon as he can. He will probably have to get me a room now since he is so mean=spirited. I cannot take his dreadful moods so it is better that I live away from him as soon as I can. I am hoping to have a place of my own within a few days---with a telephone. I will let you know it that happens and send you my new number and address.

Let me know how you are doing. I hope that you stay away from pot altoghether. The others should too--it is not good for mood disorders or anything else really. It makes a lot of people lazy and unmotivated. I knew people back in college and university that languished instead of being more aware of what was going on around them and actually participating more in life. And whatever you do , try not to drink too much alcohol either. Holidays and special occasions or a party once every blue moon is alright I guess but you really don't need alcohol to have a good time. And if you have some. it is not very much fun getting drunk--quite counter-productive, wouldn't you say? If you do drink during those times, try to be very moderate in your consumption and that way you will not make a fool out of yourself. I can count the number of times when I did so when I was young but I learned my lesson and vowed never to do so again and I eventually stuck to my guns. Hangovers are not very much fun and besides, we might go too far overboard in what we say or do sometimes so we should try to keep things on an even keel. Actually, if you don't feel like drinking, don't. If you decide to have a drink, enjoy it but try not to go beyond your level of tolerance.

I pray that all will continue to go well for you. I hope that you will be able to eventually decide what you want to actually do in
your life to make a difference in this world. We all need to find something. I hope that Jack and the others discover what it is that they want to do as well. As I said earlier, I hope that you will let me know what your future plans are when you know more yourself. I guess that you need some time to discover first.

I will talk to you soon, dear.

Love Mummy


Message 45:


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To: Ana54
Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 4:11 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy --- Nice sunny day!
Hi,

I hope that you can find the time to read and answer all of my posts after you read them. I saw what you had written about Rich. Is he really as weird as he sounds? I hope that he is not a really paranoid person. You guys have to be careful about whom you welcome to live in the house. Try to get to know the people better before you invite them down. You are taking enough of a chance as is by entertaining virtual strangers. So I hope that you and Jack are careful. Well, let me know if he is mentally stable. I hope so. He could be fine but just make sure that you lock your door before going to bed at night--just in case. I think that if he turned out to be crazy, you and Jack would probably agree that he would not fit into your dream to create a nice, friendly, stable environment for folks like yourselves. There are plenty of people out there who would probably love to share their lives with their fellow aspies.That guy from Quebec sounded nice and so do quite a few others---just take a bit more time to get to know people. Perhaps there are certain questions that you and Jack can ask first to determine whether or not there is a good chance that they will fit ito your household. I don't believe that you guys should be strict at all--just cautious. These are the times that we live in and I am concerned about your saftey and Jack's as well. Perhaps Rich will be better behaved later on--I am curious---I hope that he will be fine and treat you guys well.

Don't forget to answer my other e-mails. I spoke to Peter (Thorne) long-distance today. Him and his sister are supposed to put the house in Beaconsfield on the market in May--I told Peter that I hope that he moves to Nova Scotia because I think that is where I will go within a few months time. Barry has found a new job back there for the time being.

I will let you know where I wilk be staying soon. Our time is almost up here.


All my love, Mummy



Message 46:

From:[censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:04 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy ---
Hi,

Just waiting for you to get back to me to find out if you are o'k. I have to move day after tomorrow--we may get a place together aferall but I am not entirely sure --- will keep you posted.

Will get him to send your clothes after we move. Sorry that it is taking awhile but I am not working yet so must depend upon him but he did say that he will send them so not to worry.

Hope that you are feeling fine and that things are going well.

Talk to you as soon as I hear more from you.

Love, Mummy


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To: Ana54
Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 7:41 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

I am so discouraged--I jou. Just lost my much longer message to you and it was an important one. I just wanted to say that I think that you should not be so down on yourself or lash out at others in anger. You havoue to let your bitterness and resentment go--you are a young adult now and regardless of how your ou feel about the past, you are responsible for yoOUur own life now. Only you can choose what kind of person you wish to be.

YOU ARE YOUNG AND INTELLLIGENT BUT IF YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE YOUOUR DREAMS AND GOALS, THEN YOU MUST LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF AND HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR OWN ABILITY--I KNOW THAT YOU CAN ACHIEVE GREAT THINGS BUT ONLY IF YOU LET GO OF THAT DARK AND BITTER SIDE OF YOURSELF. IF YOUOU CANNOT BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE, THERE IS NO NEED TO MAKE THEM YOUR ENEMIES--EVEN IF THEY WERE THE ONES WHO SEEM TO DISLIKE YOU OR YOU OUR WORDS OR IDEAS FIRST. ANGER ONLY LEADS TO MORE ANGER, BITTERNES, HATRED, AND EVEN VIOLENCE IN THIS WORLD. IF YOU CHOOSE THAT PATH, THEN YOU WOULD BE NO BETTER THAN THE PEOPLE WHO RUN THE JUDGE ROTHENBERG CENTRE. DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND THAT? DIDN'T YOU GO DOWN TO TEXAS TO BE A SPOKESWOMAN--TO HELP PEOPLE WHO OFTEN HAVE NO VOICE OF THEIR OWN WHEN IT COMES TO THESE MATTERS? I THOUGHT THAT YOU WERE GOING TO HELP JACK WORK TOWARDS THIS GOAL.

Perhaps you and your friend could write a book, start a magazine about autism featuring a lot of interesting and current news and events, or perhaps you will find others way s of making a difference in this world that has nothing to do with autism. But no matter what type of work choose to do in the end, you cannot leave human kindness and forgiveness out of the equation. We cannot achieve anything in life if we carry around a lot of bitter baggage and continue to lash out and at itmes even blame
others. Whether you are Christian or not, you cannot succeed if you do not expunge this poisonous attitude--like any kind of poison, it will infect your whole body and destroy all the humanity or goodness in you.

I am disappointed about what you have said about me-- I have never been overly pious or sanctimonious--just always wanted you be happy. I cannot live your life for you--you are an adult now and must choose what type of person you will become and find something that means a lot to you--going back to school and getting a certificate, diploma, or degree in something so that you could work in that field might help. You could study to become a journalism, psychology, natural medecine, investigative reporting (forensics) biology, archaeology, desk top publishing, or whatever your main interest is. You could start by studying part-time and if you wanted to stay in Texas, we could find a way to help with the cost--especially if you started full-time. Yu also have the option of returning to Canada and living in a university residence environment if you did not want to remain down there. But I get the impression that you are happy living with Jack and Rich. I hope that they feel the same.

Your fowl language is not something that will endeaar you to anyone. If you have gone down there just to lash out at people with angy lewd words,. ANGER LEADS TO MORE ANGER, BITTERNESS, AND EVEN VIOLENCE IN THIS WORLD. I THOUGHT THAT YOU WANTED TO HELP PEOPLE, NOT TEAR THEM FURTHER APART BUT THAT IS WHAT YOU WILL DO IF YOU CANNOT LEARN TO TOLERATE AND FORGIVE THOSE WHO MAY NOT ALWAYS AGREE WITH YOU OR EVEN LIKE YOU. YOU CAN DISAGREE WITH PEOPLES OPINIONS IN A NICE KIND WAY WITHOUT CALLING THEM BAD NAMES IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO THIS, THEN YOU WILL BE NO BETTER THANT EH PEOPLE THAT RUN THE JUDGE ROTHENBERG CENTRE.

You have the potential to accomplish a lot if you get rid of that dark and bitter side that you are allowing to fester. You need to start thinking more positively about yourself and others. Nobody else is using such bad language online and you should be as respectful as they are in that regard. I have met some people who have not liked me or disgreed with me in life but I have tried not to take it too personally. If I had, I could not move on with my own life.

Love, Mummy



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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 8:15 am
Subject: Hi again
Hi,

One more thing: I hope that you can set a good example for all of those kids at places like the Judge Rothenberg Centre. If you truly want to champion the underdog, then you cannot use such fowl language and posting it online for all to see is even worse.

You are betraying yourself and the things that you profess to believe in if you doou this. What kind of a role model or teacher or helper will you be if you continue on this way?

You still have a chance to be a leader or be a strong voice in the autism community but you will need to take the matter seriously if you truly want to make a difference. If you care about autistic people and humanity in general, then dispel with the anger and move towards the light. Those kids need people that are living in the sunshine and have smiles on their faces--not hatred, anger, and dark, morbid thinking.

You can do anything you want if you put your mind to it. Stop trying to find excuses by blaming others. If you cannot help yourself in changing your attitude, then you must seek professional help. You said that you could do it on your own and I believed you and hopefully, you can. I still believe that you can.

I will still find out if you are still covered by Alberta Medicare just in case you get sick when you are down there. I will call them soon. However our Canadian coverage is limited and as I mentioned, I would still need to purchase travel insurance for you but that would be a lot cheape than expatriate insurance. Howver, you will need to travel up to Canada six months from the day that you left or they may not let you in the country next time or you could be deported after that. Since you do not have a closef family member who lives there or you are not married to an American, you need to come back to Canada sometime in late May or June to ensure that you are registered for medicare and you would need to stay in Canada for four or five days and then it would not be necessary to apply for a visa. You could just go down there as a visitor for another six months--however, if they ever took the trouble of checking on their computers that you were living down there full-time ,then they could refuse you entry or perhaps not let you back in the country.That is why you must do thing that is legal while you are down there and come back before the deadline and then you can go back down again.The best thing to do is to apply to become a part-time student if you are staying down there--you could then apply for a student visa--you might still have to come back here to apply for it and then go back down.

Anyhow, we can talk all about that later. You still have a few months grace. As long as you are getting along well with your friends---try not to use such fowl language--it may degrade you in their eyes ys well--if you do not think well of yourself, who else will? You can be a nice person and spek without using lewd language or you can be the other. That is your choice--noone else can ever be responsible for your behaviour regardless of how you think you were treated or mistreated in the past. You are not a child but an adult now and you must start thinking like one.

I will not keep saying this so it is up to you -- I will stop saying anything soon so I hope that you take these words to heart knowing that I only want the best for you and that is all that I have ever wanted.

Love, Mummy
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To: Ana54
Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 9:24 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
One last thought not as important but if you continue to use the kind of vitriolic language on wp, Alex will kick you off == it is his duty to ensure that his is a site that resoects all indiividuals and if everyone were to use those kind ot degrading words like you on there, his site would be banned. So do not spoil it for the others either.

It is so hear to see this coming out of you==I feel so hurt by and I think you should apologize to the folks on wp and promise to clean up your talk and keep that promise. Otherwise, if you are going to behave that way, on there, what is the ultimate benefit. What pssible joy could you derive from intimidating or insulting others? They will eventually see that you are mean and intolerant. Not even the other people (whether it is the ones who like you or not) use such demeaning language.

You will even turn your friends against you if you keep this up. You have caused me much distress but I guess you don't give too much of a damn about me. You have proven that lately through your words and actions.

I pray to God that you will grow up and see the light soon. You are an adult now and even your friends do not behave this way and if they get the impression that you are trouble , they will not continue to stupport you if they believe in fair-mindedness and tolerance. I have seen Adverbs and Richs post and they are polite and respectful of others. I hope that you will be too from now on--for the sake of youself , your friends, and humanity at large.

I know that you can be a good and kind person but your words and actions must prove that as well. Only you can reverse this behaviour---do you want the anger to control you or you to control your own life, that is the question---to be or not to be a good person. God has given us all a free will---the future is in your own hands as far as your own actions and beliefsi are concerned. You can love or hate humanity.out,You can try to help the world throgh love or caring or you hate but if you decide to hate.

I hope that you can move beyond all this and make yourself and others proud. Lifting youself and other people up like the kids at the Rothenberg Centre is important but you are no better than the perpetrators of injustice if you display the same hatred and creulty.

Talk to you soon Mummy



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From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 12:08 am
Subject: HI from Mummy
Correction on one of my previous posts: I meant that if you decided to study part-time down there, we would be able to help you with the cost. I found out that you can get a form from the school in the States during the course of your studeis.. If this is something that might be of interest to you, let me know and we can start for your enrollment now. Perhaps Jack could recommend a nice school or if not, we can find one ourselves that is not too far away. We would need to buy you a bus pass as well.

But right now, I will see abut sending your clothes as soon as possible. We need to move out of the place that we are living in tomorrow morning so I cannot do it until after we have moved inot the new place.

I hope that you show some gratitude someday for all of the times that I have been there and helped you in your life instead of being so bitter. You were lucky to have a mother who cared so much about you and still does. I never wanted anything in return except your kindness and respect.

I will wait to hear from you. Let me know what your plans are--if you would like to attend school part-time or if you have something else that you are going to do down there.

Talk to you later,

Mummy



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From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:02 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi


Hope that you are feeling better and not so mad at the world.If you are not happy in your present situation, [b]u can always return. Just leave a message on your father's cell and we will send you money to return.

Perhaps you can discuss your problem with your friend and not criticise or get upset if he tries to help by telling you honestly what he thinks. You need to try and understand why you are feeling the way you do. It would be great if you could solve the problem without celexa but if the problem gets worse, perhaps you need to go back on it if you think it can really help.Otherwise, you need to find out why you think you have this problem and find a positive solution. Going back to school part-time, joining a church in the neighbourhood or some other activity might help as well. Perhaps you could discuss yot ur ideas with your friends and you could all find something that is fun and positive ( but legal) that you could do together.Perhaps you could reach out to other autistic folks in the community or start your own association or meeting. I don't think there is one in Houston that has people to lead it now. I am sure that you guys can put your heads together and get something going. How about a magazine? One could be publisher, editor, artist, photographer, etc. Could be very exciting and there would probably be a market for it. This is a project where everyone's special talents could be used. Your writing, planning, and organizational skills could come into play here. You could be co-publisher and a writer choosing to address concerns that would resonate with your readership. I cannot tell you want to do, merely throw some ideas out there. Perhaps if you spoke to your friends about all of these things, you could all start working together toward some common goal if that is possible.

Having something to do might help to solve your stimulation problem. If not, then you will need to see a professional as soon as you can --as I said I will have to find out if it is possible to get "affordable coverage" for that down there.You are already down there so I would need to find out if I could purchase you travel insurance from here at this time. I will let you know but I will work on getting your clothes to you first.

I will try to find out if you still have Alberta coverage but as I mentioned earlier, it would be very limited for down there so I would need to purchase you supplemental coverage. I cannot do that until after we send your clothes since we must pay for the shipping. Then, I will see about the other as soon as I can.

I have been misunderstood by you but I will not rave about it -- I would rather see you be happy and healthy. I care enough about you to try and help as best I can. I am not an angel or a magician but I do believe in the power of faith and hope that you can get closer to God yourself. Everyone in this world has a cross to bear, not only you, but when we pick up that cross and go on and have the courage and determination to seek something higher and better than our own limitations, we begin to see the light of Truth shining bright and beautiful. We can accomplish anything if we believe what the bible says: that all things are possible if we only believe. If we believe, we can move forward into the light. We can take steps toward choosing a career that will make a positive difference in our lives and the lives of others. We can finally achieve our hopes and dreams!!



Chins up, Mummy



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From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:13 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

I saw your post about Rich. He is going to destroy your friend Jack's place if this keeps up If it is as bad as it sounds, you guys had better send him home with a bus ticket. Jack's mother will find out and might even ask him to leave. This sounds awful. It sounds like he really has some serious problems and one of them is the lack of concern for the property of others--that house will be ruined.

Try to clean up the mess for yours and Jack's sake and if he continues on like this, I think that you shoul speak to Jack and decide what you guys should do.

His mother will be very disappointed and maybe even shocked to see the house destroyed and that is what may happen if this guy continues. Jack may have to ask him to leave in a nice way if this continues. He may even have to pay for his travel home but anything is better than the destruction of his family home.

love, Mummy



Message 53:


From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:26 am
Subject: Hi from Mummy
Hi,

I hope that you read "all" of your posts soon. I also hope that you start to clean up the house--perhaps you can make it look neat and clean with some semblance of order again.

Start by cleaning or washing the stains off everything and doing all of the dishes. I am sure that Jack would be grateful and that is something that you could do for him being kind enough to let you stay in his home for free. I am sure that it would be appreciated.

Someone has to try and keep the place clean--it is for own health and safety to do so. If you show that you can take the lead in this fashion, that will also show people that you are can manage things quite well. People will know that you can be responsibe and depended upon if they need your help as well.


I do hope that you read all of my words from the posts because I have taken a lot of time out my own schedule to respond because I do care and want you to succeed. I wish that I had a fuzzy polar bear to send you -- I will after I start working if you do not come back to Canada soon.
Love Mummy



Love, Mummy



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To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 7:33 am
Subject: HI FROM MUMMY
hI,

yOU KNOW WHAT TO DO TO AVOID BEING BANNED SO I WON'T EVE N GO THERE. JUST STOP THE FOUL LANGUAGE -- ESPECIALLY F WORDS BUT ALSO WORDS LIKE b***h AND WHORE--MANY PEOPLE FIND THESE WORDS DISTURBING BECAUSE THEY USUSALLY HAVE NEGATIVE CANNOTATIONS AND ARE OFTEN USED IN A DEGRADING TONE OR FASHION.FIND OTHER WAYS TO EXPRESS YOURSELF SO PEOPLE CAN SEE THE NICENESS IN YOU--PEOPLE COMING ON THIS BOARD NEED TO BE INSPIRED AND UPLIFTED SO IF YOU WANT TO DO YOUR FELLOW-ASPIES A FAVOUR, BE KIND, TOLERANT,PATIENT, POLITE, AND WELL=SPOKEN. IF YOU WANT TO BE A LEADER OR AN INSPIRATION TO OTHERS IN THE ASPIE COMMUNITY, NOW IS THE TIME TO SHOW PEOPLE ON WP THAT DESPITE THE CHALLENGES THAT YOU FACE, YOU ARE ALSO TRYING TO BE THE BEST PERSON THAT YOU CAN POSSIBLY BE AND CAN GAIN THE CONFIDENCE NECESSARY TO RISE ABOVE THEM.

IF YOU OUAND YOUR FRIENDS COULD START SOMETHING TO GIVE THE COMMUNITY MORE HOPE TO MOVE FORWARD THAT WOULD BE GREAT. I MENTIONED SEVERAL POSSIBILITIES IN MY PREVIOUS POSTS. BUT YOU DO NEED TO OVERCOM THE DARK RESENTMENT AND BITTERNESS THAT YOU FEEL TO ACCOMPLISH THIS. IF YOU COULD WAKE UP TOMORROW MORNING AND START ASKING YOURSELF WHAT YOU AND YOUR FRIEND CAN DO TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE AND THEN TALK THINGS OVER TO SEE IF THERE IS SOMETHING YOU GUYS CAN DO TO HELP OTHERS AND MANAGE TO MAKE A LIVING FROM IT AT SOME POINT AS WELL, THAT WOULD BE GREAT.

IT WOULD BE NICE IF YOU ACTUALLY COULD GO SCHOOL PART-TIME BUT I AM NOT PUSHINGT YOU TO DO THAT--JUST LET ME KNOW IF AND WHEN YOU WANT TO GO BACK AND WHERE -- IN CANADA OR THE USA. YOU WOULD HAVE MUCH MORE CHOICE IN CANADA AND IT WOULD BE EASIER FOR YOU TO WORK UP HERE AS WELL BUT IT ALSO DEPENDS UPON HOW HAPPY YOU ARE IN TEXAS. IF YOU HAVE TRULY FOUND DEEP AND LASTING FRIENDSHIP DOWN THERE-- I DON'T KNOW HOW JACK WOULD FEEL ABOUT YOU STAYING THERE LONG-TERM.

DON'T FORGET TO HELP OUT WITH THE HOUSEHOLD CHORES AND IT MIGHT EVEN BE NECESSARY FOR YOU TO DO IT ALONE SOMETIMES. MOST GUYS TEND TO BE LESS CONCERNED ABOUT THE MESS.(ALTHOUGH YOU DO HAVE SOME MALES WHO ARE NEAT-FREAKS OR JUST PLAIN NEAT)

JACK ACUTALLY STRUCK ME AS A NEAT PERSON AND FAIRLY EASY-GOING--HOPE THAT YOU WILL TREAT HIM IN THE SAME MANNER.

IF YOU HAVE ANY PROBLEMS WITH WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAY OR DO, TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHERE THEY ARE COMING FROM AND HELP IF YOU CAN. IF YOU CANNOT HELP, THEN YOU MUST MOVE ON TO PEOPLE WHOM YOU CAN CONNECT WITH MORE EFFECTIVELY. THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOME PEOPLE TAHT WE CONNECT WITH BETTER THAN OTHERS--THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT WE SHOULD DISLIKE THE OTHERS--WE JUST HAVE TO PICK AND CHOOSE WHO ARE OUR CLOSER FRIENDS WILL BE.WE CAN HAVE MANY AQUAINTANCES BUT FEWER CLOSE FRIENDS AND SOME PEOPLE THAT WE MAY JUST HAVE TO IGNORE ALTOGETHER IF WE FEEL THAT THEY EXUDE BAD VIBES OR NEGATIVE KARMA. BUT NO MATTER HOW UGLY OR MEAN THEY APPEAR TO BE, WE SHOULD NOT DEMEAN OR DESPISE THEM--HATE ONLY BREEDS MORE HATE AND SO DOES ANGER AND DISPAIR.

IF THE SUN IS NOT SHINING TODAY; IF THINGS ARE NOT GOING QUITE THE WAY THAT YOU HAD HOPED OR PLANNED, TOMORROW IS ANOTHER DAY--THE SUN WILL SHINE AGAIN. YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT IT ALWAYS DOES AND ALWAYS WILL--SO IT IS MOR LOGICAL TO REMAIN POSITIVE AND BELIEVE.

THE POPULAR SAYING IN THE OBAMA MOVEMENT IS "yES, YOU CAN AND I AM SENDING THIS MESSAGE TO YOU AND JACK--YES, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING THAT YOU PUT YOUR MINDS AND HEARTS TO.

hOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON,

lOVE, MUMMY



Message 55:


From: [censored]
To: Ana54
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 8:28 am
Subject: hI, HOPE THAT MY WORDS INSPIRTE YOU TODAY --
i HOPE THAT YOU HAVE THE TIME TO READ ALL OF THESE WORDS -- IT IS A PAEN TO THE POWER OF THE RESSURECTION OF THE HUMAN SPIRIT

WILL TAKE A REST AFTER THIS AND WAIT TO HEAR FROM YOU.

hI,

Don't worry so much about what your parents will think if you make a certain decision. you know the difference between right and wrong and are old enough to make your own decisions. I only hope that whatever you decide to do in life, you will be kind and good to others. That is all I hope and pray for. \

i don't think that you would be happy doing nothing with your life and i am sure that you are capable of making a decision about what you would like to do based upon what will make you happy. You may end up doing something that has a positive influence upon others or perhaps even helps other people directly. You have the luxury of time now to explore and discover what you would like to do You will decide in your time and your own way how you wish to fulfil your dreams and aspirations. you might want to create something up with your friends that will be beneficial to others or study part-time or both or volunteer or whatever.

Don't worry about what I think--if you strive to be a good and honest person, I don't care what road you choose if it leads to a happier you. We just need to try our best to get along with others and remain positive and bellieve that we can accomplish anything we set out to do--it might require a lot of patience and perseverence, but like Martin Luther King, jr said, "We may not get there now but I can tell you that we as a people WILL GET to the promised land.Such inspirationional words from a great man and a great leader.

Martin Luther King had a lot of faith--he understood that "BELIEVING" IS THE KEY.


Obama mentions HOPE in a lot of his speech--he may not even come close to Martin Luther King as a great spiritual leader--afterall, he is not a minister but a politician but nevertheless, he is right when he says "Where would we be without inspiring words and most of all "where would we be without hope?"
hat
Franklin Roosevelt (American president jduring the Great Depression Years and World WarII) once said that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself. So don't be afraid try something--if your plan fails after you have given it your best shot (which is unlikely but could happen) then you don't give or become afraid to try again. You try something else until you find the right thing for you.

Keep telling yourself that you can overcome--remember the song of the Civil Rights Movement--look what they were up against in the 1960's --the black peopla and many white people who joined the movement sang "We shall overcome" and they did even in the their darkest hour, they NEVER gave up or surrendered to dispair. They refused to believe what their detractors--the ones who tried to convince them that they were only dreamers. They struggled on for years until they achieved their full rights to life, liberty, and happiness under the constitution.

They showed WHAT A DIFFERENCE INDIVIDUAL WILL, STRENGH, AND DETERMINATION CAN MAKE---WE SHALL OVVERCOME, WE SHALL OVERCOME, WE SHALL OVERCOME SOMEDAY.

Remember those words and whenever you are feeling low and down on yourself, remember that other people have felt his way before--people who were much more poorly mistreated than you or me could ever imagine but they never gave up--they achieved freedom and equality and the most wonderful thing about it is that it was a non-violent movement. Victory was achieved through non-violent means.

If those dype of people who were so down-trodden for so long could RISSE ABOVE THEIR SUFFERING THROUGH THE POWER OF FAITH AND THE CONVICTION THAT THEY COULD MAKE A DIFFERENCE DAY BY DAY YEAR BY YEAR, THEN IT SEEMS TO BE THAT PEOPLE LIKE YOU AND YOUR FREINDS WHO HAVE A HILL TO CLIMB THAT APPEARS TO BE LESS STEEP.

NO EARTHY PROBLEM IS INSURMOUNTABLE--PROPHETS LIKE MOSES, GHANDI, AND MARTIN LUTHER KING PROVED THAT. AND ABOVE ALL, THE KING OF KINGS, JESUS CHRIST, HIMSELF IS THE ULTIMATE PROOF OF THE POWER OF RESSURECTION.

ALL MY LOVE,

MUMMY

What's your point? Actually, I think your mummy is quite invested in you; she repeatedly states, in different versions, she loves you, cares very about you, is in-tune with your life, friends, education, well-being/health.....

Do you realize MANY would give anything to have a mother, and yours does care about you. I simply do not understand - offended precisely WHY? I think you should be grateful. You want attention - she gives this to you.

No need to publish the entire document - we could get the idea with a sample. And phone #s, specifics? What's that?

I do not understand your premise. Do you?

Ana, I say this with all sincerity and without value judgment. I do read your prolific posts (not all). I am not a diagnostician, but am in the field of neuroscience and well-educated (chemistry/sciences), plus I am HFA and know many. Clearly, you're not autistic (at any level), as given by repeated evidence, and I'm not guessing. I am uncertain of your motive. If you notice, Aspies/Auties post differently, sharing their interests, concerns, style of knowing/learning, introspection, etc. You seem to need/want chatty social attention/approval instead - why is this? Rather exploitive. Confusing....computational error. Just rhetorical questions.

So is that really your mum?

I dont want opreachy attention. I didn't read a lot of it so I don't know what a lot of it says.

If you didn't bother to read it, why should we?

She seems like a caring mother, but as her child I'd probably have a problem with her being so much in contact with me and 'overly caring' for me. That's what you have a problem with too, if I understood right? Did you just want to share this or are you looking for somekind of an advice?

I could see it being possible to cut down the number of those pasted messages. Don't think that kind of an amount is necessary. And actually, I'm not sure what to think about revealing personal messages in general, but don't want to get judgemental about that.

Oh gag. You 1: have a mom and 2: she cares about you. What is the world coming to when mummies and daddies love their crotchfruit so much that they write e-mails, loaded with pearls of wisdom? What happened to the good ol' days when they threw their infants in the freezing pond, and said "that'll learn you to swim"?

Read between the lines -- it says i l o v e y o u
Enjoy it while it lasts.

You'll never meet her, and I got rid of her name, so I don't know who would have a problem with the number of pasted messages. I said all you have to do is read like the last 5 and the first 5 and you'd see how muchworse she got.


Why the flying f**k does she think Alex will ban me for bad language? He has a bad word filter on this site for a reason. Alex warned me about my "Post a random fact" threads in the Geting to know each other forum, but he NEVER SAID A WORD about my language. Is she jsut ridiculously ignorant, unfocused or just trying to scare me or piss me off? What's her problem?? Does she not know the filter is automatic or does she think the mods are manually editing all my posts??


What bothers me most about her, I guess, is that she thinks I am or am going to be a loser if I don't listen to her. That all my friends (Rich and Jack and others that don't live with us) will turn against me, that I'll have no friends, that I'll be banned from WP and lose even more friends. She thinks Rich and Jack will not like me if I use bad language but you should hear us every f*****g night. She thinks Alex will BAN me just because I assume he allows this language or he wouldn't use a bad word filter on his board! He might, but he would also just tell people that he didn't like their language!

I confess...I didn't read them all, either...

Sounds like you have 2 options; reply with what you feel, and be honest.
The other is you can have the email address blocked; most packages will let you do that.

Oh Ana, your mom loves you and is worried about you and you are not doing anything to relieve those worries. There is nothing sinister in her letters. You may not be aware that those of us from another generation have a lot of emotional difficulty with what your mother is diplomatically calling foul language. You use that kind of language around people our age, and bad things happen. It is hard to comprehend how younger people use such language so casually and nothing happens.
I don't know if your mom is awful or not, but the sense I get from her emails is that she is a tiger trying to protect you while trying to let you go and worrying about whether or not your decisions will hurt you. Please be decent to her even if you don't understand her emotional world.

Thanks, Matt. I could just make an email account just for her emails and check it when I feel like it. I know there's a lot of legitimate, nice, sweet, diplomatic stuff in there, I just can't handle the demeaning, degrading, humiliating, condescending, belittling, ignorant stuff that I can't handle, and there just isn't enough good stuff to make it worth reading sometimes in the depressed state I'm in.

erm. I'm confused. you said in the title "this person" is that actually your mother???

Yeah, she is. I never said, did I.

I agree it sounds like she is very concerned and genuinely cares, and sure- her views are a bit traditional.


Most mothers are a bit traditional. I think the "demeaning, degrading, humiliating, condescending, belittling, ignorant stuff" is what you're inferring, not what she's implying.

I'd suggest cutting her a little bit of slack...she sounds very sad. She might not understand you and your friends as well as you would like her to, but she sure sounds like she's trying.


...are these the "brain damaging" letters you've been posting about?

I just don't think I can trust her in a solidarity kind of way, that's all. She values her values more than she values me. The closest people in her life are not her values; her values are. Do you know what I mean?

I second what labpet says...and I think it is a little underhanded to be pasting all her private messages for everyone to read.
I know people who long to have parents who care about them even a little.
You should be a little more grateful that your mother even bothers to take the time to check how you are.