Are you scared of obligations?

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I feel sometimes like, there's a limit to what even the closest people to you will tolerate. I feel like if I don't do well in school my parents will be disappointed, even though not in me, by the fact that I was unable to do better, even if it "wasn't my fault" and "I just wasn't cut out for it". I feel like, say one day I'm unable to do anything? What if I'm unable to even talk to them? What if I'm unable to do housework, unable to do schoolwork, unable to do homework, unable to have a good social life, unable to keep or even get a job? I mean, I know this will probably never ever happen, but what if I'm just UNABLE (not unwilling) to do anything? Will I be liked or loved or tolerated less because of it? What if I become a total disappointment, what if I become incapable either physically or mentally/psychologically of doing ANYTHING? How will I fulfill the obligations I'm expected to fulfill in order to be a productive contributing family member/citizen and therefore loved/liked/tolerated?

yeah...I start treating them as transactions. Someone does something nice for me, I owe them. I pay them off as quickly as possible. I like it better when people owe me. Strange, ain't it?

I'm unable to work or go to school, yet my parents and family members still love me.

it really all depends on who the people around you are

society doesnt recognize every role in the human species some are seen as dangerous others as useless so it really depends on the people around you's capability to see that you can only be who you are and their capability to extend love out to someone even if they dont think that the person has a practical purpose.

My mother said she loved me and would love me no matter what but I also got comments from her about how I was dragging her down, I would have to think about my future sometimes, and in these irritating moaning, groaning, yelling or shrieking hysterical tones.

s'pose love doesnt always make everything easy.

I haven't heard that I'm a spoiled brat in a whole month or month and a half!!1 Because I haven't lived with my parents in a month or month and a half!

Sweetie, your mom loves you. I'm a mom and sure of it. I knwo my own frustrate me sometimes. I hurt for them when they under estimate themselves. My daughter is smarter than I was at her age, and yet she doesn't appriciate it. She puts up this act. She done it so long I think she's forgotten how capible she is. It's like she's hiding.

Mom's love their kids. We know that odds are, they aren't going to make President....but we hope to see a personal best. You do a little good today and build on that tomorrow. Just a bit at a time. Just a bit a day. That's all any of us do.

And yes. Even now, obligations are intimidating. I very much have a fear of failure.
I think I let that fear of failure (failure of a parent) dictate me too much. Yip. I gripe. I'm scared that I'm going to let my kids down by not teaching them well enough how and what to do. Feeling responsible for some other human being's sucess is way heavy.
Freaky, scary. Anybody else get that??