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21 Mar 2008, 7:41 pm

since there is a things not to say thread i thought i would add a 20 things not to do thread...
1. yell at me
2. laugh at me

add to the list....



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21 Mar 2008, 8:24 pm

tweety_fan wrote:
since there is a things not to say thread i thought i would add a 20 things not to do thread...
1. yell at me
2. laugh at me

add to the list....


A few of my unfavourite things topic

I take it these are things you would not want someone to do to you when you are upset.
3. Use condescending language
4. Unsolicited touch


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21 Mar 2008, 9:05 pm

you got that right



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21 Mar 2008, 11:56 pm

Don't try starting a conversation or 20-questions with me.
Don't call the psych people to "handle" me -- I can do that myself.



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22 Mar 2008, 12:52 am

Don't scold me.
Don't tell me off.
Don't shame me.
Don't compare me to other people who are better than me or have better behavior or control of their emotions or whatver. I mean, you can tell me a story aboutr someone with a really amazing attitude, but not in a preachy way.
Don't try to talk sense into me if my problem is siply understimulation or something you don't know about so you couldn't possibly have anything to tell me.
Don't threaten me.
Don't suggest behavioral anything.
Don't get angry at me (you can get angry, just not at me or what I'm "doing to myself").
Don't do any of the above and then continue to do it after I tell you to stop.
Don't do any of the above and promise not to do it again, but do it again.
If you do one of the above two things say why, what your problem is, or that you have a problem but yu can't explain it. Then I won't get mad at you but it's still up to me whether I believe you.



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22 Mar 2008, 9:01 pm

DO NOT hug me during a meltdown! I don't like being touched when I'm upset.



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22 Mar 2008, 9:22 pm

DO NOT EYEBALL AND CONDESCEND ME, AT THE SAME TIME!


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25 Mar 2008, 1:27 am

Ana54 wrote:
Don't scold me.
Don't tell me off.
Don't shame me.
Don't compare me to other people who are better than me or have better behavior or control of their emotions or whatver. I mean, you can tell me a story aboutr someone with a really amazing attitude, but not in a preachy way.
Don't try to talk sense into me if my problem is siply understimulation or something you don't know about so you couldn't possibly have anything to tell me.
Don't threaten me.
Don't suggest behavioral anything.
Don't get angry at me (you can get angry, just not at me or what I'm "doing to myself").
Don't do any of the above and then continue to do it after I tell you to stop.
Don't do any of the above and promise not to do it again, but do it again.
If you do one of the above two things say why, what your problem is, or that you have a problem but yu can't explain it. Then I won't get mad at you but it's still up to me whether I believe you.


What they said

Also don't yell in a whiny voice because it just frustrates me