Beyond Normal Disfunctional

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Every family seem disfunctional if you know enough about them. Is this odd enough that I should say something or just avoid the whole thing?

My daughter, who is living with her dad, had some teeth cut out. Complication: she choked during the proceedure, under anistesia. A tooth disappeared. She needed an xray to confirm it was not in her lung.

Leaving the ER, knowing the tooth was safely in her stomach and my daughter and her dad were going back to the doctor's office, my mom insists that she must follow her granddaughter. I said ok and headed back to work. Little did I know....

My teen son and his friend who were with Mom, told me later that she drove 85 mph and jumped curbs, iall through town! She told me that my ex had lost her on purpose and she had gotten so upset that she had to pull over...she was so upset that she was about to loose it and start bawling. Sounds like she lost it before that.

She "looses it" over stuff that just isn't that big a deal all the time. I love her but she brings so much drama and complications that I just don't like being around her. I've moved 3 hours away and dislike going back to visit. I only go on work assignment, now.

This wasn't the first. Last time was margarits, a tazor, a gun, and police. She was upset by something else typical my ex had done and picked up a gun case, "I'm sick of this. I'm going to put an end to this once and for all." I tried to take her keys. She bit my thumb and wouldn't let go. ....and it was down hill from there.... I could onlyl assume what the comment meant. I don't wish anyone dead or in prison.

She needs drugs. I'm frustrated. Not qualified to be the voice of reason for anyone. Please don't let me end up like her. Being an only sux....missery loves company.

*sigh

guess i just wanted to vent. not like i ever have anything interesting enough to reply to.

too long winded. sorry.

There's nothing wrong with what you said, imok2... I wish I had something constructive to say for you...

Perhaps you need to get away from them? Do you have any friends to stay with? Any place you know you can sleep? Are you a minor? If so if it bothers you you can ask Social Services to place you with someone else, not in the dysfunctional family. If you aren't, you can move out and if you're moved out, you don't have to answer the door to any of them, there's no shame in it; just don't let them bother you.


If you want to help THEM... hmm, I think maybe 1 or 2 of them need antidepressants. I say this a lot but I think a lot of people benefit from antidepressants or could if they were on them. And if they had someone to talk to who would listen and understand their point of view and not talk to them if they didn't want it, just listen and not take sides and do anything, just to empathize with them and be nonjudgemental.