I'm feeling very vulnerable, right now.

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30 Mar 2008, 12:00 pm

One of my best friends are going to Maui in a couple of days. He's going to be gone, for four weeks. Meanwhile, my Aunt is in the hospital, in Intensive Care, dying. I'm afraid that if my Aunt dies, while my friend is away, that I could end up in the Psych ward. What if my nightmare does come true? What can I do, to keep myself from ending up in the nut ward, if my aunt dies, while one of my two best friends, are away on vacation? My most vulnerable weeks of the year, are the weeks that he's out of town.


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30 Mar 2008, 12:09 pm

I'll be praying for you and your aunt! In my life most of the things I've worried about have never come to pass!


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30 Mar 2008, 12:10 pm

Thank you.


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30 Mar 2008, 2:12 pm

You say that one of your best friends is away. How about the other best friend - can you rely a bit more on him/her during this time? Can you ask him/her to be there for you if your Aunt does die and you really need someone? I dont think that this is too much to ask a friend. And hopefully your Aunt will be OK and you wont have to lean on your friend anyway. You shouldnt feel guilty about asking him/her for help if you need it. You can always try and pay it back another time when your friend needs someone to help him/her.



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30 Mar 2008, 2:25 pm

aww.. im sorry to hear about your aunt cockney. maybe this is a good time to buy a new routemaster bus or your favorite dvd :?


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30 Mar 2008, 3:00 pm

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You say that one of your best friends is away. How about the other best friend - can you rely a bit more on him/her during this time? Can you ask him/her to be there for you if your Aunt does die and you really need someone? I dont think that this is too much to ask a friend. And hopefully your Aunt will be OK and you wont have to lean on your friend anyway. You shouldnt feel guilty about asking him/her for help if you need it. You can always try and pay it back another time when your friend needs someone to help him/her.


I could rely more on my other best friend, for those four weeks. I can ask her to be there. I was feeling a little guilty about being needy, and you're right. I shouldn't feel that way. I'll also be getting support from my mum, as well. It's just that four weeks, without the three of us together, seems like a lifetime, right now. I know that I'll get through it. :O)


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30 Mar 2008, 3:02 pm

richardbenson wrote:
aww.. im sorry to hear about your aunt cockney. maybe this is a good time to buy a new routemaster bus or your favorite dvd :?


Buying a new bus would be a good idea. :idea:


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30 Mar 2008, 3:04 pm

sands wrote:
I'll be praying for you and your aunt! In my life most of the things I've worried about have never come to pass!


Thank you for your support. My aunt might even start getting stronger, and she might live for a long time. Four weeks seems like a long time, without the leader of my threesome. I'll get through it, somehow.


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30 Mar 2008, 3:08 pm

CockneyRebel wrote:
Buying a new bus would be a good idea. :idea:
have you ever thought about buying a replica and putting one together? i used to build planes when i was little and loved it omg


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30 Mar 2008, 3:17 pm

Just keep coming in here, we never close :D



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30 Mar 2008, 4:25 pm

Buy a bus AND a favorite DVD. Play with the buses, arrange them in a nice way to make your apartment look nice, have the other friend spend time with you and your aunt at the hospital. :)



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30 Mar 2008, 8:50 pm

I'd like to thank all of you, for helping me out. I know that I can get through it. My friend is leaving for Maui at the same time that my aunt is dying, and it's put me into a bit of a tailspin. The four weeks will go fast, if I keep busy.


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31 Mar 2008, 7:23 am

I'm going to be strong for my friend, when I say goodbye to him, for the last time, today. I want him to know, that I'm happy for him. It's going to be different, not having him around, for the next four weeks. It's the type of change that makes me feel uneasy. I'll be looking at pictures of Maui on the Flikr website. I'll also be giving my other of my two rat mates, a lot of support, while our leader and driver is enjoying his holiday. There will be a time, that my mum and I decide to go to Victoria, BC for a week, after I've been working, for at least two years. Than it will be time for the leader of my threesome to miss me. What can I do at my clubhouse, to ease the feelings of loneliness, that I might be feeling, from time to time? Another thing that I'm going to have to deal with, is the fact that my favourite coffee shop is no longer along the highway, where I live. The name of it was Ethical Addictions, and it was a place, where all the non-conformists used to go and hang out. That was the coffee shop, where they played a lot of Punk music and Oldies. There are other coffee shops and houses, but Ethical Addictions did it, for me. Maybe I'm just being childish, about the fact that my favourite hang-out had been replaced by Mad Dog's, which sells sports equipment, and It brings back memories of the Jocks that I had to deal with, in High School. Like other commercials that cater to people of a certain age group, telling people to be exactly like their teenage peers, Mad Dogs has commercials that tell teens to buy the latest sports wear and to be exactly like their peers, and that if a teen, or young adult isn't dressed in the latest sportswear, than they must be Mentally Challenged. That location had gone from one extreme, to another. At least the message that EA conveyed was that it's okay to be yourself, and that the staff and regulars weren't going to ostracize you, for being different. The best way for me to deal with that, would be to get a job, working at the one, in Aldergrove.

The thing is, that there are a few things that I need to attend to, before I start looking for a job. There are two Pro-Life events that I will be taking part in, with my friend, when he gets back from Maui, that I really want to be a part of. One is the Hike for Life, in a park, somewhere. The other event is the March For Life, that will be taking place in Victoria, BC. Another thing that I want to wait out, is my aunt's passing, and what date her small funeral service will take place. I don't want to start working, just to have to tell a boss that my aunt passed away, and that I need to take time off, on a week day afternoon, to attend her funeral, if I've only been working for a week. That wouldn't look good on my employment record. I have many good and bad things that I need to deal with, before I can start to think about finding a cool job.


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