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11 Apr 2008, 6:27 pm

I say absolutely nothing and they get mad at me.
They yell at me and hit me for no reason.
I get overstimulated by their constant bickering.
No one will leave me alone.
Some try to be nice to me and I feel better, yet my father doesn't understand me and hits me. He said I talk to him in a mean way and tells me to stop. I don't understand this, nor why it would constitute punching me in the stomach. He wants to send me to live with my mother.
I'm having a F&%king meltdown. :cry:



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11 Apr 2008, 6:33 pm

I'm taking this seriously because you sound genuine. If your father is hitting you that's assault, or child abuse depending on how old you are, and where you are. If he wants to send you to live with your mother and she doesn't hit you, maybe you should. if that's not an option, seriously consider calling somebody, i.e law enforcement. Your father can't just hit you.



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11 Apr 2008, 6:56 pm

I think that you should live with your mum, if she's not abusive.


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11 Apr 2008, 6:56 pm

What Daewoodrow said.

This is assault (no matter what your age). It is illegal and IT MUST BE STOPPED. You don't have to put up with it, nor should you. It's against the law.

I spent my youth being bullied and hounded by total as*holes, assaulted, injured -- permanently in some cases, and in ways that screwed me up even more complexly than I already was.

It's taken decades to patch up the damage, and I'm telling you, whatever steps you can take to stop this, you should. Before it gets worse.

Talk to someone. Pick up a phone. There are organizations and groups created exactly for people like you. So, get help.

Now.

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11 Apr 2008, 7:27 pm

My dad used to hit me too, thinking it would 'fix me'. I have a permanent disability because of this.

Do WHATEVER it takes to get out of there. Yell, scream at the top of your lungs. Call the cops. Call friends and have them tell their parents. No one has to suffer thru abuse alone. It doesn't matter what your father says will happen, just tell anyone. And if he's hitting you again, RUN. Go anywhere. Most cities have some sort of safe place programme, you can go to gas stations and such and they will call the cops. Take paper if you are getting so stressed you are non-verbal.

And if your mother accepts you the way you are, then go to her. Tell her whats been going on and maybe she will help. Just don't ever EVER be silent about being abused like that.

Good luck to you honey (hugs)



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11 Apr 2008, 7:50 pm

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11 Apr 2008, 8:43 pm

Microban wrote:
I say absolutely nothing and they get mad at me.
They yell at me and hit me for no reason.
I get overstimulated by their constant bickering.
No one will leave me alone.
Some try to be nice to me and I feel better, yet my father doesn't understand me and hits me. He said I talk to him in a mean way and tells me to stop. I don't understand this, nor why it would constitute punching me in the stomach. He wants to send me to live with my mother.
I'm having a F&%king meltdown. :cry:


I am so sorry - what the others have said is right; you shouldn't have to be abused. I assume you're under age, but you still have rights. Tell someone, or show them, what's happened to you. Do you have a special teacher, neighbor, doctor, even the police? You're just incurring further damage which you do NOT deserve. Please be careful. I hope you can remove yourself from the situation asap - you're in danger.


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11 Apr 2008, 10:26 pm

Microban wrote:
I say absolutely nothing and they get mad at me.
They yell at me and hit me for no reason.
I get overstimulated by their constant bickering.
No one will leave me alone.
Some try to be nice to me and I feel better, yet my father doesn't understand me and hits me. He said I talk to him in a mean way and tells me to stop. I don't understand this, nor why it would constitute punching me in the stomach. He wants to send me to live with my mother.
I'm having a F&%king meltdown. :cry:


Really, what your father is doing is wrong and you don't have to put up with any of that crap. That is illegal, as the other fellow posters said and can really leave a mental scar. I'd say to go live with your mom if she is going to treat you like a mother should, with love <3333.

I know how you feel in the people get mad at you, even though you say nothing thing. People at my school get pissy at me for that as well and say I am always angry. I just appear angry because I feel so scared there that I get overly defensive. People like that are never going to understand because they only want to be right.

P.S. I love your Shikamaru icon =D



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11 Apr 2008, 11:39 pm

you need to get away from your father if this is the way he is going to treat you. seek help from anyone that is available to you- friends, friends parents, school counselor, doctors, grandparents, unkles, aunts, police, cps, your mother, the moderators here, teachers, mentors, etc. some family counseling might help but the bottom line is, you need to get away from the abuse.



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12 Apr 2008, 1:38 am

Sounds like my dad only he didn't go that far with hitting us.

Yes this sounds very messed up. I think you should consider these feedbacks.


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12 Apr 2008, 9:05 am

Is your mother nice to you? Maybe it would be a good idea to live with her if shes nice. One thing is for sure and that is that you can't stay where you are now.
You need to get away from your father. The physical scars might not stay forever but the horrible memories will. I recommend that you pack some things, walk to your local police station and tell them that you are being abused by your father and can't go back home. They will know of people who can help you, such as child protective services.
However, staying with your mother should be a first option if possible.


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12 Apr 2008, 9:54 am

My mom yelled at me a lot when I was 15 but my dad would never lay a hand on me.

My brother and I both had physical discipline, so if we did anything wrong....we knew it was wrong, and never did it again, which I find good. The Canadian criminal code does state that you can discipline your children and there are guildelines to distinguish the difference in discipline and abuse.

But I will tell you one thing though, it was one of the factors that led me to abandon christanity, I never wanted to go to church, mom pushed and pulled us there (Dad only went to keep her happy, he's a religous debater). Everytime I would refused I would be pinched VERY hard and yelled at. I was always taught by dad that religion should be chosen, and I felt forced. Mom had me baptized as a baby and said she is keeping promises to the church, I said to her that she's being selfish which is something Jesus was against.

If the abuse I went through was a part of religion... then I did not want anything to do with it. So in essence.... mom drove me away from something she wanted me to be a part of in the first place.


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