Feeling Lonely, anyone know how to cope with it?

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Did you ever feel lonely because you feel that you are the only one you know that likes your interest or no one can relate to your interests?

Should I travel and search to find people with the same interests as me?

I feel like I want to travel, even from state to state and not wanting to stop until I find friends that I can relate too.

I don't have a car yet but I'm getting my lisence and my own appartment this Summer.

You can do a lot through the internet to find someone with the same interest.

My dad did his dissertation on a subject that only one other person chose, and that person lives in the UK. They met and had a great time. Even NT's sometimes have interests that are rare.

Eric, my G, send me a PM. I love sending and receiving stuff, so send me something and I'll reply.

P.S. jogging does give temporary relief from loneliness.

You are placing too high a value on relief from loneliness. Embrace the solitude. Determine why loneliness affects you so much, and track it down to its source, and examine the pain from every angle. Isolate it. Contain it.

Then set it aside.

Fnord, that's the kind of advice that whooshes right over my head. Examine a feeling, contain it, and set it aside? Sigh. I think perhaps that even if you carefully explained every single step, I still wouldn't get it. I have read several Christian mystics, hoping to understand another aspect of Christianity, and I never, never, never get it. It seems weird to see a field of intellectual activity that millions upon millions of people can engage in and navigate around that is totally opaque to me.

Well, you're not alone in that. That's why religions like Christianity and Atheism exist - to simplify things for people who believe there must be simple answers. I realize that may sound kind of snarky and sarcastic and I really don't mean it that way (though twenty years ago I would have). I just wanted to point out that the term 'Christian Mystic' is an oxymoron.

Okay, that part was snarky and sarcastic, but true nonetheless.

Of course, these remarks refer strictly to Pauline Christianity, as introduced by Saul of Tarsus, who never actually met Jesus but claimed to speak for him. If one takes into account various apocryphal traditions, the true teachings of Jesus may have leaned much more toward the Gnostic than the Nicean censors would have had us believe; which in that case, might indeed be considered a Mystic tradition, but that school of thought is not acknowledged as real Christianity by today's biblical scholars, nor the rank and file clergy.

Oh yes, loneliness. Again, I counsel: be careful what you wish for. Although it speaks to Fnord's remarks to note that there's nothing like a few tragically failed relationships to make you 'embrace' solitude as a welcome alternative.

Yeah, message boards are great, I'm on a bunch of them. Though I would really like to meet people in person around the New England area where I'm at. I often have fantacies of having 2 or 3 friends hanging around a city, making sick and twisted jokes and goofing around without a care in the world. My goal is that one of these days. But I still need to figure out where to go, how to do it? My old theoripist told me to start a club and put it into the newspaper. That could be a possibility.

Would you rather read something like, "Just deal with it"?

oh wooow, I dream about that too!! !! !! !! !! !! To have some local friends who you can goofing around with in the city and just be the true crazy yourself....I have tried to meet some people locally during the years even aspies but it hasnt worked at all. I just ended up feeling very uncomfortable. I guess I never found the right people or Im just better off on internet....

I don't know where in New England you are, but if you're in the Boston area I think there's a post somewhere (maybe in the Getting to know each other forum?) about an Aspie gathering there really soon.

Fnord, point to you. It's just advice I can't follow because of my own defects.
Willard, you always give me something to laugh about. I enjoy your posts.

Forming a club sounds like a good idea, however I can think of a much easier way to meet fellow aspies without doing all the work of forming a club. Find out when and where the nearest science-fiction convention is and buy a membership. You will find all sorts of aspies interested in science advances, movies, tai chi, history, costuming etc. Some of the conventions are listed in the back of Analog magazine.

I feel like I have the spirit of someone elses within me and I want to meet the person.
I'm kind of a Sissy Boy LOL very emotionally sensitive and at times not emotionally stable. MY Humor is extremely Rough, offensive, Wild, Crazy, Cartoon Violence sense. I'm a Satirist but it's SO HARD to deal with Critisism and Complaints. You go say what you find funny and have fun one moment, the next people are writting to you saying "HOW DARE YOU! SHAME ON YOU FOR HAVING A SENSE OF HUMOR!" persay.


I wish for back up. An Army of Humorists who don't care about peoples feelings like me, they just care about what's funny and having wild and crazy fun and that's it.



Plus I love Masculine Androgyne Tomboys, they are much stronger than I am, and well.......I feel like I need love more than ever.

awww ::hug:: I understand the loneliness issue and that wanting a couple people in the area to hang out with. I wish you were near by because you sound like someone I would love to hang out with. Same humor and similar views in the type of people we like.

Really? Cool. Yeah, I feel like I want my driver's lisence so I can spend days and days searching for my people and maybe someone to date. I'm in the mode right now like I want to keep questioning "Where are my people, do they exist, how come I can't find them."

Same kind of childhood memories fill my head, I would cry after a friend in my childhood had to leave and go home.

I feel that I need to start thinking more and more about my future, my culture, my social life more as I get closer to moving on my own this fall. I just want to travel and find people who can relate to my interests, my Androgyne gender, etc. But I don't know what to do. I wouldn't be getting my lisence until early summer. I feel emotionally stuck in my life right now. Stuck in one place if you will, still feeling that nobody knows who I really am. I feel that I need to pretend someone that I love but not who I am. I'm nothing more but mimicing the care-free personality that I love but not who I am. I'm just this emotionally unstable sissy. SIGH! My self-confidence is very very low. Until I meet people to inspire my self-confidence even more, I'll just continue being surrounded by uninterested idiots.

I'm starting to feel kind of lonely right now. I feel that I'm trapped in a pattern of people and places in which don't relate to me. I really would like to meet people with my kind of sense of humor and artistic skill and also people who identify as Androgyne like me. Someone to relate to in this world. I know that I'm going to Rhode Island for the weekend with my mother and best friend, but I often wonder where are my people. My Best Friend is great but there are times where our interests are totally different. But yeah, I often look outside of the car door and see the suburban houses and I question to myself, Is there a handsome Tomboy for me there? Someone for me to date? A Friend to goof around with? Is there people who are carefree and just laughing at the world all the time and having fun, eating out and such?
I've been having a hard couple of weeks so far, trying to think of the future of my artwork. I would love to meet satirists and team up but it's rare to find now a days. Southeastern Connecticut basicly SUCKS! Barely any Art Culture Aspect. Providence Rhode Island however is a better chance at the underground cult. Unfortunatly my mother is afriad of going to cities and afriad going to Gender meetings that I yern to go to. I don't know why, she's kind of fussy when it comes to places I want to go, esspecially when I'm 21 and tell her that I'm an adult and such. LOL She always calls me her handsome boy which I hate, I told her 'I'm Androgyne! Not a Man!" but anyways............sorry............I'm getting off tract. But yeah, it's like Where Is Everybody? You Know? Where's my people, where's my culture, where's my gang of goofballs, where's my Tomboy life parter? EVERYTHING THAT I CAN RELATE TO, Where the hell is it? You know what I'm getting at?