Should I run away or move out? Mom is getting on my nerves!

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Sunday, my mom and I were at it again, she was mad because I put my dark skirt into the bright clothes by accident. She goes overboard and allows my sister to torment me about it, so i am irritated and tell my friend about it over the phone, she hears me and just takes my phone away from me because she says i'm being repetitive...... later on that night, according to her, i didn;t do my chore correctly. As she was showing me what i did wrong, I am frustrated becasue she was constantly yelling. she should not take her frustrations out on me. I finally "try to see what the hell she is pointing at", I never did see what she said was dirty, so i apparently scrubbed with an "attitude". She grabs her strap and wants to spank me with it. This is the second time she's smacked me since i turned 18, i was so upset I banged my head on the walls and counters,i punched myself on the head, didn't feel a thing- i was driven so crazy having got another smacking at 18; i went outside and broke her garden materials, and threw them in the woods. I even contemplatind stealing the car ( this was 11pm) I went back inside and started packing my belongings, she had no clue what i was doing. i tried to tell her that waht she did was hurtful to me, she didn't give a damn. i'm not going give a damn when i see her crying eyes after running away.... the next two days my sister was getting aggravated at me repeating the same story so she told mom, mom told me that i counldn't go to prom. Then she was mad because i told all of HER friends about when she smacked me in January, they all thought it was ridiculous, so i told them just to see her embarrased, but she found it amusing.

I wouldn't run away/move, mainly because you don't have anywhere to go. Just keep telling yourself that you're almost old enough to move out anyway and try not to respond in a big way to anything (try to ignore it).

Well....aren't the two choices basically the same? But, I'm sorry. I think it's safe to say that I know how you feel. I was kicked out a few days ago...over dishes. Parents often over react to things. I hope everything works out for you. If you don't leave...then hopefully you 3 can come to some sort of...reconsiliation(if that is in fact a word). Sorry you have to miss prom. Maybe she'll change her mind? Oh, and if it's any consalation I am 17 and my mother hits me all the time.

When you do move out you could theoretically sue her for child abuse
I wouldn't suggest it would make her abuse you more / make reconciliation impossible / make family gatherings awkward.
I'm sorry for your problems one more reason for me to be grateful I have a loving understanding family

Hang in there, finish school, then make sure you have something to fall back on. You don't want to have to come back in a month destitute and at their whims.

I'm temped to say something that would be considered offensive by some here. But I'll say it nicer. You mom is eeevvvillll.

But now that I got that through. Can you move in with friends (you were talking to one). Can you go with a grandparent or aunt for a while?

And I'm not sure about this and others may thing otherwise. And it if really degenerates, just walk away. run away for a day or so and walk through the neighborhood, explore, etc.I always wanted to do that. now that I'm graduating and (hopefully) going to college I won't have to deal with my mon's crap (decreased significantly it has!) soon.

wait a second, she took YOUR phone away. You're 18. I don't know how it is in New Zealand, but that's technically stealing. No matter if you're an Aspie or not, you should really tell someone if she hits you. You're 18. Thats assault now (or is it? Is 18 the legal age in New Zealand?).

Does your mom even care that you have AS or is it now just a reason for her to justify her treatment to you. I wouldn't break her garden things, it might seem gratifying when you're doing it and shortly after, but it has no long term reward.

You need to talk to your mother to treat you equally. Parents sometimes assume people on the autism spectrum have no feelings.

I know how you feel. Don't make any rash decisions, but rather concentrate your energy on moving forward. If you want to go to college after school, start planning it now, and applying for student loans. If not, then concentrate on finding a job. If you can work part-time now, then go for it. Start saving money so you can move away from her and begin your life.

Allowing your sister to tormetn you was not kosher, nor was taking the phone away to spare herself some embarrassment and calling you repetitive in front of your friend. Nor was any of the other stuff she did.


You need to tell her that and if she won't listen, leave and see what she does then. There ARE places to go. You can get temporary welfare. They HAVE to give it to you. Don't let anyone tell you you can't move out or that you have nowhere to go. You don't have to put up with that s**t. Just keep turning up at the Welfare office telling them your situation, or that your parents kicked you out, or that you have no parents or something.

If you're that close to moving out, wait and do so. But plan carefully and be sure you've got a job first. That way you won't have to move back in.

Life is rough. Money helps a lot.

luck.
btdt

My advice to you is to finish school, get a job, save some money, look for a room/flat and move out of home.

Your mother has NO right to hit you. That is abuse and she could legally be punished for it. There IS a anti-spanking law in NZ now. Needless to say, that breaking her garden materials wasn't a good choice of yours...so I suggest that next time you get mad, find a way to release anger without harming anything/anyone.
Your 18 and legally an adult. You can move out without her consent so if your mother tries to stop you [thats if you decide to do so, anyway], she is breaking the law.

Anyway, I hope things improve with you soon.

Who are you, anyway?

wow alex. this all has me very confused. you give this poor, desperate girl bad advice saying "try to ignore it" meanwhile your minion, mr. tree, is reporting her (not her parents) to the FBI and local police for child abuse against her sister. i thought this place was for autism support. what gives? should she just ignore the fact that she now has a FBI record for child abuse in addition to her family problems? what happened to "For those times when you're feeling blue and need to get a little help from your friends." ? maybe we should call it "for those times when you're feeling blue and need a FBI record to add to your existing problems."

It's a bad situation. She's certainly not in a healthy environment, but I've seen nothing from her posts that tell me she's emotionally ready to live on her own.

She needs to seek outside help of some sort.

I think both the mom and this user should be reported, as they're both abusing.
At least the mom for goodness sakes!