Guys I feel alone in this, I need reassurance!

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I feel like i'm the only 18-year old adult getting a smack. Its ridiculous. My mom never wants to discuss it, its like she doesn't care if it all burns up inside me and makes me do something crazy. Her favorite saying is "let it go, its all bridged under the water". She doesnt care how much it hurts me, she just wants to take her frustrations out on me. That night she tried to choke me, I was hoping she would. I wanted to die after being the only 18-year old getting a whipping. She was probably hoping the same thing. Can someone please explain why adults take sadistic pleasure in making their children miserable. She definently takes that pleaseure. She smacks me and then laughs about it. When the f**k is she going to realise that I'm an adult too! Gotdammit. Can someone please offer me a place of refuge.

Why exactly is your mum doing this? To me it sounds like abuse, because she says, "Let it go,"; to me, that's basically saying that she can hit you and that is okay. It's not!
Maybe there's some sort of problem in her own life that is causing this. Perhaps she was treated the same way as a child, but that's no excuse.

Perhaps you should call the police for assault, or if it really gets on your nerves, maybe hit her back (okay, so maybe that's not the most moral thing to do).

Why don't you tell someone who you trust, apart from your mother?

Your mom is an idiot with serious anger-management issues. The fact that she says "let it go" instead of apologizing is especially worrying; even most abusive husbands apologize after hitting their wives. Do you have any relatives or close friends you could move in with?
If it makes you feel slightly better, my mom also still hit me as an adult, which of course is demeaning as well as pointless. But trying to choke you is much worse than just hitting you. You could theoretically charge her with attempted murder for that. You need to get away from her, if there is no-one you can trust, then go to a counsellor at your school.

Zee is right, your mother needs to be reported or at least you need to get away from her. Try to get one of your friends to take you in.

You are 18 years old so services that protect children from abuse will no longer protect you. That comes with "aging" out of the
social services system.

If you really want to "get out of the house," then it is up to your therapist or other treatment provider to remove you from the
house. It may involve going into a psychiatric hospital for a short while...psychiatric facilities are "home" to many people that
have no where else to go. Once you are admitted to a psychiatric hospital, the staff will maintain your emotional stability and
find a placement in the community where you can live...whether in a community residence, supportive apartment, a boarding
home, whatever is available in your area. Bear in mind, you may be in the psychiatric hospital for awhile as there are many
others awaiting placements for community housing also. However, at least you will have all your needs met...food, shelter,
medication, therapy, socialization with others like yourself and greatest of all, peace of mind.

Good luck!

BTW, I hope you don't think for one second that your behaviour is at fault. This is your mom who has the problem, not you.

Do you have any money saved up? Maybe you could stay at a hostel or shared accomodation, if you have no-one else. I think also that child services should be able to advise you on where to go, despite your age.

I had a "best friend" like this (except it was emotional rather than physical abuse), though I imagine that the feeling is multiplied due to the fact that it is your mother. I do believe something needs to be done about your mother though. I recommend calling the police and hoping she gets some jail time. I guess fighting back works too, but then you can't really call in assault charges, and physical wounds go away faster than a criminal record.

At the very least you need to get away from her. I guess there is no "happy ending" to the situation, however I do hope that things work out as much in your favor as they possibly can.

you could get her for assault if you really wanted to

Shoot her and eat her

On a serious note, Get away from that place. Anywhere is better than that place you describe as your home. Your mother either dos'nt care about you, or she has a Really weird way of showing you that she cares. Get outta there, and get out fast. Also, if the violence is real grim, go have a tlak with the nice police officer.

I think that you should get out, as soon as possible. Your mother hates you. I've seen mothers being abusive towards their disabled children on TV, and in the malls and on the streets. The motivation behind their actions is that they hate their kids, for not being the perfect trophy children, that they've been set on raising and moulding and showing off. I saw a mother hitting her daughter with the leather lead of her dog's leash. I've thought of you, as it happened, and I was begging her not to beat her daughter, anymore. I wish, that I would have gone into the police station, at the corner. I was having a meltdown, so I didn't think to do that. I feel very guilty about that, and I can't sleep, because of it. It seemed to me, that the child was HFA, or AS, and her mother couldn't be bothered with her, anymore. The child said to her mother, "Why did you hit me? I needed your love. I love you, but I don't like you." She was also in distress, because she was going on, about a comfort object that she lost, and wanting to go back to her friends house, to look for it. The mother told the girl that it was unfortunate that she lost it, and that they needed to go straight, home. I didn't think to get a cop involved, and I feel like scum, because of it.

ummmmmm... assault?

I hope things improve with you soon!

They have a license for everything else. Why not have parenting licenses, as well?