Help with self harming?

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I punch myself, I scratch myself, and I bite myself.
I want to stop in a way, but I don't want to stop either...

I was using candles last night in my bedroom and i burnt myself with the flame , I didn't mean to . But then when the pain was going away i felt a since of relief , like it was a way of crying without crying. (my parents don't like when i cry , It makes my dad very angry.) So I put my hand back into the flame , again with the pain , then it subsided.I went to do it a third time and i though about my boyfriend and how he wouldn't want me hurting my self . Its my family that make me feel this way. I want to do it again just thinking about it and that scares me. I don't want to be one of those people who cuts and stuff. I just have so much pain and no escape from it.

I love burning my fingertips too, though I'll light my incense first, then blow out the majority of the flame, then touch my skin so the burns aren't obvious.

I don't want to though because i know its wrong , and i know if i do it again ill want to do it again and again. I don't want to get trapped in that cycle I'll never get out. I just have to promise my self ill never do it again. And i have to stay away from my candles.

At least for me, self harm was a way of expressing emotion that I didn't know how to express otherwise. Try to find another outlet in your life...for me, music and art works well.

hmm well the best way of dealing with self harm is finding something else to replace the behaviour with. Next time you feel like hurting yourself do something else instead. You could try having a stick of gum or writing about about how you're feeling. And also, drawing on your body with markers or pens seems to help. I know it sounds weird, but it really does make a difference.

Hope this helps you!

-AJ

I used to do similar things, except i used the point of a compas, thats drawing compass.

anyhow i find, finding other things to do, puts your mind at ease from it.

I play video games and such when i feel stressed, then i dont feel like hurting myself anymore.

I use to burn myself with cigarettes, and would punch myself in the head, I even banged my head with an aluminum frying pan, and totally ruined a great pancake pan, and gave myself a concussion, My meltdowns are not nearly as bad now, but I do like to destroy my keyboards once in awhile, so if I am not posting for a day, then you'll know what happened

It depends on why you're self-harming. I'm going to guess that you're self-harming due to issues related to family and maybe a bit of self-loathing and depression.

Self-harm produces a chemical reaction almost like euphoria for a lot of people; they feel an almost physical sense of relief.

Other people do it because they feel like they should look like they feel on the inside; often it's a cry for help.

It can also be a stim for some people.

1. Find other outlets to relieve stress. Running or other forms of cardio are good for this.
2. Try to find someone to confide; you're looking for a therapist which is a very good step
3. If it's a stim... well... I don't really know. For me it's hard to choose an alternate stim when I really want to stim a particular way.

I would sort of feel like release of pressure, but it was only momentary, I would end up braking bones, in my hands, from punching walls, sometimes the concrete walls in the basement, I broke my hand back in November, I just can't be doing that anymore

I've learned there is absolutely no cure for self harming. None.

Being a ridiculous self-harmer like myself, there really is no way to stop.

They try to put me on some BS, saying I should *brush* my wrists so to speak. It does nothing. All I want to do is slice them, watch myself bleed, and hell I love it. I want to go deeper everytime, watch my whole arm turn red and go numb.

The best way to stop it is to quit while you're just starting before you get into something more extreme.

...I cut myself once, and only once.

I wanted to feel pain, like I was feeling it on the inside. I used a saw built into my swiss army knife because we practically have nothing sharp in my house.

It hurt terribly, it kept caking over with yellowish film, and I was always worrried that it would get infected. Not what I had planned.

I vowed never to cut myself again for other reasons than myself, though.

One is I never want to relapse. If I relapse, then I know I'll never stop. And I want to stop because... there's someone who... I never wanted him to see me like this. So helpless. So painful inside. I just don't want him to be concerned about me. So, why give him something to be concerned about?

I just hope this salmon-colored peice of skin scars. That way, I'll always remeber not to do it again.

If you truly don't want to stop, then I can't stop you. But... isn't there someone who wouldn't want you to feel this way? Could you stop for them?

I am gonna make a promise to everyone here that i will never hurt myself again.

I respect and love myself , I know why I did it .I was mad at myself for not getting away from my abusive family. But i know i cant leave due to my circumstances. And when i get the courage to tell the disability office what is going on I will get out of here.
I must remember it is not my fault that i am in this situation. I did not chose to be born in this family, and when I am strong enough mentally, emotionally and physically I will leave here.

I am doing the best i can in my unfortunate situation.

ebec11 I hope you can get through your situation , I wish you the very best of luck!

We have similar difficulty's and I will be praying for you to get through your situation as I am praying to get through mine.

It is NOT our fault and we just have to remember that.