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I have made a serious error of judgement in part due to my AS I had a falling out with a friend a few years ago. I met a new friend a few months back and a week ago suggested she as a good way to "get back" at E to piss her off was to post a notice on an online bulletin board asking for men to talk dirty with her leaving her phone number. I unfortunately without thinking of the consequences did this. I thought it might annoy her thats all. I thought she would get a couple of phone calls, be annoyed or maybe laugh tell them to f**k off and that would be it. However she has emailled me saying that she has called the police (she doesn't know it was me is only guessing) and I haven't admitted it I never meant any harm to come to her just annoy her it was an immature prank gone wrong.

I am annoyed with my "friend" as she knows I have AS and the fact we don't put the consequences and actions together and yet she suggested such a stupid thing. I admit I did it and it was stupid but I never expected it to get out of hand like this. I am particularly pissed off with the girl who the prank was played on as she and her mother are well aware of AS and what it is about, her mum works in the area and it was her who suggested AS to me five years ago when we were still friends. She simply could have sent me an email/myspace message and said I don't know if it was you if it was it wasn't funny don't do it again. Even threatening to call the cops and claiming federal laws had been broken is OTT weather she did or not only time will tell it has been a week now though so it is looking better for me. Do people think she has really called the cops or is she just threatening? how should I handle the situation from here?

I don't think you can hide behind AS on this one. You knew that you were pulling a prank to be hurtful to someone.

Your friend has a right to be angry. Frankly, the fact that you've turned this around and made yourself the victim disturbs me more than the prank itself.

1. Friendships end over stupid things all the time.
2. Getting back at your friend years later is wrong. Period. If she's not bothering you, leave her in peace.
3. She doesn't even know for sure that it's you. All she knows is that someone out there is giving disgusting men her phone number.
4. Of course she called the cops. A mysterious person is harrassing her, potentially putting her in DANGER. Getting a dozen calls like that would freak anyone out.

Look, I don't want to just smack you around here in the Haven. There seems to be some serious theory of mind/empathy issues you need to deal with.

For now, sit back and pray that this blows over. Do not be angry with your friend, as she's the victim of a prank gone wrong. Her reactions are normal and correct. When enough time has passed find some help in understanding other people's emotions.

Asperger syndrome comes not only with its own characteristics (Box 1Go), but also with a wide variety of comorbid conditions such as depression, anxiety, obsessive–compulsive disorder, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and alcoholism, and relationship difficulties (including family/marital problems) (Tantam, 2003). It may predispose individuals to commit offences and can affect their mental capacity and level of responsibility

No. I'm suggesting that you work with your psychologist so that you don't receive a prison sentence in the future.