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I am 28 and as a i said in a previous post (refer to shaken after car accident also in the Haven) I had a car accident as a resut of taking my mum's car out a couple of weeks ago. I totally accept my part in it but I feel very strongly that my adult mistake I should have been left to handle as an adult has been unfairly taken out of my hands and my control. It was not Angela's (my steo-brother's mum) business to tell my parents in the first place I wanted to do that when I thought the time was right as they were and obviously still are Overseas and I never asked her to contact them. no one got hurt and I am 28.

I sent the other party involved some stuff on AS because Joe (step brother) said when he spoke to them that they thought I was "autistic" or "ret*d" or a "nutter" and both Joe and to a much greater extent Greg (my boss) thought sending them stuff on Asperger's and explaining what happened in the car prior to the collision would bebunk this and give them an understanding of me in general and my behaviour on the night of the accident (I had a meltdown). If it backfired I cannot help it I still think that education is important to stop ignorance and in 99% of cases it does. I have no idea why they have called Angela and not me and that is adding to my frustration. I feel like people are belittling me.

It seems to me that they may have decided to communicate with Angela because you did notify them about your AS. Catster2, before I started thinking that I had AS I knew very little about it. I'm sure that I know a lot less than many members here. We all make our own decisions about who to mention the Autistic spectrum to. My own choice is to not discuss it with anyone but I think part of that is a generational difference. Auto Insurance claims are a pain in the ass no matter who is at fault and its normal for your nerves to be jangled for a while after a crash. This will work out fine, but it will be a nuisance until it goes through the negotiations process. It's easier said than done, but try to relax while the situation works itself out.

You're right that getting the public better informed is much better than having them make up their own theories as to what AS and the rest of the spectrum is. How is your bullying research going?

I responded to a request for information about jobs that work for Aspies in another thread. Don't know if she'll want my story or not. So this site now has at least two books being written to help Aspie/Autie function better. That should work out good. As far as the old couple goes maybe another try will work things out. Good luck on that.