Internet forum not a good remedy for loneliness and boredom.

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I keep having this craving to have deep discussion with people in real life but it just doesn’t happen ever. People everywhere are all so shallow and boring to me. Everything is small talk and meaningless BS everywhere I go. At one time I thought maybe this place would be a cure but it isn’t really.

I feel like I can’t ever get into a discussion because I try to write down too many ideas in a single post and then people don’t have the patience to read what I attempt to say. My stuff just ends up getting ignored. I’ve gotten bored with this place. At first when I came here it seemed there were a lot of interesting people but it doesn’t seem that way so much anymore. The same topics keep appearing over and over again.

Now I don’t even know what I’m trying to say here. Maybe it’s just depression. My brain feels so scattered and whacked out.

Does anyone else here feel this way?

I do.

tdgkf, you joined 2 days ago, I'm not certain how you could be bored already!

Anyway, I feel like that too but it is somewhat on-again, off-again.

I have a sort of mental block that keeps me from talking about topics that are actually interesting to me and, in fact, usually saying what I actually mean a lot of the time (it's like th meaning falls away from words, like meat off a bone...). I *infer* things instead of asking questions or bringing up topics. Which means I have to rely on other people to "feed" me topics. I think if I could solve this issue, I would be happier than I have ever been.

It's just that I still feel different from everyone else, and that makes me even more uncomfortable.

I'll answer your other post; lets keep Marshall's post about Marshall's topic.

Marshall, you are not alone. I feel like the Invisible Woman wherever I go, not just here.

I'm bored sometimes, but WrongPlanet is one of the best bets on the Internet, at least for me.

Sometimes I join a mainstream forum linked to one of my interests and a pattern develops where I just want to share some insight about an interest which has deepened over many years but as I join in with posts I realise that my insight is just too intense. I tend to quietly slip away or else explain that I'm finding it all too much. The cycle of hopeful arrival and galloping intensity repeats in mainstream non-A-S forums. Asperger's Syndrome forums are my only secure outpost on the web.

My sister said that the way I throw myself fully into the mainstream forum experience is too much for them because they live their lives as fragments and they don't invest too much time or energy in anything. (A-S being the full-time whole identity sort of experience...thing...life ).

Its sort of an incideious addiction getting hooked on these forums

I just feel more comfortable here cause theres a lot of people I can relate to.. Maybe you can talk to some people in particular who have the same interests and it will keep you busy for a good long time; )

Hmm. I think I know exactly what you’re talking about.

Not just on the internet but in real life situations. Often I feel like I have to hold myself back around people. People don’t like to get too deep into any particular subject in a normal conversation. I constantly feel like I have to dumb myself down in order not to feel awkward. I also feel weird if I try to change the subject to something that interests me more. So much so that I hardly bother to say anything at all. It makes me so sad and empty. I’m forced to keep all my thoughts and ideas to myself.

I also can not comprehend how people fragment their lives so easily. When I try to live my life like a typical NT I become depressed. I don’t understand how people can have such boring lives without becoming completely depressed. Everyone has to fill their lives with a million different activities. Their activities all bore me mostly. People are all so busy all the time. No time to ever just think about things. I don’t understand it and it hurts.

marshall, you're one of my favorite posters on WP. I may not respond to them often, but I always read your posts with a lot of interest. We think very similarly. And both of your posts so far on this thread, I could've written the same, word by word.

It was very hard for me to get into the habit of stopping myself before saying something deep. People hate it. Nowadays it's a lot easier because I've gotten used to it. But even so, sometimes when I think I'm succeeding at being shallow, I'm accused of being too deep.

A brain, coupled with a life of adversity, cause one to become wise and deep. I've become very wise and deep relative to most people. Some like that in me, but it alienates them at the same time. They seek me only when they need wise insight into a problem they have, and avoid me the rest of the time.

I've lost many acquaintances for trying to gear the conversation to something meaningful, being desperately bored with what they were talking about. My brain craves stimulation all the time and when conversation is shallow it suffers, almost physical pain. Having coffee with an acquaintance/friend and spending a couple hours hearing shallow stories that are mostly accounts of how great they are and how stupid everyone else is makes me go berserk. Most people don't converse; they just take turns at monologuing about things that the other couldn't care less about.

There's a lot of repetition of topics on WP, because there's a lot of new people all the time, hungry to discuss those topics. I must've posted many threads that veterans were tired of seeing on the boards too. I'm happy when I see a new thread that interests me, which is happening less and less. I get bored of a person at some point, when I've known them and the insight they have to offer and can't learn much from them anymore. Then it's a question of doing interesting things together, rather than conversing. This can't be done on the web, of course, so it gets boring more quickly.

I really hope that you and the other independent thinkers whose posts I enjoy so much on here don't leave. And I always wonder why I was never blessed with meeting someone like you in real life. Maybe it's because people like you and me have to hide, dumb ourselves down in society.

I do.

I post here because my life is extremely boring and I have almost absolutely nothing to do (unless it's ski season) hence the fact that I hadn't posted for 6 months since a while ago...