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I feel as though I have no direction in life. I just got finished with a semester in college but like all of the past semesters, I feel as though I've gotten into a field that's beyond my abilities. But if what I'm in now doesn't work out, then what is left? I'm not cut out for anything else.

Plus, I feel like I have nothing to look forward to in life. There is no one in this pit hole that I live in that I can relate to and I want so badly to leave this God forsaken place. The only friends I've felt like I can trust are all members of this site but not one of them lives near me. I would like to meet them but like all things I want most, it may never happen. It seems like the things I want most in life are things I will never have. I feel like I merely exist and that will be the only thing I'll ever do.

Most people doubt their abilities. If you can graduate, you'll have accomplished a good thing, in that you've demonstrated the ability to complete a complex task. You may not want to continue in this particular field, but you can easily get into a master's program and do something else. Remember to give yourself time after graduation to do nothing and things will sort themselves out. And you will find that what you want to do changes throughout your life. I suspect that you're not over your head at all. You're OK.

Thanks. It's just that anything I get into, I find that it wasn't what I thought it would be. I may just continue with what I'm doing, I haven't decided yet. Or maybe I should take a career aptitude test.

I did do really well in all of my classes this past semester. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Could just be depression. But I still feel like I may never have anything to look forward to in life.

Think about things you want to do and try and achieve them.

I think we only feel good from achieving things, to me it doesn't really matter what you do. I don't have any direction in life, I just plod around doing things I like, it's all pretty meaningless to me.

I had no idea why I did what I did, but it came in very useful later.

I have felt, at times, unsettled. Weirdly, this is when you have a real chance to define yourself. Having no direction means you have choices. For me, I totally lack confidence, which a real deficit. I wish I could be the kind who just feels very self-assured, but I'm not. I suppose you're not either....but still perservere! You can transition, I promise. You do have real talents. For me, I pursue my interests and it works.

Do you have an academic mentor/advisor? I do and this is a good resource. Ask for their input; they do know.

Don't be discouraged Social_Fantom! I know you'll find a way. Plus, your avatar is from my favorite opera.

Thanks guys. I'm not depressed anymore. I get that way whenever I am. But despite that, I still feel there really isn't anything going for me at the moment. I'll just have to hold my head up high I guess.

Social phantom, i feel exactly the same way! Its like looking to the future is just a blank.... I do pretty much nothing with my time now, even tho im at university... Im probably studying the wrong course, but by now its too late to transfer..... things arent going too good, and my grades are dropping... looks like it'll be back to my dead-end town in September, somewhere where i still dont talk to anyone or do much... I have no idea whatsoever what career i want to pursue or even how to find out....i guess i just wanted you to know that you're not alone in this....

Wow we are on the same page only you're in school which is good. You sound like you have a lot of potential in life than what you think. I wish I knew what to say as to what the "purpose" is b/c I'm lost on that myself. You definitely have a purpose however when it comes to your skills and gifts, you just need to hone in on them and realize you are good at something. I think in life when you get out there in the real world, you learn your strengths and weaknesses as you make mistakes as well as improvements. Life can be full of struggles but I think you have a purpose after knowing you on this site. Just hang in there, you got some gifts and shouldn't waste them.

As for people, I know what you mean. I hate it when people just come and go. You have some of us though, like me. So don't feel you're alone in this regard. Only problem is some people are either busy, lose interest, live distances away making it tougher, move out, and so on. Yet there's those few that are willing to be there with you through thick and thin I've personally found in my experience, it's those you should charish. Those are the ones that do give some meaning to life for me.

I'm sure you'll be well, Social_Fantom.
I really don't have a friend. But at my lab I've become friends with one I really like! She's older than me, a post-doctoral researcher and I admire her. She's always been so good to me, very honest and, well, friendly! I am very sad....I just returned to my apt. this evening from her Good-bye gathering with some Univeristy faculty/grad students. She's moving away, out of the country specifically.
The one I was (maybe?) friends with is gone away. At least sometimes she would talk to me (and not just about science).....I know what MissConstrue is saying. I am so shy and must take a long time before anyone knows me. Now no one likes me, or really even knows me. I really like the faculty, etc. But how can I know back? And I'm rather exempt from friends. I will miss her but I tell no one. I cried on the way back to my apt. in my car, in secret.

I am in the same situation as well. Every time I make a decision, I debate for lengthy periods of time over whether or not it was the right decision, and often have guilt trips regardless of whether it was right or not.

I also have no friends, and feel that I don't matter in this world.

I often feel I have no real friends. But I have friendly acquaintances. I feel my circle of acquaintances shrink from time to time and its an effort to maintain it.

For example last night was combined Freemasons meeting. I had looked forward to it but yesterday I would have happily avoided going. I pushed myself to go and am glad I did. There were easy a dozen people I knew who were happy to see me.

I can recommend joining a group to help extend your circle of acquaintances. I am in Freemasons. Anything would be good, like Rotary, photographic society, political parties etc.

Do you have Lions or Apex? http://www.lionsclubs.org.au/ or http://www.apex.org.au/ ) or other volunteer organisation like CFA http://www.cfa.vic.gov.au/about/index.htm or SES http://www.ses.vic.gov.au/ ?

I think they all want/need new members.