Vacation

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After reading MissPickwickian's post, I feel I probably should not even write this. I really feel as though I should take a step back since my concerns are never as big as people who are here. However, at previous urging I will ask you guys for help.

I had a vacation with my parents last month, and we went to Pennsylvania. My mother is always wanting to travel, and plans long road trips for us. She's planned another for the end of next month, and then another for November.

My problem is, I don't like the constant traveling and would like to be by myself for a weekend. However, my parents pathologize my wishes and think its just another part of me being 'sick in the head' as my mother refers to it as.

When she asked me today about the upcoming trip in August, I told her I didn't want to answer. She then asked me what's wrong, and I told her I wasn't really excited. She then got into a argument with me. Now I feel guilty about having been in an argument and feel that I don't deserve to live over the occasion. However, this surely won't bode well - she thinks that the reason I do not want to go is so that I would have free time to kill myself.

I'm also very worried because the last time this happened, it restarted a debate that I don't want to go anywhere but home - that's not true, but rather a carry-over from something I said when I was nearly four years old - or so I am told. I don't remember ever having said that.

I was estatic whenever I could stay home alone. My parents never really understood it, however we ended up having an agreement that I would have to go to a certain amount of things and after that it would be completely my choice. We never had that many vacations, however we always had evenings at the neighbours or my aunts, etc.

I wish you luck with your predicament, sometimes its just nice having a time when you are the only person in the house.

Thank you very much for the vote of confidence. We had a fight about it today but we finally had a plan now that seems to work for all of us - we'll go on the vacation and we have developed a list of places to go to that suit us all.

However, now more than anything I feel guilt over the argument.

If your mother believes you are sick in the head, she is being rotten. She should make accomodations for you if you are sick in the head, and get you help rather than disregarding you. It seems like she doesn't care about you, at least not about a big part of you. Move out. Do what I told Princess 1989 to do in her threads.