I think that a guy I used to talk to killed himself

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I am really starting to think that a guy I used to talk to took his own life.

I met this guy on the internet a few years ago. We got along and ended up becoming 'net-friends'. We continued to talk for over a year. He was lead vocalist in a band from South Dakota. He never seemed to be very depressed until about two and a half years ago. He kept on talking about this girl that he had feelings for who ignored him. He then started to send me these really depressing links to sites where people were trying to prove that life was meaningless. He even stuck these links into his MSN name. Shortly after this, he just disappeared. I just figured that his computer broke or something.

Last night I happened to remember his email address, so I decided to type it up in Google to see if I'd get any results. Well, I was shocked at what I saw. I browsed pages and pages of forums and websites that he was registered to. Most of them said that he last logged on 2 1/2 years ago, the last time I spoke to him.

Even if his computer would have broke on him, I'm quite sure that he would have logged on to at least one of these websites from a friend's house or something. I'm really thinking that he took his own life. The way he was talking, and his sudden disappearance lead me to believe that he must have killed himself.

I'm not really depressed over this, just more shocked. I actually thought that he might have killed himself back when he disappeared, but I let that thought pass quickly.

He was a nice guy, and I hope that he didn't do this to himself, but I really can't think of any other explanation of what happened to him.

Were you able to find out his real name and google that? Or check death records in his area?

It's possible that he just changed his online ID. It's also possible that he was never depressed, but was just a troll. Please don't be offended, I'm just stating possibilities here; I don't know this person after all.

Or maybe he checked himself into a hospital. If you don't know his real name, it's impossible to know for sure what happened.

It sucks when friends disappear off the internet. I have had that happen a lot of times to me.
I don't know if they had blocked me, or changed their screen name, or something bad happened like they went to prison or committed suicide.



(Hope I didn't sound harsh here)

well, there could be other explanations but, sadly, yours is the most likely one. in case of other explanations, like moving to jungle living with savages without internet, i believe he would tell you about it before he left.

i had a good friend at school, after we went our own ways and met only very rarely. meantime he committed suicide and i didn't know about it. i had even sent in an sms wishing him merry christmas when he was already dead. i've got to know about it only much later from someone else. well, it happens.

I'll be honest, I'm not really depressed over this. I pretty much feel the way I would if I would have heard that a person I went to school with died in a car accident. It's still kind of sad and makes me wonder what happened to him though....

I wonder that too with some people who are not online here for a while. I also know of four people in my life who have taken their lives. They did have a really hard hand dealt to them, but still there is so much can be done before suicide. I could never go there myself, because I've resolved so many really difficult and painful issues. I just hope people know that most things can be improved enough to make life worth staying for.

^You're not so clever-get the hell off this site troll.

I swear there was a WondAr Woman there before! I hope there was anyway!

Last edited by -JR on 02 Oct 2008, 6:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.

^Not your choice to make.

Of course it isn't my choice. Choice has been made by someone, thankfully.

i had a good friend 6 years ago named neil... he just vanished out of no where.

pretty sure he was incarcerated, though. but at least he'd be out by now. i hope he didn't do anything stupid.

I have just found out this year that an ex of mine was thinking about killing himself but found God instead.

Oddly I am still wondering if we were both depressed at the same time, but I haven't been able to find out. I was glad he is still alive though.