Fed up with being doubted

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Gosh, let me huddle in a corner and cry. Or scream, I guess I'm more one for rage. I'm so fed up with people doubting I'm AS, thus doubting I'm autistic at all and treating what I say as I have no idea what I am talking about. The getting downright angry at me and trying to disprove and eventually discard what I say. Just because they think the origin of my issues are some other diagnosis than autism.

So it's all good that people have AS, have children with AS or something, but on that basis it's just dumb to proclaim I can't have AS.

And I'm not going to always lie and say I have a diagnosis of an atypical form or PDD-NOS, because my diagnosis is plain AS for my country. So I know they'd probably have diagnosed me with kanner's or, more likely, PDD-NOS especially in the US (or atypical elsewhere), but that not my 'official diagnosis'. If personally asked for me medical diagnosis, I'll of course say AS.

Why am I the only one who this happens to? Why do people not just stop, but doubt me even after a year.

And there people wonder why I freak out at them. There's nothing worse for me than being discarded as 'having no idea anyway', happened too often about the most basic things.

Hey, great, sure I never knew when I was hungry or that I did this work and not another and that I can play an instrument, because of course I have no idea what I am talking about when it's about myself. (I'm being sarcastic, hopefully.)

Why would I ever know something about me when all my life all the strangers knew myself better than me?

Sure, I'm sensitive about being doubted without a proper basis. People just claiming I can't know myself, it happened to me all the time, because people thought I was 'funny' and behaving 'funny'. Too much mess happened in the past every time people said 'No, you're wrong, I know you don't need, want, can do, don't know...'

Which happened because of how my ASD made me appear. People said the meanest stuff about me. And now people doubt that this ever happened too. Obviously to them, I must have picked behaving 'funny' as a child and just acted as if I was autistic.

I feel this world has surrendered to total insanity and I remain to be the only sane. Good thing I know it's not like that, but it sure feels like it.

I'm not meaning to become irrational, but the prospect of having done an accidental dimension jump looks very reasonable right now. Just imagine, you'd never know if it happened to you. Makes more sense to me than the idea that people can have so drastically differing opinions on the same thing. Or person, in my case.

I understand Sora, in fact the main thing that has kept me going was a psychologist in her capacity as an employment rehabilitation worker wrote a letter for me explaining that I present really well and seem like a Neurotypical!

It is really frustrating and it's lucky we have this haven of Wrong Planet to meet fellow Aspies on

I take it that these so-called experts on ASDs gave you a reason why you don't so happen to have Asperger's/some type of verbal Autism, other than saying that you don't look like such and such who so happened to be related to so and so?

IIRC, you're an extroverted individual; for some reason, people don't understand that people with Autism can be social and outgoing, it's just that their lack of social reciprocation will show in a different way than the quiet and introverted person.

hi sora

trust me, you're far from alone. people always act like i don't know what i'm talking about, and then when i was right they forget about it. i assume it's cuz they don't like me - after someone decides you're a piece of cr*p they refuse to see any good in you. black and white thinking. i don't know if you're more well liked than i have been...i sure hope so.

You aren't alone. My mother denies that there is anything wrong with me...which is a laugh. If I tell anyone else they look at me like I've sprouted a second head.

People don't need to know. Just leave it be. I don't tell anyone unless it comes up, and I try not to get defensive if they sound incredulous. I know I have it, and that's all that matters. I am glad that I found out, as it explains so much about me.

It allows me to work around certain issues, and provides me with an understanding to my behaviour.

Don't worry about the people that don't believe you, they are hardly worth it.