I actually find the "Off the Wall" board to be a welcome and playful way to distract me from stress.
I've also started rollerblading lately, which is an incredible stress release. Brain/endorphins/feeling like I've accomplished something.
I have anxiety attacks often. They happen at night usually. The room spins and I can't get thoughts/phrases out of my head. I refuse to go (back) on SSRIs.
I know it sounds bland, or whatever, but exercise, a healthy meal, a glass of wine (not sure how old you are) before bed and then maybe an hour of reading. Reading = escapism = relaxation. Doesn't always do the trick, but it's the best thing I've found.
I've never found the cure for social anxiety. Try to practice your comic timing, get good at looking distracted or focused on something else, try to avoid parties where there's no beer. It's what I do.