I am pathetic at 29 years old

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I have this fantasy where society changes and they put people with skills like programming on more of a pedestal.

If you can write good programs you don't have to pay tax

woo hoo

ive substituted my life for a game show and now its fun all the time. learning to curve the negativety should do the trick

replace your life with self made illisions transfered over reality in realtionme..instead of a bus , thats a dragon that just went by you.

I know what you mean.

The other day I was feeling really good about myself, feeling like I'm finally beginning to learn to look after myself, organize my own things to some extent, and I went to my doctor and mentioned my mum had made an appointment for me with the skin specialist, and my doctor gave me this really condescending and disgusted sort of look, and said something along the lines of - don't you think you're old enough be arranging your appointments yourself instead of getting your mum to do it for you?

Worst part is, she knows about my aspergers, but clearly it still appears to her that I am capable of way more than I bother to do or something. The look she gave me was the worst, it made me feel so inadequate and down about myself for the rest of the day. It also made me doubt myself, even though I feel I've been doing the best I can. I think because I have become so good at acting NT I seem normal to other people, and they think I use AS as an excuse (and they have no idea how much that goes against everything I believe it, and how much it makes me hate and doubt myself when they imply it). My mum still organizes a lot of my things, and I've been trying really hard this year to become as independent as I can.

That was a little unrelated, sorry.

With the job interview I might be able to help you here. I have recently secured a third job for myself (though whether I will be able to cope and hold onto all three jobs - although they are casual with minimal hours - will be the real challenge).

The best thing to do is to ACT NT. Act as NT as you can. Don't be yourself. They don't want that, they want, bright happy motivated NT. Once you get the job, and prove you can do the job well, you're fine. It's good before the interview to try and predict the questions they will ask you, and figure out the best answers that they will want. Practice your NT social mask until it's perfect and withstand under pressure. (I must admit I almost cracked in my recent job interview, but I managed to pull it together and cover myself just in time). If you don't have an NT social mask, I would HIGHLY recommend going about creating one as soon as possible. It is an invaluable tool for modern society - you won't get far without it. I started working on mine when I was in my early teens, because my mum ran a retail business from home and got me to work for her as a sales assistant, where I practiced putting on the sales assistant persona to greet customers. The NT social mask is very similar to the sales assistant persona, and I just ended up integrating the two together.

Throughout the interview, try to smile as much as possible, and exude positive energy. Be as positive as you can about everything. This is the best advice I can give you.

I would never call you pathetic. It's an opinionated term anyway.

I don't live on my own yet, so there's not much I can say on this one...



So have I. You're not alone there.



That can be a virtue! Don't listen to people who just want you to trust them... if you know what I mean... because if they can't back up their claims, they've got no reason to yell at you.



There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

If the laws of nature can do calculus then we should be able to think like computers. It doesn't mean we don't have human needs and emotions.



I had to look for hygiene shortcuts but they're actually pretty efficient.



I know the feeling.



I don't think you should blame anything like that fully on yourself.