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sorry for dumping on this forum all in 1 day.

I get evaluated for Aspergers on Thursday.

I am concerned about how some people in my family will not take me being labeled as "different" in a very constructive manner. They tend to be rather exclusive.

Has anyone been ostracized by family for an AS diagnosis?

No, not really. Though my mother seems to see me as a disabled ret*d.

well they just don't like different people. So I wonder if I am officially labeled as different if they won't talk to me. They do not like homosexuals or I think they do not like "non-white" people. though I have never confirmed this. I would be surprised if they were not racist. So I am afraid of their misconceptions because they do not let go of them.

I tried for weeks to convince my grandmother that Dolly Parton had fake breasts. To no avail.

To be true, if they behave like that, I would stop talking with them and not care the least, what they think about me. Though that's a bit more difficult, if it's your grandmother.

for the most part i avoid them.

I wish you good luck with your family and relatives, I hope they don't look at you after then (in case you get diagnosed with AS) very negatively. The only thing we both can do is hope. Don't let it get to you if they respond in a destructive manner.

If your family have a problem with it then they shouldn't matter and you're best off without them.

I only wish you the best.
I was diagnosed autistic as a small child. To this day, I have never discussed it with my mom.
I was diagnosed by another psychiatrist in my mid-twenties. It was like someone turning on the lights in a pitch black cave, and at the same time having someone punch me in the gut.
Still, I have never told my parents. The level of disfunction in my family makes it pointless. (Keep in mind I don't discuss anything with them anyway.) This may or may not be an option for you. Do they really need to know? Or will it just cause you pain?
I don't know. Just do what you need to do to take care of yourself.
Personally, I'm tired of the shame my family put on me, and have decided to accept who I am even if they don't.

well my father is not speaking to me anyway. and I never talk to my grandparents. But I supposed I could keep it under wraps for awhile.

Yes, definitely, when I was assessed about 18 years ago.


I've been jeered at and called "Special Needs" by my sibling.

I was excluded from activities at school.

I was ostracised in the playground.

I was banned from the library.

Need I go on?


As soon as my statement for AS was removed, people started to like me again even though I hadn't changed as a person at all. When people were unaware of it they made the odd comment, but I didn't get into nearly as much trouble.

My family kept saying that I didn't have AS and that the school was making it up just to be nasty to me. My family accepted me for who I was, but couldn't accept the AS part. I couldn't either for years.

Now I don't know who I really am.

I try to talk to people about AS now and they either ignore me, are completely ignorant or say that I can't possibly know because I'm a girl.

Fantastic...just fantastic *sarcasm*

people in my class alone are acting weird. One girl wrote "While you may find some relief if you can put a name to your inadequacies, the older I get, the more I have learned that millions of people suffer from a sense of inadequacy in some way or another.You will probably meet a million socially successful people who wish they were as smart and capable as you. That's great that you do have a place where you fit it and belong in Math circles"

another wrote "I have never heard of an adult being evaluated for that - considering how successful you are, it must be mild. "

this is all based on the fact that I have a degree in math and all people with a degree in math are successful. Or all people with Asperger's have degrees in math? I am not sure of the logic.

or worse, that I can't have Asperger's because I appear normal or because I am successful and people with Asperger's are not.

both silly reasons