Apparently, im a mistake

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Ok. Now, this is me. I have anxiety attacks every day, people say that im strange, i go to special ed despite being too smart for it, and everyone treats me like i am some sort of deformed freak. A kid went up to me today and said i was a MISTAKE for being born with Aspergers... now im really pissed off with that person, really, really pissed off.

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When someone says something critical or hurtful, you need to learn to say something assertive, in a kind of revearsal...like," how do you know for certain that you weren't the "mistake?" Or "God doesn't make mistakes, only insensitive people, like you do."

Prehaps, you can find a book in your local library that will show you how to be assertive and able to stand up against rude, crude
and insensitive people. The world is full of them...and you need to learn how to survive among such people.

Kid, you have nothing to cry about. I've actually overheard my parents discussing how they would not have even married if it weren't for the fact that they had conceived me. I knew the meaning of the word "Bastard" before I knew how to spell it.

Yeah, a lot of NTs choose to be jerks. It doesn't say anything about you - don't take it personally, it's just some a**hole spouting off his worthless opinion.

In such a situation: look him up and down like something curious you see in the street. some funny animal or whatever. eyebrows slightly raised.
Then without the least comment go back to what you where doing before and show him, that he is not even worth a single word of response.

On the long run this will:
- Make it boring for them to tease you
- Give you a reputation for being cool

There is nothing as cool as being Aspie. You must just make the best out of it.
We don't care what others think, and that's nearly the definition of coolness.

Everyone's a gift and everyone's an accident of biology.

Hence.
Everyone's a mistake.

We can learn from and work around mistakes.

Nuff said...

I'd probably just shout, "DEFINE MISTAKE!" in anger, if nothing else.

I was diagnosed with autism when I was 3. My mom thought it was such a mistake, she didn't bother ever telling me.
As nasty as that kid was, its important to remember that a person who acts like that has very serious problems with their self-esteem. Or, they wouldn't feel the need to put someone down to make themselves feel better.
Be angry, but don't let what they said run your life. They're not worth it.

"Me: I hate humanity
teacher: But you are a human
Me: i dont wanna be"

I don't blame you for feeling this way, I feel that way sometimes too, but what possible positive effect can come from being misanthropic (hating humanity)? You won't gain anything from thinking like that. There are so many good people out there, things just seem bad because destruction is easier than creation.

As for that kid, he's a jerk, plain and simple. Pay him no mind. Having asperger's does not make you a mistake. You are one of a large group of people who think in ways nuerotypicals can't. Many of the great inventors and entrepeneurs were suspected to have aspergers. Don't listen to ignorant nuerotypicals.

Honestly, he's just a poser who can't handle his own insecurities, and he has to try and make someone else look bad. I endured a lot of bullying in middle school, I think it's the mentality. Everyone's scared, they try to get the attention off themselves, on to someone else.

Lots of people back home call me freak... At least they used to when I was 14. Acceptance comes with time. But I understand, how angry you can get. I had to stop carrying a knife at some stage, because I realized I was dangerous to myself and others. (knife is back at the moment, but it took some work to be confident enough)

Just don't attack anyone, it will let people make ''insane person'' out of you. But don't bottle it up either. Invest in boxing sack or something like that. It helps (crying also helps, but isn't a very manly option, I don't mind crying guys though)

Well look at it this way, Im twice the mistake you were:

A) I have Asperger's
B) I was conceived unintentionally by two people who hate each other and felt compelled to remain together in a hurtful household... "for the children"

So am I:

1. I have AS
2. I am really, really, f***ed up

Well, he had a problem and decided to make it yours. And I'm sorry he did. He's screwed up, and lashed out at you, and that's not fair.

But beating him up is not going to help; it'll make things worse. This is the time to talk to someone in your environment, like a parent, or friend. And if the dipwad does it again, stand up for yourself and say that you aren't a mistake and sorry if the bully is having a bad day, but it doesn't mean he has to take it out on you.

It's important to tell someone what's happening because it will help you deal with the anger. It will also be important if things escalate. Teen years are the pits...Do you write in a journal? I find that helps sort out my feelings, too.

You are not deformed, but you are part of a rare breed. There's going to be lots of people who don't understand. They may not want to get it. But anyone who is rude and insulting and tries to make those things negative really isn't worth your time. That's a hard thing to learn, because we want to be accepted, but it's important. You are important, and taking care of yourself is important, and people love you and will want to help if you let them in.

Good luck, Rjaye.

Just think of those people as stupid chimps. There’s this little evolutionary defect that causes them to single out anyone that looks or acts slightly different from the rest. With kids that age the primitive ape instinct hasn’t been culturally conditioned away as much.