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I hurt, I hurt, I hurt, and nothing can make it better.

What's wrong? What hurts?

my heart

every time I see him I only feel closer to him and love him more, i'm not imagining our connection because EVERYONE assumes we're dating, but i don't think he's ever wanted to date me

this has been going on for four years, and every time hurts afresh as the wound is reopened

i have never loved anyone as i love him (even my previous bf)

i hate explaining because words can really explain heart pain

i want to make it go away, but there's no remedy, no bandaid, nothing except this, which is like somebody wailing after they've been cut but it doesn't ease the pain

Thats sad
good luck

thankyou

it will ease after a while, it always does

can't let it take over my life

i have too much to be thankful for

I think you should either tell him you want to start dating or quit hanging out with him so much as a buddy. This isn't working for you if it makes you so miserable. All this pining away is getting you nowhere.

""but i don't think he's ever wanted to date me""

I just noticed this...if you`re not sure if he wants
to or not, then i hope you ask him or something.
Worst case - he dont want to, not much changes
and somehow you`ll have to let it go to be happy,
remember that no matter how wonderful a person
is, theres always others you`ll find just as interesting
once you meet them. Best case - he really likes you
and wants to be with you - worth a gamble maybe

Hi Sunshower. Love can be painful---especially when you feel you are not loved back. But you did mention a very important thing in one of your responses relating to how with time, you will feel better. Always remember that because it is true---"Time does heal."

When I am feeling blue I try to spend some time with my interests. I enjoy working on a novel when I have quiet time. And I enjoy playing solitaire on my computer. This gets my mind off my problems. And things like the novel, or other meaningul projects, let me realize that I have wonderful things to offer. And you have wonderful things to offer too.

I hope everything works out well for you. Don't hesitate to communicate back on how things are going. And I am glad you realize that you have a lot of things to be thankful for---you sound like a very nice person.

Sunshower, please ask him. This kind of emotional hurt can only be resolved through action.

I tried that once, and he told me he loved me like a friend. Sigh. I don't want to go through that again. It's ok, I'm learning to move on now. I have obsessed and been stuck in this rut for too long now.

Thankyou all for your supportive words and advice.

Thats a little sad
but its good to hear you have a firm grip on the situation,
you know what should be done and what you have to do
to be happy later on, that will help you alot to get over it,
you have a realistic view it sounds like and know if you
are obsessing over something to much and thats its bad for
you, thats a good thing i think. Hope you get a very happy
life